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mommy-2-B (196.5 days ago)
Until the talk about periods and eggs and stuff...I don`t see the point. I think they should understand the egg thing before you tell them...confusion could cause anxiety. You grew her inside of you. You are her mommy.

RobinG (197 days ago)
((())) I agree with what everyone said about sharing early ~ your little one will know how loved they are and how much they were wanted. And how unselfish someone was to do this for you to have a dream come true. I agree that waiting could cause problems. I would keep the wordage simple and age appropriate ~ just as sex is handle as kids grow ~ wording is chosen carefully and on a need to know basis based on age. Start off young by sharing that another woman was kind enough to help you have him and you are so greatful to her.

samanthaandbaby (197.3 days ago)
absoluties...my thoughts exactly

absoluties (197.4 days ago)
oh please give her a break! This is so NOT like adoption! And kids get freaked out about all that detailed medical talk. Giving them the sex talk can be confusing as it is (for them if not for you). Take your time, and you will know when your kid is ready, you will bring the subject up naturally, without making it sound like a defect the baby has. Remember, he`s a child, not an adult, so you don`t have to treat him like one and confuse him, unless he`s ready.

mommymeg (197.5 days ago)
I would say also that you shoud tell them as early as possible..not doing this may make them feel as if you are hiding something from them or that thery are betrayed in some way....If you tell them early they will know that you wanted a baby so bad you did what you had to do to have him/her. Congrats to you!

babymamarai (197.7 days ago)
THAT WOULD BE A HARD CHOICETO MAKE. IF YOU ARE GIVING BIRTH TO THE CHILD THEN WHAT MAKES THE DIFF. IF YOU DO DECIDE TO TELL THE CHILD TELL THEM WHEN THEY ASK WHERE BABIES COME FROM THEN YOU CAN TELL WHERE SHE/HE CAME FROM AND YOU CAN TELL HOW OTHER BABIES COME FROM, IF ITS FROM ADOPTION, DONERS OR HOW EVER IT MAY BE BUT THE CHILD MAY FEEL SPECIAL LIKE THE OTHERS HAVE STATED. YOU NEVER KNOW YOU HAVE ALOT OF TIME TO THINK ABOUT IT.

kater (197.8 days ago)
i would tell them very early.like danilynn said your baby will know they were REALLY wanted, and if they have this knowledge from a young age, i think it will be easier than if they found out later. you could try making up your own bedtime stories about a mother who badly wanted a child and a wonderful woman who made her dream come true. you will know when the time is right, but for medical reasons, they really do have to know.

danilynn (198.1 days ago)
Also- I see that someone voted never to tell them. I wouldn`t do that. Why? Well, should some health issue arise, knowing that the child is not biological, will help clear up confusion on doctor`s sheet (like med. history of parents and such) when the child is older and filling them out himself.

danilynn (198.1 days ago)
My sister was adopted by my dad. She knew at a way young age- so it was never a big deal. If you wait til the child is older, it may come as a shock. My sister just always knew through casual conversation so it never really hurt or anything that she was only a half-sibling. Also- there are tons of accidental pregnancies. But obviously this was planned. This child was REALLY wanted. Knowing that early on will help the child to know that he or she is loved. Make sure to stress that thoughout his or her life.



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