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Children learn through play. As your child becomes increasingly interested in more advanced toys, you can make some fun things for him to play with. Not all of his toys need to be store bought. They just need to be safe and stimulating. Your toddler might even be able to help you make something new! Parents and caregivers should play with their children and encorage active learning. When playing, it is best to let him lead the way. After playing for a while your child's way, show him how to something another way. Show him how to combine toys to make playtime more fun. Your child may become aftraid of the dark and may stop playing in his room alone.

Your child is interested in small things. Bugs, pebbles, crumbs and other small items are fun for her. Your child can stoop and stand back up agian. Sometimes your child will drop things just to have you pick them up for her. If you are not careful, this will soon turn into a game that she loves!

Your child can let you know when she wants something and is beginning to increase her vocabulary. He likes to make sounds and might scream to let you know just how powerful his voice can be. He inititates games and will bring you books or toys that he enjoys.

By fourteen months, you will have to limit the amount of television your toddler watches. The television should not be used as a babysitter and the programs she watches should be monitored. Watching the television does not give your toddler a chance to explore and develop muscles.

A child this age is mobile and curious! Take special precautions to prevent poisoning. Everyday items can be poisonous if a child were to consume them. Colognes, cleaners, spices,garden plants, and lots of other items are dangerous. Keeping a clean and clutter free home can help eliminate hazards. Keep the number of the poison control center posted at each phone in case of an emergency.

Discipline can be hard, but it is an important part of parenting. Disciplining your child is important to help them grow into responsible adults. By fourteen months, your child already has developed a close bond with you. He knows that you love him and he trusts you. During the second year of life, toddlers want to please their parents by completing simple instructions. Your child will also begin to mimic your behaviors. Set your rules and stick to them. When your child is misbehaving, pull them aside and remind them of the rules.

Developmental Milestones - 14 Months Old


Physical

• Can walk well
• Climbs stairs with help
• Slides backwards down the stairs
• Can stoop and stand again
• Likes to dance

Intellectual

• Spends a lot of time staring at objects
• Enjoys playing with other people
• Likes putting sounds together
• Learns new words
• Tries hard to be understood

Emotional

• Does not like being alone
• May be afraid of the dark
• May scream to show power

Age Appropriate Toys

• Ride on toys
• Music
• Push toys
• Blocks
• Building materials
• Stacking materials
• Shape sorters
• Simple art supplies
• Balls
• Small climbing structures
• Rocking horse

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kashsmommy - Thursday, 15 Dec
Kathleen...Cole better not even think about kissing anybody besides his Momma for at least the next 13 years!!!

cupcake83 - Thursday, 15 Dec
I have no time to posthave properly, but Kathleen you FOUR cleaning ladies' ??????? hahahahaahah!!!! JEALOUS

kathleen112 - Wednesday, 14 Dec
Oh, and YAY for Keira finally getting a tooth!!! So does that mean no trip to the dentist I hope?? It's so cute that both Keira and Cole have significant others already though I hope their boy/girlfriends are prepared for how fickle they can be at this age. I'm just saying I wouldn't be surprised if they're kissing someone else in th corner next week. :-) Ben loves to flirt with women. I have a cleaning lady (best thing EVER) and she comes with like three other women and Ben was charming them all one by one today. He's such a darn cutie pie, how can they help themselves, really??

kathleen112 - Wednesday, 14 Dec
I agree, I'm not really in the Christmas spirit this year either. The weather by us has frankly been too warm so it doesn't feel like December at all. I still don't even have the one present I'm getting for Ben, poor kid lol. Luckily for me he really won't know the difference if it's not under the tree on Christmas morning. Just got back from visiting my friend's baby in the NICU. She's improving every day and the medical team brought up the D word today--DISCHARGE planning!!! She's just has to be more consistent about feeding by mouth or else my friend and her hubby are going to have to learn how to manage the nasogastric tube for her feedings. Keeping my fingers crossed that she gets better at feeding...today it took her a couple hours to eat 3oz!! But she really is a miracle baby, she most likely would not be here if my friend hadn't followed her gut and gone to the doctor when she did.

