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sherriJH (275.1 days ago)
My husband has been in & out of the military. He was in the Army when I met him & then he got out for 3 months & hated civilian life & wanted to go back in. The Army wouldn`t let him change jobs so he went in the Navy instead. After 4 years of him being on an aircraft carrier & lots of deployments including a 10 month one during the 1st dessert storm, he decided he was missing too much of our baby`s 1st`s so he got out. Fast forward 12 years & he decided to join the Army National Guard to have a 2nd retirement check & he`s in Iraq & I am pregnant with our 4th son! I don`t think either one of us have any regrets about him joining the military, I am very proud of his service to our country! However, if your honey decides to join, make sure he does his homework & if there is a job that he wants to do that will transfer into civilian life, tell him to hold out for it. Some recruiters will lie to get you to do what they have a quota for (they get bonuses, so they are not always looking out for your best interest no matter what they say). With the world the way it is right now, pretty much any job he takes he`ll have a 50/50 chance of going to Iraq or Afganistan. I felt much safer when my hubby was in the Navy since he was on a ship in the middle of the ocean vs now he`s on the ground in Iraq....the benefits of military life can be great for a young couple starting out & if he gets deployed you can always move back `home` while he is away & if your not near a base you can choose your own doctors & not have to use military docs. Okay so I have gone on forever, but just be careful, do your homework on what he wants to do for a job & it can be the best way to start your family out! No one says you have to sign up for life, you can always get out after your 1st enlistment if it doesn`t work for you.

jheard15 (283.2 days ago)
My husband is in the military and we really enjoy moving around and seeing new places...however he has never been deployed and I can`t even bein to imagine having my kids alone without him while he is deployed but women do it everyday and you adjust to your situations you are in. The military has excellent benifets!! I can`t complain!!

Maggy (285.2 days ago)
My husband is in the military, and we love it! I`m about to have a baby too. I would just say that you have to have a good attitude about it all. My husband has had to go to Iraq or on small trips, but he has also had a lot of time with me. We are very happy with the military life. I`m happy where ever I go though, so that makes a difference. I could be in a big city or a small desert and still be happy. So, I think that it`s up to you. There are a lot of benefits that I think outway the bad things.

Tiger21 (285.2 days ago)
My friend`s husband is in the military and he is usually gone for 6 months at a time. He is in Afghanistan and his two boys and wife rarely see him. I know all situations are different, this just happens to be my friends.

JessH (285.4 days ago)
I couldnt agree more with sumemrisis. My husband got out of the AF in 2006, and I got out this year. There are pros and cons. The main pros are getting educational money/benefits, having healthcare, and a steady paycheck, as well as learning a skill or trade (hopefully one that can transfter back to civilian world). the VA loan to help buy a house. The cons -- will you be okay with him being gone for basic training and tech school, missing your babies first smile, crawl, walk etc. Will you be okay with moving wherever they tell you you have to live? With no family close by and no friends and a new baby? then if he does got delpoyed your stuck in this place all alone. Military doctors arent always the best and your husband may work alot of long or ridiculous hours. Physical fitness is mandatory as are lots of other appointments that are not considered part of his work day. He cant just take off leave to care for his child, and just because he gets 30 days of leave doesnt mean he will be able to use them. Talk to as many peoople as you can about the military. The more educated you can become the better its a life changing/altering decision and requires a lot of adaptation and sacrifice.

summerisis (285.5 days ago)
There are certainly better options than joining the military if you want to have a decent life. It really depends on your husbands interests and skills. I, personally, believe that if you join the military, you should look at it as a sacrfice NOT something that will benefit you because the government is not in the business of making your life better -- you, your husband, and your family will belong to the government. That`s not to say that it`s not the best option for some people but I think that there are better options that should not be discounted -- trade school or community college. This is a major decision. Talk to some people that have been in the military with both positive and negative experiences... Good luck.

MJamison (285.7 days ago)
The military is not a bad way too go! Lots of great benefits! Good luck!



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