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sleeang (1332 days ago)
its not the fact they are there is the uncertainty of what you will do with them when you need to go to hospital. im in the same boat my 2 yr old step son is with us every weekend but luckily we have our families and his own mum less than 20mins away. All you need to do is organise with her or a family member that as soon as somethign happens they need to be prepared to come collect them. someone could always meet you at the hospital to take care of them - dont worry you will be fine!

jenny504 (1346.4 days ago)
I am in a relationship with NO stepchildren. I have two kids with my hubby now! But i have been in prior relationships where there were stepchildren, like 3 diff relationships and it never worked out cause i was selfish and and wanted to have kids with someone who never experianced it before and i found that i just could not cope with someones elses children, x-wife, and just the disipline issues that surround it. Anyways that said, this is your first pregnancy, you are hormonal, uncomfortable, tired and restless all at the same time, i say it would not hurt the stepkids to stay home for a weekend. You have enough to worry about. And yes i would try and love and understand them like they were own but the fact is they aren`t and no matter how much you get along you have a right to have a stress free FIRST pregnancy as your step kids mother did. Do not feel guilty about it. They will have tons of other weekends to enjoy with you and the baby and i am sure then they will be a great help to you.

HailynBaby (1346.6 days ago)
I completly understand what you getting at. Im sure alot of the people that left nasty comments don`t have step children so they wouldn`t understand. My step son is almost 4 and requires alot of attention. I love him and want him any chnce we can get him but My husband and I will make arrangements to switch weekends when we think it could be getting close to time. This is my first baby and not to sound selfish but I`m a little freaked and want my husbands attention soley on me. I would love him to come visit in the hospital once we have the baby but I feel uncomfortable with his mother being there so we`ll have to work somehting out around that too. I feel for you though I`m in the same boat.

mana (1347.1 days ago)
Just wanted to say, I read your poll how you intended people to read it and didn`t think you were being mean at all just concerned. It will all work out in the end. Good luck by the way your nursery is beautiful.

kelly.m (1347.2 days ago)
Hey Ladies cheers for the comments on my poll. At the end of it I DID say that they are great kids and we do get on!!! I think just I didnt explain myself very well or people just arent reading right! My worry is we have absolutly nothing to do with them at night time. My family and friends live 2 hours away, Their mum is usuless and dosnt drive, plus I dont really want her anywhere near my house, shes a pshyco and has alreadys broken into our old house beofre!!!! Gavs sister is the only person that we could use but she is also pregnant and due 5 days after me and alreday has 2 kids of her own so we can not expect her to get up and come babbysit in the middle of the night. Im just too scared to get Gav to tell the ex that they cant stay, as they are going through the divorce and if we break the arrangement then she can cause all sorts of trouble.!!!!! What a friggin nightmare. We are planning on moving closer to my family so next time im pregnant it wont be such a hassle.

Jadens*MaMa (1347.3 days ago)
but i also think you should love them like they were your own...! no matter what

Jadens*MaMa (1347.3 days ago)
why dont you just ask if they could stay with mom til after the baby is born cuz the way i look at it is your preg and thats wat you want so thats wat you get!!LOL ...it seems to be alot easier than tring to get them home when you go into labor..YOU KNOW!!!

emy (1347.4 days ago)
ummm. They can always go to the hospital with you. I am sure someone would be more than willing to come and pick them up.

number2intheoven (1347.5 days ago)
I have a 6 year old and his dad lives over 2 hours away. Someone will stay with him until his dad gets here, which I am sure someone will be willing to do in your case. I think you`re overreacting a little and the way your worded your post seems really mean. Your first labor will probably be about 15 hours. I am sure someone will get the kids before you have the baby.

RobinG (1347.5 days ago)
I misunderstood your post too ~ thought that you didnt want them there cause they were step ~ if you are nervous of them being there then hubby needs to change arrangements with their mom ~ she either has to agree to jump in car and come get them if you are sent to hospital, agree to drive to hospital and get them or they need to not be there for over night. Thing is they are his kids and although very much a reason for concern if you go into labor at night, they are no different then if you had other children at home and needed to make arrangements for them. If you decide to have another child someday you will be in same boat so should approach it just as you will then ~ have a plan on who to call and what to do ~ anyone who has multiple kids makes plans for what to do should you go into labor at night so that is what you need to do ~ when I was in labor my older son stayed with my best friend ~ since we had no family here :) Although some go into labor & deliver very fast most dont ~ and they can tell the onset or beginning of labor and have time to make arrangements even if at night ~ you just need a plan ~ like I said if you have another child someday you`ll need a plan then too so do the same as you would do then ~

alex76 (1347.6 days ago)
Apologies Kelly, if that`s your worry then you definitely have a valid reason not to have them there

kelly.m (1347.6 days ago)
I think you all have me wrong....I mean that I am due any day and could with out the extra worry of what to do with them if I go into labour in the middle of the night!!!!! They live miles away and my family are 2 hours away and Gavs family dont drive so he would have to take them home and leave me on my own for an hour!!!!!

alex76 (1347.6 days ago)
I dont have this situation but my friend at work did. When she was pregnant she made comments about her step son. It didnt bother me as I was pregnant too and put it down to hormones but 4 women in our team complained and she was moved away from us. I think it`s probably you`re hormones too.

LKLmama (1347.6 days ago)
WOW... just WOW.



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