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soon2be momma d (1241.8 days ago)
Great discussion questions Mumsy! I support spanking/swatting when necessary. BUT, I also think it should be reserved for very bad behavior and only delivered once you have warned 2 times already - that way you follow through and the child learns. That way at some point, they know the `drill`, they know the warning and if they don`t want the swat they have the control to prevent it. It teaches self-control. Spanking is NOT violence, it`s a shame that horrible parents who abuse have ruined the connotation of discipline. Also I think it needs to be mentioned that some children may never need to be spanked - it varies from personality to personality. My sister NEVER needed to be spanked, she was so sensitive if you even acted upset with her she cried and apologized and was perfect, me on the other hand NEEDED spanking occasionally. In fact my mom would count to 3 and if at 3 I was still doing wrong I got swatted, I learned very quickly and people always complimented my mom on how well behaved we were when out. It is because she would count and we would know... she wouldn`t swat there but when we got home she followed through. It really doesn`t take much for a child to realize you are serious and to remember.

Lizakn (1243.7 days ago)
We spank our daughter. I don`t think there is anything wrong with one little slap on the bum when they do something bad. My husband & I were both spanked as children...and it worked for our parents LoL....and it works for us. Our daughter NEVER acts out in public or throws fits or talks back to us...and its because she knows better. Its not like we have to spank her often or anything...because she never acts out...and the reason she never acts out is because she doesn`t want a spank! People always ask us why our daughter never throws fits & never acts out...and when we tell them its because she knows if she does do those things she gets a little spank on the bum & they are sooo shocked & horrified that we would do that to our daughter...mean while their children are running around screaming & throwing tantrums!!

ibaheir2dathrone (1243.8 days ago)
I am for spanking if the situation calls for it. It has to be something really bad. I grew up having whoopings they are totally different than spankings. (spanking is a few light taps, whooping is a beat down)

leahs (1243.9 days ago)
Sorry to repost but in my opinion spanking is not voilence it`s discipline. Violence is the exertion of force so as to injure or abuse.

avenue (1244 days ago)
violence only teaches violence!

busymommyof3 (1244.2 days ago)
Leahs and sadielady are they only ones who will admit you spank your child. Every person I know with kids spanks occasionally .They use timeouts more .I agree with Sadielady is more of a hurt feeling issue than anything. I was spanked as a child when I did something `MAJOR ` wrong.It hurt my feelings more than anything. I think their is nothing wrong as long as its not abuse. The child also needs to be told why their are spanked. I think the fear of being spanked is what kept me from being tempted to do wrong and not be a follower but a leader. Till this day I remember the few times I was spanked , b/c I DID WRONG . I was never hurt but it sure did teach me a lesson that I know truly understand as an adult and has made me a better person. I would like to say also, that I think it depends on the age of the child , where or not they should be spanked. You should not spank 1 yr old for touching the something they are not suppose to. They are not old enough to comprehend that yet. People are scared now a days b/c they fear if they discipline their child in public some one will call the police on them. Now I have seen mothers pull their child`s hair HARD, and pinch their cheek or arm or pull their ear. Is that worse than spanking?? I personally would rather get a few spanks then that. Never did me any harm!! I know this is off subject, Their is this new show called `principals office`. Their is a HS I believe in Texas where HS students can exchange 3 `licks` of the paddle to cut their Sat. Detention in Half. It surprised me but quite a few of boys and girls choose that. Its optional , up to the students 100%.

sadielady (1244.3 days ago)
we use time outs and i hate spanking,, but there are times when my son needs a spanking. he gets really mean sometimes, i dont hit him hard,, really its just to let him know im serious and it hurts his feelings more than anything. kinda sad really, i hate spanking =(

cadesmommy (1244.3 days ago)
I couldn`t hit my kid. I don`t think spanking is `child abuse` by any means but I just couldn`t do it. I also couldn`t let my husband/partner hit my kid. I dunno. I just dont think it is how I feel comfortable teaching my child right and wrong. I would rather teach him some other way AKA timeout and taking privileges away-once he is older. I do think this is one of the issues though that are `gray` and not necessarily black and white. There is not necessarily a clear answer and I just hope you do what you feel is right. Good luck!

leahs (1244.3 days ago)
My son has had spankings before, none in the last 2 years though. My daughter on the other hand has never had nor needed one. I never spanked my child while I was angry with him, it was after I had explained what was done wrong in a calm voice. I`m sure there are thousands of kids who would never need a spanking and thousands who get them whether they deserve them or not. I find kids today have no respect for adults/others, many parents are not willing to discipline their children, for me I am their mother not their best friend, just my opinion of course. Oh I don`t think it`s a heredity thing either since I was never spanked as a child, my sister however was, but she was a bad child,lol.

coltonsmom (1244.3 days ago)
Very well said, Kate.

preggiebelly (1244.3 days ago)
I don`t know.... I don`t have children yet. I`m a christian though and the bible says, `Spare the rod, spoil the child.` I don`t think I`ll ever be one to spank my children.... because I don`t think it`s necessary but I have seen plenty of children who really probably need to be spanked. Some little kids are out of control.... the really sad thing about that though- is that the out of control kids are typically out of control because of their parents. This is a tough question. I myself probably won`t... but I don`t think that it`s wrong to if you believe it absolutely necessary. ??

coltonsmom (1244.4 days ago)
I agree with Mcfadden.

Mcfadden (1244.4 days ago)
I said never because I don`t believe in corporal punishment for children. I think my job as a parent is to protect my child from harm, not cause it.



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