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joannalove06 (1508 days ago)
I think that you should still get a test and I think its really good that your partner still will be there.
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timmielouise (1561.5 days ago)
My nephew grew up with another man raising him as his father. When he found out that he had a different dad it made sense to him he thought he never really fit in with his dads family (the one that raised him) even though he and his father got along great. My brother and nephew finally got to meet each other when my nephew was 18. My nephew had a lot of resentment towards everyone becuase he was kept in the dark. I really would hate to see that happen to another family. Get the test and if it is the other man go from there.
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oldmama (1561.7 days ago)
I had the same situation dear. And luckily the due date worked out that it ruled out the `wild one`. I decided even before knowing for sure that I would have to know for many many reasons. I hope you do the right thing.
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1hotmooma (1561.8 days ago)
I personally feel its best to find out, That way theres no lingering doubt in your husby`s mind if its his. It also would bring closure to the whole ordeal. Is the other possible father wanting to be involved if the baby is his? Have you told him you were pregnant? But honestly no matter what you decide to do its a choice that only the two of you can make.
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jenny504 (1562.2 days ago)
I would find out. Sounds like hubby will be there no matter what! Atleast you will both know and not always have that question.
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mia (1565.7 days ago)
My best friend was in a similar situation. She was almost certain her (now) husband fathered her child but there was a chance it was someone else. They never got a paternity test and two years later they are happily married with another child. On the other side, it may be a good idea just for health reasons.
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abs (1565.8 days ago)
i think it would be th best thing to do for many reasons,but hey i also believe that you might not have to if bubby comes out looking like your hubby.
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mom of 7 and 1 on the way (1566 days ago)
You should really give that baby a chance to know who it`s father is depending on the circumstances. I grew up without knowing who my dad was for 17years and I am a firm believer in telling your kids the truth because eventually it will come out. What if there is some genetic disease in his family and your child comes up with it or your child`s children? You really need to consider your child`s well being in all of this. Good luck with whatever you do. You know what is best for your children.
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aliciah (1566.1 days ago)
I agree with all the other comments below. And also, think about the child. What if this kid grows up knowing that he/she looks different than his dad or other possible siblings and starts asking questions? Although your partner is planning to love this child no matter what (and I think that is SO awesome), the child has the right to know his biological family. At least in my opinion.
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Jeanette (1566.1 days ago)
It`s important to know for leagal reasons as well. If your baby was fathered by another man, and something happened to you, who would be responsible for the child? If you establish who`s who then the biological father, if it happens to be the one time guy, can leagally renounce his obligation, and the man who`s going to be doing the actual parenting can leagally adopt the child. I`m kind of getting the feeling (I don`t know from where) that you have nothing to wory about. Your baby is going to have the right daddy.
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Brittany23 (1566.2 days ago)
and good luck! =)
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Brittany23 (1566.2 days ago)
It might not even be necessary! The baby might come out looking just like it`s daddy! If your husband has any distinguishing features, (my babys daddy`s nose and ears for example) you might be able to tell from looking at it. Of course if you`re unsure you should definitely find out, for medical reasons and to eliminate any doubt. I think it would be really harder for the father not to know for sure.
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Annie85 (1566.2 days ago)
btw good luck
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Annie85 (1566.2 days ago)
i didnt vote for `as long as it is loved` for one reason regardless of whether you find out or not the baby will loved by you and anyone else involved in his or her life. but i think its better if u do it since you already know that there is a possibilty your partner is not the father you are better off finding out instead of going through your whole life wondering. what if? and like summerisis said for medical reasons atleast
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