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kristenpaxton (83.5 days ago)
I have truly bonded with all of my children b4 they were even born...but those first few seconds at seeing them created a much more intense bond. I talk to my belly all the time, sing to him and hold him...i love this little guy already. Its amazing to me that not all women are like that??
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babeemama (84.9 days ago)
with my first it was instand with my second i was going through a divorce with the babies father and working full time i didnt feel like totally connected until she ws 4 mths old i remember the day i took a picture of her and everything...i am not sure it matters to much becasue i love her more than anything just like my son and she is 12 now
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lskill (85.2 days ago)
I didn`t get to see my kids for 24 hours because I was so sick. Although she spent a few weeks in the NICU, the first time I held her was when I felt the connection. However, I did not have other kids to go home to so I stayed in the hospital with her the entire time.
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shelleyrae33 (85.2 days ago)
It`s different for everyone. I think it depends a lot on what stage of your life you are in. I was young when I had my first, and didn`t really feel a bond with him for a few weeks. This baby is very differnt and I already feel a huge bond with him!
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kater (87.8 days ago)
it took me a couple of months to really bond after my daughter was born, as others have said, i loved her, but i didnt really feel a connection for a while, i was very uncertain of my skills as a mother, i put a lot of pressure on myself to be perfect, not realizing theres no such thing as a perfect mother...once i realized i could relax, and that others wanted to help, it wasnt because i was doing it `wrong` i relaxed and began to really enjoy my baby and thats when the bonding really intensified
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~NyMom (87.9 days ago)
I felt a connection no sooner than I found out I was pregnant and giving birth to my babies made me fall in love and care for them even more.
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agonzales (88 days ago)
With my first baby I was really young and a baby myself. I felt a bond with her while pregnant but after she was born it took a few days. I guess cause I was afraid and clueless on how to take care a baby and never been around babies at that time. With my second I bonded with her right away and even during pregnancy. Same with this one Im carrying now. Not sure how I will be when he arrives. =)
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hotpotaaaaato (88.1 days ago)
I thought I had bonded with my daughter while pregnant... but when she was born I didn`t feel a rush of emotions. When we came home from the hospital I had baby blues so bad that I really resented and hated my daughter for maybe 2-3 weeks. I would cry when left alone with her and would call people cause I didn`t want to be left alone with someone I hated. it was very bad baby blues... and I talk about it openly in case anyone I know encounters it. She is the love of my life now... but it took a couple weeks.
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jenakers (88.1 days ago)
I had a really rough pregnancy. They didn`t think I would deliver a live baby. Had an emergency C section completely unconcious. Almost 12 hours later and under heavy medication I saw my baby hard wired to machines in a bubble in the nicu. At 3 pounds he didn`t look like a baby yet. My dad said he looked like a skinned squirrel! Lol. I couldn`t hold him til 3 days after he was born. They didn`t know if he would make it so I was affraid to get attached even though I WAS! It probably wasn`t til he was about 3 months until I really BONDED with him although I loved him from the start.
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monica9 (88.2 days ago)
i felt the bond right when she came out, but the bond wasnt really a true bond/connection until the first time she smiled at me which was around 5 weeks. before that it felt like she wanted nothing more than to stare at the ceiling or out the window when she was alert, not at me. I felt bad and disconnected to her. Now for the last couple of weeks (she is now 7 weeks old), she follows my face, smiles, laughs and actually stops crying when she hears my voice. It gives me so much joy to know she feels comfort around me and now i know what a real bond is. good luck
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candace3 (88.2 days ago)
My first one...she was almost 3 months old...my 2nd one spent the first 3 months in the NICU, so not really until she came home and my 3rd was the minute they handed her to me. With every child and circumstance it is different. It may depend on the mother`s age as well.
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