hopeful29 - Wednesday, 14 Dec
I drive a van! Love my van! It's great! Not looking forward to Christmas at all this year for some reason. Maybe as it gets closer but who knows. DH and his daughter arrive friday night/sat morning and I'm not sure how I feel about it. I'm looking forward to being on holidays for 3 weeks but with his daughter there we won't get much time alone. That and the whole world has to revolve around her so we always have to tip toe on eggs otherwise she will make the visit miserable. There is so much DH and i have to discuss too and I can't talk about any of it with her cause she will tell her mom everything. I feel very negative lately sorry! Anyways...Keira is finally cutting a tooth! I know crazy!!! I can feel something sharp finally poking through but you can't see the tooth yet. Will get pics as soon as it does!!! Keira woke up at 3 am (aka O'dark stupid) but I think it is from her tooth. She went right back to sleep after I rocked her just took me forever to get back to sleep. Oh she also fell off my lazy boy yesterday right onto her head so she has a big goose egg on her forhead...I forgot to mention this to the daycare lady so she must be wondering what happened lol. I felt so bad poor thing.

kashsmommy - Sunday, 11 Dec
Helloooooo ladies!!! Ok, I think I've caught up lol! ***On the age gap between siblings...it kinda seems like it was only an issue with an older brother and not necessarily an older sibling. My oldest brother is 4 years younger than I am and we are beyond close! Don't get me wrong, we fought like cats and dogs when we were younger, and still do from time to time, but I think we've just been through so much together and when we were young, dealing with our parents divorce, we were all each other had so I think that strengthened our bond. We learned at a very early age that when times get rough we can ALWAYS count on each other! We got into an argument a couple of weeks ago and our arguments are pretty funny to me because they're never really about us lol! When he's stressed like he is now, he's getting married in 5 days, he'll call me and act like I've done something wrong and 10 seconds later he's screaming about everything else that's bothering him! I know it's just him venting so I let him get it out, sometimes I yell back if I feel like he's holding back lol, and the next day it's as if nothing ever happened. We know there isn't anything big enough to keep us apart! ***On the haircut issue...Cole needed one the day he was born lol! I had his hair cut on his birthday...kind of a tradition in my family! His hair is pin straight so there was no hope for any little baby curls! ***Cupcake...I feel like I'm 15 when I call someone my boyfriend too! You could always do what a friend of mine does, she combined the words huband and boyfriend...it was either boyband or husfriend(she chose this)because they're not married but he's much more than a boyfriend lol! ***Other stuff...I'm sure some of you saw on FB that Cole has a girlfriend! Her name is Sophie and she's a redhead! I tried to explain to him that redheads are usually little fireballs and he's not listening so I guess he'll earn on his own lol! My Mom and stepdad seem to be on their way to divorce. My feelings on that are kinda conflicting. He's a prick but he's been a part of my life for a long time so it's hard! Things are well with Brad and I...I just can't wait until he comes home!!! At this point, life is kinda messy. I'm ready for everything to be sorted out and normal again! ***Kathleen...thank you for the kind words! I'm doing what needs to be done for Cole and I and it feels good to hear that I'm some what of an inspiration! Anybody not feeling Christmasy? Bah Humbug!

kathleen112 - Saturday, 10 Dec
Pants? LOL! Pants here are what you guys refer to as trousers...I thought 'pants' is the term for what we call underwear in the US. Probably the term we'd most often substitude for rubbish would be bullshit. Oh, and another term for 'trash' is garbage which I guess you'd sometimes use in a derogatory way. But bullshit is definitely very popular here. You would definitely not find a single American (except maybe for Madonna) who would say rubbish unless they were trying to sound British. :-) I agree that partner sounds very same sex relationshippy though I don't really understand why. Makes perfect sense in your situation. Isn't it pretty common in Europe to have long term relationships with kids but no marriage? I hope that isn't offensive I was just under the impression that marriage is less of a priority overseas (which makes sense because so many marriages fail). I guess my point is, do you know other people in your situation and if so how do they refer to their SOs?? I do like OH for the context of this message board now that I know what it means. I do not know Round and Round the Garden and actually it's funny 'cause my mother in law sings 'Eensy Weensy Spider' instead of Itsy Bitsy and I always thought that was wrong but my MIL insists both are correct...I'll tell her she's right. Well I hope that you are sound asleep by now and that Ollie lets you sleep in a little after cruelly keeping you up past 3...I'll keep my fingers crossed for you hun!

