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soon2be momma d (210.3 days ago)
I was also a TTC mom and felt similarly. I`m not sure if you just left it out or don`t think it, but I think an important adjective you left out that alot of women aren`t understanding is `irresponsible` teen-mothers. Last year, right after my wedding anniversary, I miscarried for the 3rd time - when we went into the doctor`s office for my exam I lost my cool. I started hyperventilating and crying hysterically - right there in front of me was a young girl no more than 15 years old, snapping her gum, whining about being at the dr, wearing flip flops and a tummy baring shirt, talking on her cell phone to a friend while HUGELY pregnant. I felt rage like I have never felt before in my life. My husband is several years older than me, I had been told by 3 other doctors that my chances of getting pregnant even with help would be next to nothing, we had been told adoption would start at 60k and I had already suffered miscarriages. My husband told me later he thought I was going to hit the young girl - instead I sank to the floor and had to be sedated. I got help for my depression and my husband I decided to wait a year with no pressure then begin IVF. Before we could, God gave us a miracle. I suffered another miscarriage after the one I just mentioned and it never gets easier and I will freely admit that I feel much more than `sour` to not just irresponsible teen moms, but to ALL irresponsible parents. I think what you are feeling is completely normal, but you need to love yourself enough to take steps to prevent it from eating you up inside. I noticed you are young but that does not mean you are not entitled to your feelings. It`s healthy you are asking all of us our thoughts - it will give you guidance - that is what we are all here for. To help each other through TTC, pregnancy and being mommies. I wish all of God`s blessings on you. Stay in touch and if you want to talk - I am here. Good Luck!
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MommaOf2PinkNBlue (210.5 days ago)
By the way, I can`t stand teen girls who get pregnant decide to have the baby and them just drop them off at a relatives house or have their mother raise them so they can go to a night club. Like I said i was a teen mom and people looked at me badly, but I wanted my baby and she goes with me everywhere, she was planned and I live with no regrets but I definately can`t stand those girls who make the rest of us young moms look bad.
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MommaOf2PinkNBlue (210.5 days ago)
It definately isn`t just teens moms people of all ages can get pregnant and not want to be. I was a teen mom, I got pregnant at 16 and I definately wanted my baby, she is now 3 and my pride and joy. I think it`s normal to feel envy and jealousy of people who can get pregnant so easily but don`t tackle teens girls, the ones who end up pregnant just arent thinking about anything but their hormones, older women can be just as stupid by not protecting themselves.
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luvlylillatina84 (211 days ago)
When I found out I may never be able to have children, I definitely felt that way towards teen moms who didnt seem to care much about their babies, like some in my husbands family, but I also made sure to remember that not all teen moms are negligent or dont care, many of them can be great moms and it made me happy to see beautiful babies with good moms, teens or not. Anywho, I have become pregnant though this may be my one and only seeing as I may have cervical cancer >.<. Everyone situation is unique, you`ll get your turn and I hope when you do, you are a great mom :) Good luck :)
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daisymum2be (213.4 days ago)
I think it`s normal to feel sour against people who have babies but dont want babies - but if the teen mum or people who get pregnant on purpose but very easily really wants the baby then good for them! And age shouldnt count. Besides, you`ll get your turn one day! x
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kelly.m (215.2 days ago)
Why are you habving a go at teen moms? The are surly not the only people getting pregnant around you, dont you think they take enough flack? Sorry to say but it is nobody elses fault that you have not fallen pregnant. I took me 6 years to get pregnant.
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cdr (215.2 days ago)
I think it is perfectly normal to feel that way. Maybe not politically correct to say it out loud....but normal!
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youngmamiof3 (216 days ago)
I really think you should re-word that comment. I`m 19 and expecting my 3rd baby me and their father who is 22 love and support our children on our own. I do however understand where u are comming from when it comes to teens who just want a baby cuz they think its cool and then neglect them however not all of us our bad parents. Im a much better mother then a lot of `adults` I know! Goodluck ttc though I was adopted because my mother wasn`t able to have babies and I couldn`t imagine going through that. But please don`t judge all of us in that way.
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BabyGonzales (216.5 days ago)
I just looked at your profile and noticed that you are 20 years old. You are not that far from a teen and you have lots of time to have children. Im sure it will happen when the time is right.
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BabyGonzales (216.5 days ago)
Okay I can understand if you have anger towards the ones who mistreat their babys or children but that has nothing to do with just `teens`. I was a teen mother before and it was hard but I love my daughter and dont regret having her. I dont think you should direct it towards teen moms.. any mother can mistreat their child no matter what age they are. So to me its like you have something against teen mothers and you are discrimination or stereo typing. I just think that whether they wanted to fall pregnant or not its still a blessing from God and no baby is a mistake or accident.
