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busymommyof3 (1209.9 days ago)
don`t even get me started on my shower. here are a few things. My sister who is SUPER cheap wanted to do it. She also changed the date to `her` schedule .I should have known better b/c she did not come to my wedding a month before b/c she had `play` tickets w/ her step dad. She wanted me to change it to the week before which would have meant we would have gotten married on my hubby b-day, that`s tacky. any how She wanted to have it @ her `MOMs` house (same dad diff mom) WTF?? not to mention her mom is a Bit#% .(causes drama). I told I would rent a hall since I knew someone. It was going to be like 40.00 for the day!!! She said no , so it was her house. My Mom offered her 200.00 for food. She refused, she said she had it taken care of. She asked people not only to buy me a gift but bring food. (like a pot luck) . I got their she has a little pasta salad and 2 1 litter Shasta sodas for 30 people w/ NO CUPS!!. I was pissed. I had to go the store and buy water, soda, ice and cooler. Chips and dip. snacks. It was horrible I was so embarrassed. She bought the cheap paper plate where you have to use like 5 in order to hold the food. My mom and I thought she purposely sabotaged my BS b.c I did not let her have it @ her moms and I did not invite her mom. (I only talk to her mom like once a yr anyhow) Plus its wrong to do that to my mom. !!! I threw my own baby shower in July 08. I just had it my neighbors house(which she insisted), her mom caters, so she did the food.She could not believe no one offered to do it!!! I bought all the decor, invites and gifts etc. . I just asked someone to be the host of the games. Some people say it tacky to host your own shower but I sure did not hear anyone volunteering!!Plus I did want some one to tell me no that`s not a good date again. I did not want to even have a shower but everyone kept telling me too. That`s so funny b/c out of the 30 or so everyone I invited only like 10 people showed.The one that showed up were the ones I was not expecting..LOL Its all good though. I have learned the hard way not to depend on people. I just do it right the first time my self. Wow I ranted long enough, that was just the icing on the cake!!!LOL Have it yourself, its not tacky @ all!!!

trai (1210 days ago)
Since I don`t feel comfortable throwing my own shower, my partner and I will get what we need. Those who are going to buy gifts for the baby still will. We will just get that after the baby is born as oppose to at a shower. Thanks for all of the input Ladies!!

marietta (1210.7 days ago)
C`mon, it`s not even being held at her house. I mean, who is going to clean your house before and after the party? The 35-week pregnant lady? And she has a baby, so she knows what it`s like. Maybe she has good intentions but can`t handle the stress. Could you pair your 2 friends to pull things together as a team? I threw a shower w/ my friend`s friend. We planned entirely by email, and I never met her until the day of the party. It worked out so nicely, and our pregnant friend was very happy.

Carolinagirls (1211 days ago)
I`d hate for you to miss out on your shower but it sounds like your friend is really dropping the ball here. You can`t wait that long to have a shower...that`s ridiculous. I`d try to follow cadesmommy`s advice and maybe start planning or have another friend or family member help you with it. If it comes down to it go ahead and send invites asap but also make sure everyone gets a phone call or email right away so they can make arrangements for your day. In that case you should have it on the 1st which is when you want it. If you call people they will understand....most people have Saturday off anyway.

tawnsawyer (1211.1 days ago)
i`d be pissed! especially if you threw one for her the previous year! to me... she seems to be the rude one, not YOU.

monkeymamma (1211.1 days ago)
Maybe try explaining the situation to the other friend that offered and see if she would still give you one. I`m sure she would understand!

trai (1211.2 days ago)
Thanks everyone for your input.

gr8scottswife (1211.4 days ago)
Your friend had good intentions, but I don`t think she would have followed through. I believe that if she did actually host the shower, it would not turn out nice because she is unprepared.

2LoveAndBLoved (1211.6 days ago)
Awww. So sorry about your frustrating situation. If your friend took the responsibility, she should follow through. Shame on her. If she doesn`t have time - then she should just tell you so you can make other plans - like buying the stuff you need for your LO. If you don`t have a shower at all, people will still send gifts once the baby is born. I`ve found that people are very generous when it comes to babies. Or, you can have a shower after the baby comes. Everyone loves to see and hold new babies.

Mellyaric (1211.6 days ago)
Well I would think your friend might not have been too happy if that had happened to her when you threw hers but I don`t know all the details. Sounds like she really really needs to get things together though, if even everyone else is asking it`s not being ungrateful, it`s being concerned and worried, I guess I would just go with the flow and see if things work out, if they don`t.. it`s on her to figure out where it went wrong, and maybe see if she can help you organize all the new stuff after since you are so far along.

trai (1211.6 days ago)
Thanks Cadesmommy. At this point I am so pissed with family and friends I don`t even want a shower. I went out this weekend and bought the bedding and a few outfits. I ordered the crib, stroller, carseat and breast pump today. At this point I think I just don`t want to be bothered with other people`s crap. Especially when I`m not like that to them.

cadesmommy (1211.6 days ago)
I think you should be able to have your shower whenever YOU want it. I know some people might think it is tacky(which I 100% don`t) but I think you should throw your own shower if you cant find another friend/family member to throw it for you. It was already going to be at your house so just schedule it for whenever you please, buy a few things to eat and have a shower :)



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