cupcake83 - Saturday, 10 Dec
It is 3 am and I have yet to go to bed. Ol woke up as I was getting ready for bed and was terrible at getting back to sleep. I'm gonna be a moody pants tomo!! 'OH' is 'other half' as in my boyf! I always feel like I'm lying if I say DH cos he's not my husband, but just recently, I've felt a bit silly calling him my boyfriend cos it makes me sound 15! Some ppl think then he's not my kids father! We've been together so long and not married some ppl just assume my girls are not his. I know u guys don't but I'm trying out different terms. Don't really like 'partner' unless I am in a formal setting- even then I think it sounds a bit same sec realtoonship!! Could go ghetto and say 'my baby daddy'??? Lol!! I have been trying to teach Ol Incy Wincy!! He can do Round and Round the Garden.. Do u know that one? I can't believe u guys down say rubbish!! What word do u use instead then in that context? I know u say 'trash' for actual rubbish! You will be hard pressed to find an English person who doesn't say rubbish or 'pants 'in that context!!!

kathleen112 - Saturday, 10 Dec
DAMMIT!!! Lol! Ok, Cupcake, you've won this battle...enjoy your victory for now but I WILL be back!!!! Bwahahahahahaha!!!!!!

kathleen112 - Saturday, 10 Dec
Damn you cupcake!! Not sure I can compete with that lol. As I said it's not a competition...unless I win of course!!! DH knows too well about that. :-) (Speaking of which, what does OH stand for?) Thanks for validating my feelings about the carseat (or 'carseatgate' lol) because honestly I just did NOT get his point. And even when I'm super mad at him and want to punch him in the face usually he can reason his way to the point where I understand where he was coming from when he made is dumbass comment or whatnot. But not this time. I was pretty much like, 'you're wrong, you need to admit that you're wrong and never let this happen again. I do respect you and do not think I am your mother but when you do something stupid THREE times I'm not just going to pat you on the back and say 'better luck next time champ!' A monkey could do this and I consider you infinitely smarter than a monkey.' Ok, maybe that wasn't a direct quote but you get the gist. :-) I don't believe one can fly in the last trimester or at least one is not advised to fly but more so for the fact that if you went into labor on the plane that it would be problematic as opposed to any danger to the baby I believe. Did you know that cruise lines won't let you book if you're more thlike 5 months pregnant? We briefly considered a babymoon aboard a cruise ship and was quite surprised to find that out. Anyway, so yeah, either get preggo now or wait until 2013. :-) Love how we're planning our lives around the ability to have a few cocktails together lol. Now it's my turn to switch accents: RUBBISH that you're no good at your job!!!! I know with every fiber of my being that that's completely untrue. You have a lot of experience and a fantastic personality and those women are lucky to have you!!! I often find that people who have no confidence are often the best at things 'cause knowing you don't know everything and that there's always more to learn helps you keep from getting complacent. Of course you can learn more and you will and you'll be even MORE fabulous than you already are. Got it missy?!?! Good. :-) Yay for Ollie saying bye bye!!! I'm actually amazed at how quickly Ben is picking up on language these days. He now has about 8-10 'official' words and is doing simple signs like 'more' and 'all done'. Today he followed his very first multi step direction (Matt told him to bring me the block he was holding). His intelligence is really coming out!!! Very exciting. Plus, isn't it funny that strangers often notice new things before you do?? Or does that just happen to me? The woman who cut his hair commented how when I sang the Itsy Bitsy Spider to him he was doing the hand motions and I honestly thought she was crazy. Her comment was 'my fourteen month old definitely can't do that!' Anyway, over the next couple days I realized she's right!!! He doesn't do them perfectly of course but he's definitely trying. Sooooo cool! I've only sung that song to him a thousand times so it was bound to happen but it's really only in the past few weeks that I've noticed a significant shift in his ability to understand and I'm really loving that. We're being sttingy with Ben's Christmas gifts this year as we were for last Christmas and his birthday. I think we're going to get him a toy kitchen and possibly some lift the flap books 'cause he LOVES those also and often lifts the flap right off the page lol. There's only so many times you can tape them back on and since they're a GREAT distraction in restaurants I'll keep buying them!! We figure we'll get away with only giving him a couple things while we can which is probably just this last year. By Sept he'll be asking for things I bet! Crazy. LOL that you're OH (whatever that means) keeps having to deal with bodily fluids. In the early days Ben liked to save his poop blowouts for daddy's shirt and pants! I'll definitely say Matt has been pooped on more times than I have lol. However I think I've been puked on and drooled on WAY more so it evens out. Even now Matt swears Ben waits till I leave the room to poop. That's my boy!!!! ***Ruby--I forgot to mention in my previous post that I am the PROUD owner of a minivan and I only have one kid!!! Lol. It pained me to buy it but I had a two door hatchback before I got preggo and obviously that wasn't going to fly. Initially DH and I were thinking of an SUV but the more people I talked to the more convinced I became that the minivan was the way to go. Basically everyone who had a minivan loved it and everyone I talked to who had an SUV regretted not getting the minivan. And honestly, I love it!! (We have a Honday Odyssey.) It's super roomy and convenient and everything is at the touch of a button. Plus it has the rear back up camera as part of the navigation system which I felt was really important safety wise. And the DVD player will definitely come in handy when he's older. No regrets!!! They are super expensive when bought new but we got an older model (2007) with about 30,000 miles on it and have had no probs. At the time we were looking to buy we actually had trouble finding one taht met our criteria because they're so darn popular. So if you do decide to go that route, just know you're in excellent company. Ok, I think I've run on long enough and NOT that this is a competition AT ALL I think out of curiosity I'll just see how long this is when I press the buttwn...

