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sadiebabie (756.5 days ago)
I think you could call her by your name if you wish but it should not be changed legally untill the child says they want to! I think its important that children know who their family membrs are weather they see them or not! you hear of two many cases of brother and sister falling in love without realising they are related!

Lindz (1121.9 days ago)
If the man isnt in the child`s life.. then by all means give ur babe ur last name!

Amomof3 (1127.6 days ago)
Oops I accidently pushed no, but meant yes!! you should give your child your last name. I was in the same situation, gave my child my last name and years later got married...my son now has my husbands last name. It was easy to change and I didn`t have to live with him having my ex`s name.

bluejeans (1127.6 days ago)
My kids have my last name and I wouldnt have it any other way when I get married we will all change our last name. I think that it is an out dated tradition that no matter what the child gets the fathers last name. Just my opinion tho:)

♥Natalie♥ (1127.7 days ago)
1 reason to use his last name. If he were to die, your child would be entitled to his social security (pending you are in the US). With out that last name, your baby would get NOTHING!!

♥Natalie♥ (1127.7 days ago)
1 reason to use his last name. If he were to die, your child would be entitled to his social security (pending you are in the US). With out that last name, your baby would get NOTHING!!

mizzkeisha (1127.7 days ago)
I think I am going to do the same thing that Freedom Lee`s mom did because I was married and have 2 children from that marriage. I am pregnant again, but I kept my married name. I am thinking about using the father`s last name in conjunction because I don`t want the baby to be the only one with a different last name. Because who knows, what his dad will do. He is here today and involved, but he also has two other children that he isn`t really involved with. So that could be us too one day. But it is a tough decision. Good Luck!

mommy2four (1127.8 days ago)
Okay, I can see all of your points. I said give the father`s name, but I have never been in that situation to understand the emotional part of that. My concern is for tracing the family tree. Even though the baby`s father might be a jerk, he is still part of the baby and the baby has his genes. Someday when the baby grows up, he/she may want to look up where he/she came from. My husband is in a situation where he does not have his father`s name. He has the name of some other guy that his mother married and then divorced. It feels like we have the wrong name. It bothers my husband even though his father was never a part of his life. I feel bad for him. Also, if my kids follow the geneology of the last name we have, they will be barking up the wrong tree. It just seems like a big mess to me. Again, I am not judging your decision either way, because I don`t have the experience to understand where you are coming from. I just wanted to tell you my husband`s point of view.

EmmaReed84 (1127.8 days ago)
I personally would not want a different surname to my kids. When i found out i was preg for the 1st time my then bf asked me to marry him. I decided to change my name by deed poll so when my son was born we all had the same surname. we got married 2.5yrs later and had 2nd child 3 yr later lol But i think you carried your child for 9months you are going to be your childs main carer so then he/she should have your last name. either that or have a double surname

luvbeingamom (1127.8 days ago)
I would go with your name. Once they start school, daycare, everything it will be easier if you have the same last name.

missyv28 (pink) (1127.8 days ago)
This is a tough decision for you. My mom gave me my dads last name and he disappeared till I was 18. I really wish I had her last name, especially because my grandfather took the roll of my father and I would have loved to have his last name. Now it doesn`t matter because I`m married :-)

his1-n-only (1127.8 days ago)
i wish i would have done that! my sons father left us too but my dumb ass still gave my son his last name...



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