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BreeLouise (332.1 days ago)
just tell her, she will still be over the moon for you. If she is trying this hard to have a baby it means that she will still be overjoyed and supportive of your little one

supernatural5 (332.2 days ago)
talking face to face is best and if she is a good friend though she feels bad she wont be able to help but be happy for you.my friend and i got pregnant at the same time and she lost hers but was still happy for me,just as i was sad for her. also the book supernatural childbirth by jackie mize would be a great read,i am readin it for my own purposes but there are alot of references regarding loss of child,god never intended it and we can overcome this tragedy.

Jo-Mama (332.8 days ago)
Definitely tell her face to face. It`s nothing to be ashamed of and you will want to share the news personally. A letter or email is just too cold and it would look like you are afraid of her or something. Acknowledge her pain, but keep it personal and between the two of you.

monica9 (332.8 days ago)
ive been through the same thing as you, but on the other side. Just make sure she knows that it hurts you what shes going through and that it was hard for you to tell her. biggest thing..... dont talk about anything that has to do with baby unless she brings it up!

tto (333.2 days ago)
Everyone makes a good point. I have been in her shoes and lost two- one at 8-9 weeks and one at 23, so I do understand how hurt she is. I guess I just don`t know the words to say. I just hate that she has to deal with her loss and then my pregnancy. Our pregnancy was a surprise and I don`t fully understand God`s timing on this.

jenny504 (333.3 days ago)
I would just tell her. I had a miscarrige my second pregnancy and it seemed like everyone around me was getting pregnant, 3 of my best friends actually. But i think i would have been more upset if they had tiptoed around me and the subject. As long as you don;t rub it in her face, which i am sure you would not do considering your concern she should be happy for you and if she`s not happy for you intially i am sure she will come around. No one should begrudge you that you are pregnant no matter what the situation is. I mean what are you supposed to do not get pregnant so as not to hurt her feelings? I am sure she would not want that.

Jess G (333.3 days ago)
absolutely, it is normal for that to happen...and it`s not against you, it`s just such a hurtful time for her and it`s so very hard to deal with, especially it`s all happened so recently. If you`ve never been there, it`s hard to understand. But love her, and give her the support she needs...b/c she will be happy for you, but it may be hard for her to show it completely right away. My friend was wanting a baby so badly and trying so hard that when I got pregnant(the 2nd time after my m/c), I tried to think of her feelings throughout my pregnancy, for example, when my baby shower came up, I told her that if it made her uncomfortable or would make her feel bad to come, that she didn`t have to and that I would completely understand.

summerisis (333.3 days ago)
Jess summed up my feelings on the issue. Also, don`t be surprised if she backs away from the the friendship or feels resentment. It`s normal.

Jess G (333.4 days ago)
Yes, I`d talk to her face to face. But you`ve got to try to understand her feelings. She may feel broken hearted. I felt so broken hearted to hear of others getting pregnant after I lost my baby. My best friend is also fertility issues and has m/c 2 and she`s so broken hearted, I`ve understood her feelings and have been able to be there for her. So be happy for being pregnant, but also try to be a good friend to her and understand whatever feelings she may have on the issue....and give her time, b/c it may be intially hard for her to hear the news.

echo (333.4 days ago)
i think you should talk to her face to face. i think she would be happy for you. some people are just not meant to have kids for some awful reason. but god has chose u to carry this baby. so she should be happy for you!



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