hopeful29 - Saturday, 10 Dec
lol

cupcake83 - Saturday, 10 Dec
:D I WIN!!!!! LOLLZZZZZZZ!!

cupcake83 - Saturday, 10 Dec
Hey lovelies. Yes I'm still doing the Peer Support work. I love it but its very time consuming! Another Peer Supporter and I run a breastfeeding cafe at our local childrens centre on a tues afternoon, where mums can come for a coffee and a chat with any questions or probs they may have, then everyday i do about 90 mins of phone calls (through out the day) as part of my role is to make sure every mum that leaves hospital BFing gets a 'hows it going?' phonecall within 48 hrs of leaving hospital. Statistics show that there is a significant dip in BFing 10 days post delivery so if we can get in there to help nip any issues in the bud before then they may cintinue for longer. 95% of mothers who stopped BFing by 6 wks wished they had continued for longer. So I do that, then i also do some house calls in my area to women who have been referred to me by the health visitors or nursery nurses, who may be having probs with positioning or attachment or supply or just need someone to chat too! I do a 3-4 a week. Busy!! I have been having a bit of a crisis of confidence recently tho! Don't know if I'm good enough...Oh well, I'm learning!! I don't really talk about it too much as I decided cos I'm such a chatter box I don't want to accidentally preach someones confidentiality so the least i talk about it the better!! hahahaha!! Thanks for asking tho! Ok lots to say, don't mind me if it comes out a little muddled up! Kathleen - I didn't know u were uber competative!! hahahaha!!I think u were ABSOLUTELY justified in kicking off at hubs for carseatgate. Once could be a momentary loss of concentration or getting distracted but 3 times, 3 different ways of not doing it correctly! Unacceptable! Ashlee made a fab point, IF (heaven forbid) anything did go wrong, whould he want that on his conscience for the rest of his life? Could u ever forgive him - I know i would blame my OH forever - i wouldn't be able to help it. As for appearing condesending, well sorry but schoolboy errors from a grown man over a simple 5 point harness...again, UNACCEPTABLE. Thankfully, my OH is anal about things like this so I don't have to worry. He worries to the point it gets annoying! Like really we can have the heating on Ollie, will not burn himself just cos the raditators in the house are on low!! As for the whole bro thing, yes it does sound like we are somewhat similar. Mine would take any oppurtunity to bully me too. LOL at ur barrier!! One day he will accidentally lean on the chair and it will move slightly then the penny will drop! You know how i feel about ur baby no.2 worries! Instead of telling it will all be cool i am going to let you worry. You will worry and then when it all turns out great you will feel even more relieved! Is it your friend who lives down the street from you with the twins that is pg again? Fab news!! She sounds lovely from what u have said before. Congrats to her and her family. LOL at your comments regarding men! I agree!! They want a pat on the back for completing a task ONCE that i do a million times a day without even thinking i deserve thanks! lol!! My OH has had pretty bad luck with the kids tho recently! It seems everytime I'm notat home or he is out with them something happens! Last week he'd just dropped me off in town and was driving Keira and Ollie home and Keira was sick all over the carso usually I would have to clean that up but he had to do it! He even text me to tell me he had to clean it! Then it seems Ollie chooses to do poop explosions when i am not there - cue coming home to find Ollie in a loose nappy - he NEVER does it up tight enough nad poopy clthes inn the sink!Then Keira went to the shop with him for like 5 mins and wet herself! She's not done that for years!! lol!! Aaaaa I just sit bck and laugh