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kater (217.1 days ago)
i think its very normal to feel angry toward anyone who is given this great blessing of motherhood and abuses it. i spent 5 years ttc after my fist child as born, and one of my good friends had 2 abortions in this time. i was so angry at her for not seeing her blessings, for being totally irresponsible in the first place to get pregnant when she had no intention of having the baby, and also just plain jealous, because she had what i so desperately wanted. i actually haven`t spoken to her for a long time now, and i doubt our friendship will ever be the same
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*AJLS* (217.2 days ago)
Ok - I`m not a teen mom, but I`m a single mom-to-be and I`ve had SO much judgement passed against me, (OBGYN, hairdresser, etc) that it would be a blessing if you would see EVERY PREGNANCY as a blessing and not perpetuate the negativity that surrounds these people. Seriously. Good luck to you, but don`t hate me.
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teenyxtotx88x (217.4 days ago)
i also feel sour, but i feel sour towards ppl that generalise that its all TEEN MUMS! ... for one, women off all ages get pregnant, and its not planned...... for two, some teens make great parents ...... 3, `teen` is a wide age range... being 13 and pregnant and 19 and pregnant are veryyyy different things! and 4 - generalising and stereotyping isnt exaclty fair wen no two people are the same... regardless of age!
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christina1984 (217.5 days ago)
i dont think so. i get so angry when u hear about teens throwing babies in trash cans and people having abortions when there are so many couples who would love to have a child and cant.
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jeanette (217.5 days ago)
i missworded my comment. It`s not the orphans that anger me, it`s the culture of this planet that angers me. Every child should have a loving home, but many never will.
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jeanette (217.5 days ago)
What really makes me angry, are the millions of children who don`t have families and are up for adoption. Billions of dollars are spent each year on fertility treatments. Think what could be done with that money to help the children who are already here and motherless.
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Prego-No2 (217.5 days ago)
Also, what about the woman who continue to use drugs while pregnant and deliver babies who are addicted to something and developmentally have no chance of being normal. This makes me wonder how these woman are blessed with children and so many TTC are not!! A good debate would be...How do we regulate that issue? Is it the governments place to control these woman?....Sorry, had to throw it in, it just really irks me!
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sadielady (217.5 days ago)
i understand. i am twenty and pregnant with my second baby. my moms best friend has been trying to concieve for a few years, and i was just thinking the other day how she must feel towards me. i understand what you mean and i dont think its wrong at all. it isnt fair how some of the most unfit mothers are popping out babies left and right, and some couples who would make amazing parents are never able to. good luck to you!
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Prego-No2 (217.5 days ago)
All babies are blessings however, with the abortion rate at 3,700, every DAY in the US. That equates to 1.37 MILLION per YEAR. Worldwide, there are approximately 46 MILLION per YEAR. This is incredibly disheartening for those who are TTC. How many of those baby`s could be in the arms of loving mommies and daddies who couldn`t conceive their own child? The teen mom doesn`t make me sour, the abortion thing does. Amen to OhioMomma, I`m sure things were difficult for you and selflessly you brought him into the world and I`m sure are doing an amazing job-kudos.
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RobinG (217.6 days ago)
Completely normal ~ I often think of those poor babies who are killed by moms (teen and adults alike) who didnt want/plan them after they are born thinking SO many CANT have babies and you did and killed it ~ it is normal to feel as you do ~ it shows how much you long for a baby ~ and how much love you have for a child of your own :) Never give up ~ .. Ohio momma shes not mad at you, it is more an indirect emotion ~ its more of a person feel sad for themselves cause they want one so badly and yet those who dont even try are blessed sooner ~ its not to be taken personal ~ it is just an emotion one cant control and completely normal and one that if you were trying and not able to get pregnant you`d feel too, it isnt just about teen moms though, it can be anyone who has an unplanned pregnancy, any age, so easily while others try for so long and cant ~
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alex76 (217.6 days ago)
Although I`ve had my baby, I can totally synpathise with you. My friend had 4 miscarriages and a stillborn and tried IVF 3 times. She gets really upset when she hears about people conceiving or stories on the news about people neglecting their children. It breaks my heart because I can`t think of anyone else more deserving of a child than her.
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kathleen (217.7 days ago)
i`m not ttc but i guess the way u are feeling would be normal but i don`t think u should just be sour towards teen girls as their are alot of older women who get pregnant who didn`t want to aswell.
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