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Lacey-M (290.1 days ago)
I am just gonna say that my sister smokes and she had a 5 month old son who passed away from sids, and smoke is one of the causes of sids. So you might just bring that to her attention and just let her know that your just concerned for the kids health.
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kater (290.9 days ago)
i would have another talk about it, as they obviously don`t see it as that big of a deal.
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momto4and1tobe (290.9 days ago)
You aren`t overreacting!
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YvonneB (291.8 days ago)
I would explain to them how concerned about ur sons health u r that he could have respitery probs and if they dont listen then say well if u cant do it for the little amount of time he is here then he wont be able to come as his health is the most important
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channa (292 days ago)
I was a smoker before I got pregnant. When my godson was around, I hid outside so he wouldn`t even see me with a cigarette. He would make comments when I came in though, like `you stink.` Although I always felt awful, I knew what he was saying was right. I agree with everyone else- maybe invite them to your house and stop letting the kids go over. If your mom ever asks you why, don`t be mean or snotty, but just tell her since they can`t seem to control the smoking you aren`t comfortable sending the kids there.
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blessedmom (295.9 days ago)
You are not overreacting! Its a question of respect, You ask something very simple out of them, that is for the best of their grandchildren, that should be more important than anything else. Stand you ground , you are right to demand no smoking around your children!!
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Nan639 (297.4 days ago)
You are not overreacting! I hate visiting my mom just for that reason. But, you have to remember, their house is going to smell like smoke, even on the weekends if they have been smoking inside all week. I visit my mom and she doesn`t smoke in the house, but I leave still smelling like smoke. You just need to put your foot down. If they want to see their grandchildren, they can`t smoke. And if they do, the visits will have to be at your house only. Good luck!
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butterblocksmom (297.8 days ago)
You have every right to be upset. It is dangerous, it teaches them bad habits, and some studies have shown it is a contributiong factor for asthma and possibly SIDS. It is NOT WORTH IT! I stopped smoking the moment I found out I was preggers! My mother still smokes (outside only) and the smell of it makes me gag. DH is trying so hard to stop but slips up every now and again and I hate it!
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marias1983 (298.1 days ago)
You think they could sacrifice a weekend here and there and smoke outside when he`s there. My son`s father smokes in the house supposedly when he`s not there but i still smell the smoke on his clothes and blankies. I hate it! Let them know your kids` health will not be sacrificed for their selfish habit!
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naomijane (298.1 days ago)
I would stop my kids from going over til they can learn to respect your wishes! Here in california kids cant be in the vehicle with adults smoking and if a cops see you, you will get a ticket! When your parents miss your kids enough then maybe they can learn not to endanger his health for their own selfishness! What kind of person can even call themselves an adult while basically putting a cig in their kid`s mouth? I used to be a chronic smoker and I quit as soon as I found out I was pregnant if I can do that then they can be adult enough to keep the kid away!
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mommyof~2~ (298.1 days ago)
i do not take my kids to my husbands grandma house, they never see my kids due to the smoke filled house!!! it is hard to do yes but my kids are more importion then them smoking.. you just have to put your foot down and then they will get it... and if they cant get it they are not think of your kids frist
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xyummymummyx (298.2 days ago)
hiya ur not over-reacting! i have a 17 month old daughter and a baby soon (due today lol) and my hubbys parents both smoke. wen we`re at their house they just go into their kitchen to smoke but even then, their house stinks of smoke and wen we get home, all of our clothes smell like smoke! i hate it. they should consider the kids and our feelings. i dont think its right for anyone to smoke in front of kids, even if it is their own house. u should bluntly say to ur parents that if theyre not willing to make the effort not to smoke around ur kids, then u`ll stop taking them round. they can come to ur house where u can make sure they smoke outside. if they dont like it then tough luck. no one should have to sit and endure the disgusting smell of smoke, especially not kids! good luck! xXx
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second-time-mummy (298.2 days ago)
you`re not over reacting. these are your children and if they want to be able to look after your son on their own then they should abide by your wishes! Smoking is a horrible habit and it`s not one that you want your kiddies to see and grow up thinking it`s normal thing to do. My partner smokes, and although he has to smoke outside he still rolls his fags infront of our son. The other day my 2 year old said `daddy, can i have a cigarette?` which I think made my partner feel a bit guilty, but then my son has seen his father go and have cigarettes every day for all of his life, why shouldn`t he want to try one? he thinks it`s normal. so I`m on at my partner to give up!
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summerisis (298.2 days ago)
You`re NOT over-reacting. Not only is it selfish and setting a bad example for your child, your family is sending a clear message to you with regard to their priorities. I would have none of it! Good luck. I don`t envy you.
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summerisis (298.2 days ago)
You`re NOT over-reacting. Not only is it selfish and setting a bad example for your child, your family is sending a clear message to you with regard to their priorities. I would have none of it! Good luck. I don`t envy you.
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erphn (298.2 days ago)
The other posters said it all! Bottom line - your kid, your rules!
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lukesmyboy (298.2 days ago)
Can to tell your son that if they are smoking around him he needs to tell them to go outside, and if they are smoking outside he needs to go inside? I would be setting BIG TIME rules to them and if they cant follow them then my son wouldnt be going there.. I once left Christmas dinner at my ex in-laws becuase they were smoking inside and refused to stop even though my 6 month old was in the house.. they told me it was there house, they could do what they want... my husband and I left and never went to a family get together at that house again!
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monica9 (298.2 days ago)
i agree they shouldnt smoke around your child. his clothes shouldnt smell if they are smoking outside which means they probably are smoking inside. its hard b/c you cant tell them not to smoke the whole day when he is around. if that were the case then im sure they would quit if they could do that. but stepping outside for a couple of drags shouldnt make your son`s clothes smell. i definetly wouldnt let them hold the baby while they smell like stale smoke.
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mJamison (298.3 days ago)
Hey! Well I am kinda in the same boat.. Dont have the baby ( will soon) yet but I have a 6 year old step daughter.. My in laws do smoke outside for the most part but she still comes back smelling like smoke all the time. They say it is because she wants to come outside with them when they are smoking.. and they allow her too. but also I think the smell from just being around them.. it rubs off on them and because we dont smoke.. we just smell it more. so I kinda feel like there is not too much I can do about it. except we have told them that they are the adults and they need to tell her to stay inside.. well they smoke.. they can take turns smoking! Also have asked them to make sure when the baby comes if they are watching him to wash their hands and also spray like febreze on them before picking him up so the smell is less on him! But if they are smoking around them.. ( really in the house) I personally wouldnt allow them to go over.. yes it may be their house.. and they probably smoked around you.. but they need to respect your wishes for your child.. just my view.. good luck!
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