at the things i would just deal with, he had a panic attack over cos he's not used to it!! Ruby - Awww I hope things continue to improve with hubby. I can't believe u left - I would of kicked him out! Seems like it may have made something click in his head tho. I hope it continues to get better each day. My OH and I have been thru shit a few times so i understand. Plus he had to realise you are going thru prob the most demanding time of your life so far. Men don't like change! I'm sure this is what is up with your man Ashlee! He's dealing with the imminent change of being posted so he's worried about that so he's thinking he doesn't want the worry of what he knows in his home life to change too with a new baby. I was also not allowed to discuss TTC with my OH when we were (or i was) trying for Ollie! It took me 3 YEARS to persuade him to even get to that point! Men are sensitive deep down and worry a lot more than they let on and they do love us even if they dont show it! You all know how its changed now for me tho with him pushing for baby no.4. We're not 'trying' but then again we're not stopping it or using anything to prevent it. I still have not had a period tho so like i said before i prob won't fall until i stop feeding. I was thinking feb time which would take me thu to nov but then with this whole NYC talk maybe not!! I SOOOO Hope it all works out! I'm gonna do all i can to make sure we can afford it!! How preggers are u allowed to be to still fly? But then i would love to have a few cocktails with u girls!! If/WHEN we do meet I'll probably cry like a fool!! How are things with your man Hopeful? Feeling any closer of late? I'm sorry for your loss my love, losing a sibling must be hard especially as you had grown closer xx. So Ollie said 'bye bye' for the first time today!! CUTENESS!!! And he learnt to say 'ta' a few days ago! He says 'da' if you give him anything or he gives u summot! What is everyone getting their LO's for Xmas? I've gotten Ollie a smart trike, a pop up tent and tunnel thing and lots and lots of other loud annoying noisy toys and books! He loves lift the flap and those 'Thats not my...' books. He also likes the books that have the hand puppet inside the middle of them, he thinks thats hilarious! He had also got into Thomas the Tank Engine!! Bless him!! We now bust about with a Thomas rucksack as his nappybag...and i just shove my purse and phone in there! I have so many nice bags but no...Thomas the Tank it is for me!! I'm so cool!! I managed to find a snow suit in 18-24 mths as well! So i got him that as its starting to gert bitterly cold now, so he looks superduper chubby in that!HE refuses to sit in the seat of the shopping trolley or the 'cart' (she says in a super cheese American accent ;P) so now he stands up IN the actually trolley himself!!! LOL all the Grannys comment on him an he's there giving out bog ol grins to anyone who will look his way!! Anyho...gonna press the 'leave comment' button now and check out disertation... :)

kathleen112 - Saturday, 10 Dec
Ruby--wow, I didn't realize how common this is!! What is with men?!?! Hubby was acting like i should be all proud of him because he remembered to tighten the straps and he's 'never forgotten the chest part before.' Hello, one is useless without the other!!!!! I swear I could give Ben 100 meals/baths in a row and chage 200 diapers but if DH has to do it TWICE in a row, watch out!! Better be prepared to give him a medal or watch him sulk about it. I know some men won't do it at all so I should count my blessings but all men are damn needy, aren't they?! Wow, I'm sorry to hear you had to take the drastic step of leaving DH but I'm glad it seems to have given him a greater appreciation for you and the girls, at least for now. LOVE to hear that you're thinking of meeting up with us!!! This better happen, girls, 'cause I'm getting excited!!!!

