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lolablitz (81.5 days ago)
I think you should definitely give him your last name! Be proud of being such a good mama and bringing up this child all on your own. The baby`s father doesn`t deserve that kind of recognition- You Do!! Congrats and take care!

kimmarie (161.5 days ago)
It`s a personal choice and not one that anyone can make for you. Your conscience will tell you what is right. Personally, I gave my son his father`s name and I `thought` he was going to be in his life. He was in the beginning. Now that he is 7 - he barely comes around. Luckily, I was smart enough to go to court and add my last name hyphenated by his. It has also been changed legally on his birth certificate. I figured since I was the one raising/caring for him then he should also carry my name However, by my son`s choice he only uses my last name cause he is really angry with his father right now for not seeing him. He says that his father`s name embarrasses him. These are his words...Good luck and take care.

naomijane (164.4 days ago)
I`m not married to my baby`s daddy (lol) but I`m giving him his daddy`s name..its his first born son and we plan to get married when we can afford it...but if you don`t plan on staying with or you aren`t with your baby`s daddy I would try a compromise by using both last names..that is if it matters to you that he has your last name. Hope that helps good luck with your new baby!

ready (164.4 days ago)
I was not married when I had my son. I gave him his dad`s name.

posie (164.4 days ago)
I also think that if the father is very active you could give him the same name. No chance of getting married? It`s a tough question because you want others to know he`s yours as well. Good luck! Both sounds good, maybe hyphenated?

1sttimebabymama696 (166 days ago)
If he is an active father than give the baby his last name. My fiance`s daughter doesn`t have his last name and he resents her mother for that a lot because he is a good father and our kids will have his last name but she doesn`t. Even if he is a loser in the end, your child is still apart of him and should have his last name.

kateks (166.2 days ago)
It`s hard. I would give him the father`s if he is involved in the pregnancy and birth. Otherwise, use your own.

firstandexcited (166.4 days ago)
I would say it depends. If you know that the father will be in the childs life, then I would give the baby the fathers last name. But if the dad is a deadbeat, or if you are unsure he will always be there for them, then I would say give them your last name, or hypenate it!

kater (166.9 days ago)
i have some friends in this position, they had their daughter, who had her mothers last name because they weren`t married, and were having difficulty`s at the time of her birth, so the mother put `unknown` for the father. the daughter grew up and the parents got married and had another child, a son who has the dads last lame. now at school the teachers and school friends think the little girls father isn`t her biological father, and its a pain to change it, he now has to adopt his own child! id say hyphenate the name, it would make things easter long term

RobinG (167.1 days ago)
I say either both your names or his but not just yours ((()))

momofboys (167.1 days ago)
Your boyfriends. If ya`ll get married later you will all share the same name. If not, well it`s just tradition so up to you.

lindsayl (167.1 days ago)
I think your looking for what sounds better (which I like Jayson Malik Davadi). But I`m in the same position you are in. Not married to my boyfriend, and throughout my pregnancy we have agreed to just give the baby his last name. But I`ve been hesitant lately and I want to make my last name kinda like a second middle name or hyphinate it. (Carter John Kastl Slezak). But my bf said it sounds like he`s coming from a broken family. And I was like, DUH!! he kinda is. WE`RE NOT MARRIED DUMBY!! so who knows, i dunno what to do. what reasons are you doing the name thing for?



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