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jenny504 (212.2 days ago)
My son was 3 when i miscarried at 13 weeks. We had told him we were having a baby. When i miscarried i just never said anything to him about the baby and he must have forgot b/c he never asked anything about the baby.

april mcspadden (212.5 days ago)
well...thats tough becuase I agree on one hand do not tell them more than they are ready for, but children know things weahter we tell them or not, alot of people seem to think children dont know anything. they are acutally VERY smart. and depending on how mature the child id for there age Our little girl was about 2 when we lost our baby and the wierd thing about it was we hadnet said anything to her at first, and she came up to my belly and kissed it and said bye bye baby...and was waving goodbye to the baby. With our last child whos 7 months now, we went through a sketchy part of the pregnancy and she was about 4 years old, and we told her that the baby might be sick and she might not be able to meet him, and that was somehting she totally understood. My sister just lost her baby and that what we told her also, the baby was sick and it died. She was sad, but she understood. Why lie to a child? you can tell them without being graphic of course.

prettymomma (212.6 days ago)
I lost a baby the day before my wedding and at the time my son was two and a bit. We explained to him that the baby went to live in heaven and we would try again to have another one. He semmed ok with that. I think the most important thing is not to say more or give them more of an explanation than they are ready for.



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