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babydoll24 (116.4 days ago)
the way i see it is there are no set rules written in stone. if you want to have a co-ed baby shower i say go for it. don`t do what everyone else is telling you, do it the way that you want it.

kateks (219.1 days ago)
I think that co-ed is fine unless all of your friends are women... then it might be awkward for the guys but they still deserve the chance to come! Also, I think showers are per baby, not couple. Just don`t throw one for yourself b/c that`s so tacky... maybe even think about having two. One for just family, women only. The other for friends, co-ed.

**Lubug** (220.7 days ago)
I am kinda going through this as well....i have a boy and a girl...now another girl on the way.....but i had my first daughter 5 years ago....i don`t have anything for a little lady....her father is not the father of my other two from a previous marriage.....and he would really like to have one and be involved ...(co-ed).........i`ve always been told they are only for your first.....but all my friends are saying it`s fine.....best of luck and let me know how it goes..i could use the help!

scrapr (221.4 days ago)
In my opinion baby showers are meant to welcome and celebrate the birth of a child. Why should you only welcome and celebrate a 1st child? If you feel uncomfortable asking for gifts then you can always say they are optional on the invitation. However, anyone who has had more than one child knows that there are still going to be things you need and will probably love to bring a gift. (So many items are perishable such as diapers, formula, not to mention needing to replace things that wear out). I also see no reason why you shouldn`t invite whomever you please. Men are just as excited about a new baby as women are. Congratulations on your twins!! I know you guys are thrilled. You should definitely celebrate with your friends.

jessicadarling (221.5 days ago)
IT IS YOUR BABY SHOWER!! I say boys should be aloud. I have a few gay friends and I will definitely be having boys at my shower. PLUS my shower is going to be after the baby is born so we are calling it a `welcome Baby` party so my bf will be there and he is bringing his friends because they all want to see the baby. I have no problem with it what-so-ever. I say it is your life, your shower, your babies, tell mom to shove it.

mommy-2-B (221.5 days ago)
They are your first twins :-) Listen, tell your mom that if people have a problem with it, they will choose not to come. Those who will enjoy it will be there, it`s not as though you are dragging people behind your car to make them go. Everyone I know had a shower for every kid.

raspberry (222.1 days ago)
ive heard no boys at the baby`s shower and my sister planned mine and had it that way but it didnt really affect me because only my hubby`s mom and sister came anwyays, none of his friends are into the baby stage yet lol. as for not having showers for any baby but the first - my mom says thats how they did it with their kids (shes got 1 brother and 3 sisters with kids) but im not 100% sure if i agree with this or not. im 11 wks pregnant with my second and im not sure whats going to happen yet. do what YOU feel is right. if you`re not comfortable inviting your family because of this tradition, maybe you should only invite friends and close coworkers?

summerisis (222.2 days ago)
Here is a link to a site that is a little more traditional when it comes to etiquette but isn`t completely old fashioned. I think that the key is who you invite and to not look like you`re simply looking for hand-outs, which is what your mother might be afraid of. --> http://ezinearticles.com/?Proper-Baby-Shower-Etiquette&id=224121

erphn (222.3 days ago)
I see nothing wrong with it. Call it a `Welcome Baby` party, make it co-ed, have ppl come over and meet baby almost like an open house (ie Come meet the twins between 1-3pm). Mention nothing about gifts, odds are ppl will bring something anyways

kater (222.4 days ago)
who made this rule about having only one shower? ive never heard of it. im australian, maybe they do things differently in other parts of the world, but i say go for it!

MJamison (222.4 days ago)
It used to be that way that you only were given one for your first baby.. Times have changed! And I think it is great that your man wants to be there and his friends! I couldnt get mine to go to mine!If you have to throw it yourself.. then I would! I think people just understand with the cost of the baby stuff! Good Luck!

butterfly034 (222.4 days ago)
In my opinion, just becasue this will be your 3rd and 4th babys, it`s their FIRST time in the world and it`s perfectly fine to celebrate them as much as possible. Your friends and family will want to celebrate with you! I had 3 differnt baby showers with my baby boy: 1st with friends at work (there were 3 of us that were preggo all at the same time! So we had a combined shower) 2nd with family and the 3rd with all of our friends (we did a big BBQ &beer with girls and guys). Some family members or friends might find it awkward to be mixed with other family/friends so have 2 seprate ones!! Celebrate as much and as often as you can! These babys are the one and only them and there`s no one in the world like them and never will be! Good luck and congrats on twins!!!

RobinG (222.5 days ago)
Some places the first baby is typically the shower but that doesnt apply when you have twins cause now you need double. Plus many also have showers each time, my MIL did for us :) I say have one anyways, ask a friend if she will be the host and then invite your friends and those family members you think will not mind coming ~ (())

magnolia76 (222.5 days ago)
If I were you I would have a co-ed baby shower. I did, with both my children, and it was nice, because my mom and dad are NOT together, and my dad was able to come and celebrate with us about having a new baby (along with my husband, brother, grandpa, friends, and etc..). And I personally think that only having a shower for the 1st baby, is silly, I think every baby should be celebrated, no matter how man children you have. People should be just has happy about the 3rd as they were the 1st, in my opinion. Invite everyone and have fun.



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