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Pregnancy-poll poll I am 18 and 20 weeks pregnant. The baby`s dad says one thing `We`re never gonna` marry or work out` and does another. His words really hurt though, and he`s starting to get mean. What should I do about this/????
(Pregnancy poll by my-lil-miracle, 1989 days ago)
Put up with it, you're on his phonebill and he's supporting you
Keep it civil, at least he wants to be in Baby's life
Give it a rest, just contact him to tell him about Baby
Don't talk to him anymore just serve him with Child Support when baby's born


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Comments: 9

bigmommat (1984.6 days ago)
You have a little one to worry about and yourself. You dont need the stress!

nicolefeb08 (1987.1 days ago)
You can find a better guy than this. What kind of man is he if will stress out his pregnant girlfriend?

butterblocksmom (1987.3 days ago)
Hi, I just read your VIP page to understand what your situation is a bit better. You have nothing to regret. If you believe that anyone else has life perfectly mapped out, you would be very surprised, we are all taking each day as it comes, and some people just hide that better than others. Some people feel more confident about it because they are older or wiser, but at the end of the day, we are all responsible to make every day as good as it can be and we struggle with that each day. Every time you see the sun set, remember, a piece of your life has gone with it. Make every day special to you and those that you love, but never think that everyone else has got it all worked out. We all feel, to different degrees, how you feel. You do not deserve to be treated like crap by anyone...ever. But you also don`t need to make a rash decision this very moment. I know if you are emotional, you may feel a need to take or do a bold action, but remember, sometimes being rational is better. Having said that, no one owes you anything - not your family, not your lover, no one but yourself. I am sorry if that sounds harsh, I don`t mean for it too, but it is what it is. People choose to be in your life, just like you have that choice as well. I say that you should stay in your power position. Make the best of your situation, take what you can from it, and work to keep yourself in a position where you are in control. In time, you won`t need to put up with his crap and you can walk, but for now, I think you need help. Use this time to ensure you are able to do whatever you need to do to make a life for you and your baby. I don`t know if you love this guy or not, but in any event, you are in control whether you believe that or not. Good luck luv!

monica9 (1987.8 days ago)
My husband does everything in his power to make sure I`m not stressed. IT seems like your man doesn`t care. I would definitely ditch him but let him see the baby. You don`t need that for your health and you that as your boyfriend/husband. You can and will do much better if you ditch him, and you`re so young. You will find someone much better!!!!!!!

threeangelsofmine (1988.1 days ago)
the way i look at it if he is starting to get mean don`t deal with it. you and your baby don`t need that in your lives right now. if he wants to be a part of the babys life, good for him, but that doesn`t mean you have to stay together.

Daydays Mom (1988.3 days ago)
i wouldnt put up with it! im sorry...

Tiger21 (1988.3 days ago)
I`m confused, does he know about the baby yet?

vanessar (1988.4 days ago)
ok this isnt my screen name its my sisters but i got pregnat at 17 and had my son when i was 18. my boyfriend was sometimes mean through out the pregnancy but you have to remeber he is scared too my boyfriend is a year younger then me and boys are soooo immature. you need to talk to him andlet him know how you feel.remeber to try not to get angry....i know all about the hormones...TRUST ME!!! if he still doesnt come around leave him!! you can do it with out him anyways... good luck

MJamison (1988.5 days ago)
Sorry honey.. but you dont need to put up with his crap! You and your baby do not need that! YOU will always have to take care of that child.. not him... move on and do what YOU have to do to take care of your baby!



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