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Caracaya (202.2 days ago)
Both my finance and I are atheists. I was never baptized and I am actually proud of that. My parents always said they wanted me to make that decision myself once I was old enough - what a great idea. I couldn`t care less if my family would want me to baptize our child, but if you need something more sensitve to tell them, why don`t you tell them you want your child to make his/her own decision about religion when s/he is old enough? Good luck.

vikki (202.4 days ago)
I guess the real issue here is WHY you feel ashamed. I personly am a traditional catholic ) in the Latin rite)and would advocate baptism HOWEVER I`m curious that if you truely feel the way that you say and for the reason that you`ve stated, then why do you feel shame? I have the opposite going on with the family I come from. They can not understand our faith and desire for baptism. But I don`t feel the guilt or the shame that they try to place upon me or accept that I`m somehow `stupid` as they would also like to try and have me accept. No, I stand by my belifes and am not swayed. So If your feeling the pull, maybe there is something that you haven`t really ready to let go of. And ok, if you do not belive, what harm to you is it if you do have your child baptised?( Please be sure that all I say here is with gentlenss and not harshness. I realise that the typed word can come across as cold.) I wish you all the best and pray for you and yours.:-)

cahlika (206.7 days ago)
Mine daughters are not christened and I dont intend them to ever be. This horrified thier fathers mother but it was OUR choice. DO NOT do anything just to please someone else

annette (207.8 days ago)
i don`t think that a baby can sin so i don`t think that he or she should be baptised till they are older and can make thier own choices. that is just my opinion, your family should trust your judgement. my family (well my fathers side) want me to aswel but i told them i don`t follow the religion and luckly they are ok about it now.

erphn (208.1 days ago)
Stick to your guns. It will make sense for me when it`s my time - as my husband is going to be a minister. I hate it when people treat baptism as an immunization!

kathleen (208.1 days ago)
don`t give in, just tell them u want your child to decide if he/she want to get baptized when he/she is old enough to decide themselfs

mlmmdjm (208.2 days ago)
My great grandfather was a protestant minister, however my mother decided to let me choose my beliefs when I was old enough. My hubby on the other hand grew up in a strict catholic family, even went to youth groups throughout his childhood. What`s funny is I wanted our kids baptized and he didn`t. I can`t go to a church that`s not my faith and ask for it (I guess there`s rules about such things) and he has no interest in it. My daughter is very religious, I have taught her about God any time she asks. With #3 on the way I`m trying to push the baptism for all 3 at the same time. If you don`t feel comfortable DON`T DO IT. You and your hubby are the ones who get to decide and NOONE else. Don`t feel guilty about it either your faith is what your children will be brought up on and it`s not up to the family what they do. Stand strong on this one it`s a biggie if you cave on this it`s most likely just going to be the start of nothing but headaches down the road on other issues.

summerisis (208.3 days ago)
I would pick my battles and in this case I`d be generous and let my family coordinate and host a baptism. But I`d make sure that they know that ythis is a gift from you to the, because you love and respect them.

blueyedxdemon (208.3 days ago)
I`ll be going down this road soon myself. I`m not religious. I don`t have any religious ties either. My husband is not religious either...but his family background is morman (he doesn`t practice though). I honestly do not see a point in having the child baptized either. but it is our personal opinion. for in laws, i think if mine ask me what is gonna happen i`m just gonna tell them that it`s me and my husbands choice and its our daughter. End of story lol. I wish you luck and hope everything goes well.

AprilChristine (208.3 days ago)
I`m kinda having the same problem. My husband and I consider ourselves agnostic. I was never really brought up in a church. My mother had me baptized as methodist, to please my fathers family. but she always told me she would have wanted to wait and let me decide for myself someday what I wanted to believe in. Which I essentially I did anyway. One of the big things that attracted my to my hubby is that we have the same beliefs. I have told my MIL numerous times, and so has he, where we stand when it comes to religion but she just blows us off. got the baby a god loves you book already, which I expressed my dislike about. which his sister then snorted and said `oh , not that again`. they dont take us seriously. at babys r us last weekend, his mom was looking at the christening dresses. she just assumes were gonna have it done. I have tried nicely to get our point across, but no luck. I`m very irrational at this point in the pregnancy, the hubby says, so i`m just gonna avoid the situation till after I give birth. Thats not very good advice, lol, I dont have any good advice for you. But at least you know your not the only one in this sticky situation. :), good luck.

sarahlynn (208.3 days ago)
My son Preston was baptized and so will my twins. I really think that it is a personal decision for the parents to decide. What you wrote in the comments is perfect to tell your family, I think that could actually change someones mind. Good luck!

jeanette (208.4 days ago)
The reason I don`t want him to be baptized is that it is a ritual that cleanses the soul of sin. I don`t believe in origional sin (that a baby is not innocent, but born with a soul tarnished by the sins passed on through the generations all the way back to Adam and Eve`s expulsion from the garden). People actually make me feel ashamed to not have it done, which makes me mad at myself a little. Plus, I don`t want to indoctrinate him into a religion I`m not a part of (Catholocism).



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