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AshleyMary (79 days ago)
I find it funny that so many of you have problems with people calling their partners `husband or wife` when not married. I find it weird calling my partner `boyfriend` after being together so long and about to have a second child together. We have no plans on getting married and honestly don`t see the big deal with having a peice of paper saying you are married to be able to use these terms. In the governments eyes we are married, pay taxes like any other married couple, so whats the problem?

carla81 (79.9 days ago)
Like RobinG, I also had to take off my wedding rings due to crazy swelling in my fingers. My hubby and I both look very young (we were 25 & 27 when I was pregnant) and people would look at me all the time as if to say `look at those silly young kids having a baby`. I know we look young, but we`d been married for 3 yrs before falling pregnant and our pregnancy was planned and not an accident. I`m very proud to be married to my husband and lovet o wear my wedding rings - I hated not having them on. But each to their own and I also believe that people can be in a lifelong, committed relation without the marriage certificate. Everyone is different and some times `marriage` does not work for everyone. I do, however, agree with some of the other comments that unless you`re married, don`t call your `partner` your husband or wife - because they`re not. No offence intended.

kater (80.1 days ago)
i have a pet peeve with people calling their significant other their `husband` or `wife` when they are not married. i went through a lot of time effort and money to get married, and i hate it when people falsely use the term. i love being married, i have a great husband, i am so happy and proud to have the husband i have-but i dont care if others aren`t married and they have children, it makes no difference, i dont think badly of those who arnt. i too, like RobinG, had to take off my wedding band while i was pregnant, and i hated it. i love my husband and am proud to be such a caring and loving mans wife, i want that physical acknowledgment of our relationship. i just feel that we went trough so much getting married, i feel it cheapens the general persons view of marriage id the term is used so loosely

evamac (80.1 days ago)
I was with india`s dad for 8 years and we weren`t married, and my present partner who I am with now no marriage either!! yes it is annoying, as though the relationship hasnt as much grounding compared to someone who is married...which is crap in my eyes....whats important to me is being happy, marriage is not an issue....and is expensive!! id rather spend the money on taking the whole family on holiday personally lol

MelissaJoanne (80.3 days ago)
I totally agree with mumsy! It always strikes me as strange when people talk about their `husband`, when it is actually their fiance, boyfriend, partner, whatever. There are certainly people in serious committed lifetime relationships with people whom they are not married to, which is fine if marriage is not important to you, but that does not make them your husband. It`s not just a term of endearment to toss around. If you want a man to be called your husband, marry him. If marriage is not important to you, or if you`re not married yet, don`t call him your husband. And Holly28, your question and comment make complete sense - marriage + husband were not as good for you as your current relationship is, so why would others call it what it`s not? I`m glad you have a good BF that makes you happy (and a cute daughter!)

ginger (80.3 days ago)
I manage a busy sports bar and you wouldn`t believe the number of people who ask the rudest questions!!! `Do you know who the dad is?` and `Is the father in the picture?` What the f$#*? I have been in a relationship for almost 5 years! They assume that I am some kind of whore or something because I tend bar. Idiots.

mumsy (80.3 days ago)
What irritates me is when people refer to their partners as husband or wife when they are not actually married!! If you want the title, you`ve got to make that final commitment I think.

Holly28 (80.3 days ago)
It doesn`t insult me when people call my b/f my hubby or ask questions about my `husband` it just bothers me that so many people assume that he is my husband-even my own mother has started referring to him as my hubby. I have a husband and the man I am with is NOT him. I am days away from receiving my divorce from an abusive controlling man who left me for his boss! I guess it bothers me because the man I am with now is much much more of a husband to me now without the stupid piece of paper than the man who is legally my husband ever was. Having been in such a horrible marriage the title and paper mean NOTHING to me. I don`t need it and I don`t want him to feel pressure to ask me. Don`t get me wrong. If he ever asks I will of course say yes but its just not important to me anymore....being married doesn`t automatically create the type of partnership that it should and since I have that without it right now I am happy.

busymommyof3 (80.3 days ago)
I got pregnant and got married before I had my 1st. So I have not personally experienced this. BUT, I never assume people are married.(thats just me) I live in california and that normal here. only 1 of my friends is married and all of my other friends are now sigle moms or with their `baby daddy` lol p.s. you know what they say when you ` ASS-U-ME` =)

RobinG (80.4 days ago)
I had a really hard time when my bands didnt fit me with every pregnancy. Which was about 6-7 months. I always went and bought a fake band to wear ~ but that was just how I felt, I am totally fine if another couple isnt married, you dont need to be married IMO to love each other and to be devoted to each other or even if divorced devoted to raising the child together. It bothered me only because it was me and I WAS married, lol. When ever I am at a point to refer to the partner, I say partner if I`m not sure, I try not to assume since I know a few personally who arent married and have kids. I dont think anyone means to insult anyone, it is just more the norm so most may assume but it is never to be hurtful.

jenny504 (80.4 days ago)
Well me and honey have been together for 6 years and have 2 boys together and we are not married. whenever anyone says anything to me like `Why aren`t you married?` i always say the last time i did my taxes the federal and provincal government both say we are married so a piece of paper dosen`t mean anything to me. We do hope to do the traditional thing but only so i can have his lastname!!

Mama J (80.4 days ago)
I think alot of times if some one is recognized as a husband but really isn`t it`s because the relationship may be a serious one so using boyfriend may be sounding to simple you know what i am tryign to say... We have a couple that are friends of ours and they have been together 10 years aren`t married but in our couple talks and bsing with eachother we say spousal names... just because maybe addressing it more a a completed family .. not saying you have to be married to be complete.. but i think maybe you might get my point,,, aaahhh...lol



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