rubylove - Saturday, 10 Dec
I wanted to comment on a few more things but baby is hungry gtg!Looking forward to seeing a few more essays when I come on again :)))

rubylove - Saturday, 10 Dec
Kashsmommy- I think i told u this already, but sooo happy to see happy posts from you again and that everything is going so good for you! :)))

rubylove - Saturday, 10 Dec
Cupcake- I was also wondering about ur job?how is it going?LOL@at the vagina talk.My DH would freak out if my DD talked about vaginas lol So NYC 2012 it is right?U know Ill be there, with my double stroller LOLZZZ somehow it's just so hard to be cool now!My bro was trying to make me face the reality that 'I need a mini van now...I just choose not to see that reality,and will just have to leave 1 kid home every time I go out haha Ashlee- LOL @ sneaking in the BD days. I used to do that too with conceving baby #2, since it took a few years after #1 to have her and I had to take Clomid,DH hated how obsessed I wa with it.why are guys so scared of having babies?I understand as women we have to push those babies out, breastfeed etc but why are they so scared? Pisses me off!

rubylove - Saturday, 10 Dec
Kathleen- 3 children later, and my DH STILL does that, and each time I have a mini meltdown, because it pisses me off soooo bad. He also doesn't 'click' the car seat..He also says I'm condescending and mistakes happen..uhm,sorry but ur just a moron!Awww, you and Cupcake having babies at the same time, maybe I'll just have to add a 4th one LOL actually this uterus is going to be on extended vacay..will see how I feel about a 4th one then :) Hopeful sorry to hear about ur brother, that's so sad. I'm pretty close to all my siblings, 3 bros and 1 sis and they're all much older, so never fought with my bros in my life.My sis lives very far, but she actually just arrived yesterday, she's visiting for 2 weeks :)) You has asked me about the DH situation. I didn't get to tell you girls what happened. when I was 36 weeks pregnant, we had a huge fight,and because he had heard about my planned vacay in January, he goes to me you can leave and go wherever you want i dont care,and I will stay in this house etc etc thsi really hurt me. U are kicking ME out?? Really?So i packed up, took my kids and went to my bro's house. I stayed there about 6 days and did not call hubby, and he didnt call me either. I was throwing in the towel, that was it for me. For him to argue with me like that at 36 weeks pregnant and say all those things, I said I do not need this man.Well after 6 days, his male ego pride was deflated and he calls me and says I miss u all, come home etc etc. I was 37 weeks pregnant,living at my bro's with ym 2 kids, and they were driving me nuts because they were out of routine, so of course, I went home..not because I wanted anything to do with him..but I knew I woudl deliver soon, and my kids were upset also.Well after I came home, he suddenly changed...making me food, taking care of me and the kids,trying to be understanding.It was hard to hate him.I still didn't show much emotion to him,but we did stop arguing.I think he realized in that week, that he was about to lose us, and that this woudl be his life without us. We haven't argued since then.I'm definitely still going on that trip, but as of now,I'm very confused about him..are we just going to go back to how we were?Or has he really changed?I dont feel the same anger now everytime I look at him, it's like my heart has softened, but it really depends what he does now.guess Ill take it day by day and see...

kathleen112 - Saturday, 10 Dec
Wow Ashlee that's infuriating!!! I wouldn't let him take the out by himself if he's going to be so intentionally lazy/careless!

ashleecarter - Friday, 9 Dec
Omg Kathleen. I yell at my husband over the carseat all the time!!! He puts her arms threw and buckles that part but never buckles the center part between her legs!!! Like it is too much work to snap that one more piece!! We have her seat forward facing by personal choice instead of extended rear facing. However, if she isn't buckled all the way in, she may as well be left free to roam the car! Ugh! I wouldn't want it on his conscience if God-forbid he should ever get in an accident and something happened to her bc he didn't take the 3 seconds to buckle all the way.

ashleecarter - Friday, 9 Dec
Ladies!! Idk why I disappeared. Stress? Holidays? Who knows. So DH and I got into a slight spat over TTC. Once the offici roster was posted with the names of the soldiers deploying in August, he kinda freaked and tried throwing every excuse at me as to not TTC. I reminded him of all of our reasons why we wanted to and should. I think he is just stressing bc once they are handed official orders there's no turnin back. Sigh. Men. However, I'm trying to be sneaky about BD days so that he doesn't pick up on the trend of when we do it most lol. He said we can continue TTC as long as I don't talk to him about it and don't obsess. Which is weird bc I never really talk to him about it anyway. He said I obsess by knowing what CD it is and when is the best time to BD. Uhm. That's not obsession, that's just brains lol

