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heatmacd (137 days ago)
I am almost in the same situation. My BF and i have been togethr for 6 years and have always known we would eventually get married. Neither of us are in a rush. I have decided to give my baby his last name because I know that we will eventually be married. i have many friends who chose to hyphenate the two last names and drop the moms last name once they got married so everyone had the same name. I totally understand your opinion of giving it your name if you feel as though marriage was not in your future!

softkitty (138.6 days ago)
I would hyphenate the baby`s name.

Andrea1222 (141.7 days ago)
I was in the same situation for a while. I initially gave my son MY last name because, I am the one taking him to doctor appointments, i will be the one taking him to school, and on field trips and to church and just doing everything for him, why should he have a different last name than me? I am just as much his mother as his dad is his father, but im glad i had the right to that decision. you are carrying and making that baby for 9 months and going through everything for that baby, give the baby YOUR last name, you can always change it if you get married later like me and my husband now, it was very easy and simple to do.

kdub8321 (142.9 days ago)
If the Dad isn`t willing to commit then what is the point or purpose of letting the baby have his name...besides if you don`t get married it won`t be as confusing with the paper work stuff in life with you both having the same name as a pose to having each different names.

daisybaby (154.9 days ago)
i`m not married so i gave her my last name as a middle name and his last name. we may get married, we may not, it doesn`t really matter to me. i don`t really want to spend money on a wedding. we would just get hitech at the court house but i know MY family would flip if i didn`t do something bigger. i wanted my last name in there anyway because my last name will die with me if i don`t pass it on.

Christina1984 (154.9 days ago)
i would hyphenate the name. thats what im going to do, we plan to marry but not until after the baby is born. my daughter has her dead beat dads name and i would love to change it when i marry but he wont allow it

KarenVG (155 days ago)
My husband says if he is not ready to commit even with a baby on the way he might not ever commit. He says go with your name, cause if he leaves she has your name and life is easier for you. I am usually a traditional girl but I think this guy either needs a wake up call or he may go... I also say go with your name

bikerchick77 (155.2 days ago)
I gave both to my son. its double barrelled. Were not married and i dont think getting married will make any difference to the relationship. Were together 12 yrs !! At the end of the day he is always gonna be his son no matter what happens x

rosea2 (155.2 days ago)
it sounds like your playing a game. like maybe this curveball your throwing in there might force your bf to marry you. if you both know your going to marry eachother at some point, this wouldnt be an issue. your reason just sounds too generic to me. if my husband and i werent married, but planne dtoo, i`d want my baby to have his last name. if it were a situation where i didnt really know the guy too well, or we havent been together that long, or it simply wasnt moving in that direction, i would choose to use my name. If your bf marries you now bc of this, both of you would look back at the way you got married as a mistake. like he was sort of bullied into the whole thing. i know, that harsh, but i am just being real. in your heart, do you truely see you and bf married? if not, give the baby your name.

riknlee (155.4 days ago)
I would give your baby YOUR name or hypenate it if you must. I have 3 daughters and was married when preg with the 2nd one. All the kids have my ex`s name. Now that I am remarried and we are having a baby together we wanted to change the kids names to my new hubby`s but cant do it unless ex agrees or we have to take him to court at a big expense. I thought having his name would make him feel more involved but it obviously has no bearing in the end.

ll bree ll (155.6 days ago)
im somewhat in the same situation..but were not going to be married legally for a while. so im hyphenating it. that way she has mine and his :D

fudgeethewhale (155.6 days ago)
I say give her your last name and then when the day comes that you do marry, you can both have your names legally changed. Why give him the honor of the last name, if he won`t give you the honor of marriage?

masha (155.6 days ago)
i would aslo give ur baby his name. me and my huby arrnt ligally married either yet, although we plan to. i gave my girls his namr and would have even if we dont grt arried.

Christians Momma81908 (155.6 days ago)
i say his because when you do get married you`ll all have the same last name. if you give her your last name then get married you wont have the same last name as your child anyway.

Christians Momma81908 (155.6 days ago)
i say his because when you do get married you`ll all have the same last name. if you give her your last name then get married you wont have the same last name as your child anyway.

RobinG (155.6 days ago)
I would give his name or both, not just yours ~ I would look into the laws too ~ my friend was like you and she gave her son her name and later when they did marry he had to go through a normal adoption procedure to `adopt` his own son so he had his last name, she said she wished she had known that cause she would have used both or just his name (())



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