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RobinG (239 days ago)
You may want to look into the laws and consider what may happen down the road ~ my girlfriends son took her name because she wasnt close to the dad either at the time and then a few years later when dad WAS around he had to adopt his OWN son because his last name wasnt on the birth cert. It was a huge legal mess. I say give the baby the dads name and avoid a problem down the road ~

summerisis (241.6 days ago)
I`d name my child Van Der Walt as it`s a name that you like and Dickmon is not. And, if you have the opportunity to name her somethign that other than Dickmon, which you feel is not a good idea, then I would give her that gift. And, who cares about what he `deserves` or `doesn`t deserve.` This isn`t about him. It`s about her. Oh, and my father wasn`t around but his last name rocks and I`m glad that I have it...

Mana (242.1 days ago)
I say go with Dickman, it won`t be long before some great guy will come along sweep you off your feet you will get married he will adopt your child and he will have a wonderful last name, he he. Its nice to dream but you never know.

robinylazunzun (242.7 days ago)
i`m giving my baby the dad`s last name, even though he`s may not be around that much (he`s trying, but he`s been a loser for a while, so trying might be too little too late) but if you really don`t want to give your baby either name, you could try your mother`s maiden name or something like that?

nicolefeb08 (242.8 days ago)
I say pick a good last name. If you hated your last name like I hated mine, you will never do that to your child lol. I know how it feels to be picked on for last name. As for the dad if you really hate giving him his last name, Then try to find another family name on your side that you like instead.

megam (242.8 days ago)
Use you last name! If the father is not involved you will be happy you did, even if it is a bad name. You child will probably be thankful that you didnt give it the last name of someone it doesnt know.

tto (242.9 days ago)
The mother`s maiden name would be a good idea. As a teacher, it is very confusing when mom and child have different last names and then siblings have different last names. A lot of assumptions are made. You may want to change your name to whatever you choose. Young kids are often confused by it. If your adoptive father loves your mom, then he would understand and love her last name for you and your child. He was probably tortured too and wouldn`t want that for his grandchild. Talk to him and get his advice.

mommacrstl (243 days ago)
my first son has his birth fathers last name. He doesn`t know his bf but when we gave him the option to change his last name to mine or my mothers he declined he enjoys being the only silenzi. my second child has my maiden last name and has been offered the option of takeing his new daddy`s last name ramos but he has also declined. my daughter by my new husband has his last name, Go with your instinct pick the name you don`t mind screaming 10 billion times a day for the next 18 to 25 years lol

jeanette (243.1 days ago)
Think about what the baby deserves. Doese she deserve to be part of a family that loves her and is proud of her? At the same time, you may feel that she doesn`t deserve the humiliation you`ve been through. Remember, if you get married later on, she can change her name too (and this may happen before `Dickman` becomes an issue). Also, this may be an opportunity for you to take more pride in your name. It was given to you by someone who loved you enough to adopt you, to choose you to be his child. Van Der Walt is the name of someone who doesn`t want to be a parent. p.s. You can change the spelling of the last name if you want to (this is a tradition that has been going on forever.) How about Deekman.

1sttimebabymama696 (243.1 days ago)
If the guy is going to be in the kid`s life, than give her his last name. It is hard to go through the pregnancy alone, but as long as he is going to have some custody and the child will know him than you should give her the name. Now if he isn`t going to be there at all, than give her another family name.

jillys1stbaby (243.2 days ago)
What about your mothers maiden name??

monica9 (243.3 days ago)
if the baby is never going to see the father and he doesnt want anything to do with the baby, then you can name your baby whatever you want to.

katenyc (243.3 days ago)
Yea but if the father is not around... is it abnormal to name her his name? That will only remind her of the father that never or barely existed? My father wasn`t involved and if I got his last name when he was merely nothing more than a sperm donor pretty much..I`d be confused.

charlim (243.4 days ago)
regardless of the father`s involment or there lack of...the child shouldn`t be deprived of her heritage...due to circumstance beyond her control...the baby isn`t a pawn & deserves everything that would rightfully be her`s. If you two were married there wouldn`t be a question...put baby first always & yourself & feeling last...

mia (243.4 days ago)
Are you having a girl or a boy? If it`s a girl, go with Dickman, when she gets married it will change anyway.

ladyintexas (243.4 days ago)
How about hyphenating the name with both of your names...after all it is the father and then your child can decide which name to use when they get of age.

katenyc (243.5 days ago)
Hmm not sure..could be good. I wonder if I`d severely insult my adoptive father (I have the same mom) if I were to do that... but honestly the name was brutal growing up!

katenyc (243.5 days ago)
Hmm not sure..could be good. I wonder if I`d severely insult my adoptive father (I have the same mom) if I were to do that... but honestly the name was brutal growing up!

masha (243.5 days ago)
how about ur mothers maiden name?



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