kathleen112 - Friday, 9 Dec
Lol Hopeful! It's not a contest! ('Cause if it was I would totally have to win 'cause I'm uber competitive lol.) I wouldn't say I'm unsure that we're going to have a second baby but I am scared. Ben was waaaaaay too easy on me and I'm sure the next baby won't be so I'm dragging my feet a little and enjoying just having one while it lasts. So if you got pregnant this Christmas nothing would have to change huh? Hmmmmmmmmmm. You SURE you only want one?? :-) I'm so sorry to hear about your brother, that's just tragic. I think you may have mentioned that once before. I'm in awe of anyone who chooses the military life. It takes a soul a lot braver than I am to do it, that's for sure, so my hat is off to you, your husband, your brother, my brother etc. It also would be incredibly hard to be a military spouse I'm sure and you're on both sides of it so two hats off to you. I think it would be unfair to Keira to have both parents away for long periods so I don't blame you at all for making the decision you are (assuming you don't get knocked up this holiday :-) **Cupcake--I forgot to answer your question. The 'barrier' I have for Ben is an ottoman and a chair lined up next to one another to close the gap between the family room and the kitchen. I took him to a play class the other day and the instructor set up an obstacle course intended to teach the babies how to climb over obstacles among other things. Ben did it like a champ and sure enough today he was getting closer and closer to being able to scale the ottoman. The truth is he could pretty easily push the chair which is on an angle to the side but he hasn't figured it out yet. It won't be long though!!! One way or another he'll find his way to the kitchen and I'll officially be screwed. :-) Like Hopeful I was wondering whether or not you weere still working with breastfeeding moms. If so, how many days a week? Do you like working?? ***My hubby and I just had a big argument. For the THIRD time after my hubby put Ben isn his car seat I took him out only to find that he wasn't secured properly in the seat. Tonight the problem was that the chest piece was left completely unbuckled. On one occasion the straps weren't tightened AT ALL and and another occasion the one shoulder strap was like down around his forearm when I opened the door. The fight occured 'cause unlike the other two times when I just pointed out the mistake tonight I told him what he'd done and told him it was 'unacceptable.' I was going to leave it at that but then about a half hour later he came to me all pissed off and told me he didn't appreciate how 'condescending' I was to him because 'everyone makes mistakes.' I'm sorry but to me, one time is a mistake. When something happens repeatedly, especially something as important ast his, it's downright careless!!!! Plus, we disagree really that it's a mistake at all. It's a fucking process. You either follow each step of the process or you do not. I'm far from perfect but I have never, not once, secured him in the seat and then found it to be anything other but secure when I wen to take him out. A mistake is if you're holding the baby and accidentally trip and fall. Could happen to anyone. I don't believe this could happen to anyone ESPECIALLY not three times. Normally I come to see my husband's point when we argue but not this time. Thoughts???

hopeful29 - Thursday, 8 Dec
WHOA ladies I got me window back YAHOO...knock on wood don't want to jinx it! Holy essays ladies, I'm checking this site a few times a day just waiting for someone to post and all of a sudden BAM everyone is back and catching up! I love it! Okay it's one thing to plan a trip to meet but now we are having babies together? LOL It's like when a bunch of women live together and their periods all match up! Kinda crazy and right now I am def not in lol...One thing at a time....new career might be something I look into first lol. We shall see, if only my hubby was willing to take us on as a family financially I would totally be a stay at home mom and pop out another one or two!!!! The reality is that I've always made more money and with him paying child support it's going to be a tight swallow with me leaving my job and all. Although if I got pregnant this christmas they wouldn't be allowed to post me and I would continue to have a job here hmmmmmmmm lol....As far as brothers go wow we have a lot in common. I had 2 older brother but my oldest brother was also military and was killed over in Afghanistan in 2006, and I was pretty close with him the last few years seeing as we both understood the military life (kinda brought us together) so I'm glad we did get close cause growing up we didn't get along. As far as my other brother he took himself out of our lives I guess about 15 years ago. He just picked up and left started a new life and it was like he forgot about us. It was hard cause I was only 2 years younger and growing up we were pretty close. He came back into our lives after my brother died (he carries a lot of guilt for that) but I don't have a relationship with him. Probably cause t was so many years we never talked. Now I just get updates through my parents. He has a daughter thats a month younger then our LO's but I've never met her cause they live the other side of Canada. Kash glad to hear Cole is doing so well in daycare it's a relief eh? Sounds like thing are on the up and up is the ex still talking court or what? I laughed when you said he has a girlfriend cause Keira has a boyfriend from what I've been told they keep kissing on the lips! Cupcake you still doing that job working with breastfeeding mom's? When are you planning your next LO? That picture of Ollie and Keira is priceless! I laughed too think about your daughter randomly talking about the 'vagina hole' and daddy getting mad and walking out...typical man haha. I guess they have to learn it sooner or later...scary! The worse part is now she'll tell Keira stuff which in turn will tell Ollie stuff so on and so forth depending on how many you have lol. Kathleen I never knew that you weren't sure about #2 I just figured you were waiting for a Ben to get a little older. I think I like the idea of 3 years in between cause then the oldest is more helpful...not too old to not be interested in helping and not too young to be jealous...oh and I have no idea what I'm talking about I'm just trying to beat everyones essays but I'm running out of stuff to say since I post regularly on here xox MUAH

kathleen112 - Thursday, 8 Dec
You sure did write an essay Cupcake!! Yes, let's do plan to have another baby together lol! Are you guys actively trying?? If so you're ahead of us. I'm thinking maybe we'll start trying next summer...ideally I'd like to have had my second child before I turn 35 and I'll be 33 next month (yikes!). So I figure if I start when I'm 33 1/2 that'll give me enough time to get preggo and carry the baby nine months in the requisite time frame. I know what they say about best laid (no pun intended) plans but I just don't think I'll be ready emotionally before then. Not that I'm REALLY sure I want baby #2 at all but I know hubby's mind is made up and I think it's something I ultimately would regret, not giving Ben a sibling. So that's the deal. It would be TOO cool if we were pregnant at the same time again...wooohooo Hopeful, do you hear us?! :-) You crack me up waiting till Ben got a haircut to give Ollie one. I love that you 'carry' us around with you all day. I find myself thinking ofyou girls often. I sooooooo hope that it works our for at least some of us to get together in NYC next Christmas though if I have a baby on board that's really going to get in the way of our boozing lol. We shall see. My brother and I aren't particularly close either. Not JUST for the punching incident lol but it actually sounds similar to your situation in that my brother always tried to exert authority over me and not in a nice big brother way. Frankly I was smarter than him (he's learning disabled and had a terrible time in school and I was an excellent student) and he felt threatened by that so he tried to be better than me in other ways. If my mom left him in charge he would bully me, things like that. Nothing too serious but enough that we're kind of distant now. He's in the military and lives all the way on the other side of the country so that certainly doens't help us be any closer. Plus he married an absolute witch and that has made matters even worse as you can imagine. It is what it is. I have many 'sisters' in my life, you girls included, and that's enough for me. Your story about Pheebs made me laugh. My mom's good friend used to watch me after school and I guess decided one day to teach her daughter and I the proper terminology for our privates so I came home and told my dad, 'Guess what dad, I have a vagina!' I'll never forget his face or his reaction: 'Never say that word again!' Lol. It's not a dirty word and I've actually heard that the more kids know about their bodies the less likely they are to be sexually abused. Nine may seem young but in this day and age kids not much older than her are doing things you and I wouldn't even want to imagine so it is important they know these things sooner rather than later. I was watching an Oprah episode with a respected sex therapist who suggests that all parents have 'the talk' about the birds and bees by age 10. You know, just the basics. I'll try to find the episode online and maybe can email it to you since I'm sure it's a TOUGH subject to broach. But I do agree the teacher should have given you fair warning. ***Kash--so glad your job is going well and that Cole is adjusting to day care!! I'm so proud of you taking control of your life like this. It's not an easy thing to do and you're an inspiration!!!! xoxo

kashsmommy - Wednesday, 7 Dec
Helloooo my favorite ladies!!! Sorry it's been a while since I posted but by the time I get home from work I only have about 2 1/2 hours to spend with Cole before he's ready to knock out bc school is obviously very tiring! My job is great and Cole is adapting soooo well! He's even started to learn sign language! He can sign 'more'!!! Life is really getting better! I don't have much time, but I hope everyone is doing well and I'm still praying for the baby girls!!! Love y'all and I'll catch up this weekend!

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