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lilmielcorte (300.9 days ago)
Girl..I`m married, and having my second. My husband was asleep for my entire labor the first time. But regardless..What I would tell my husband is this.. `You had the easiest part of creating this baby. I`ve spen the last 9-10 months letting it grow in my body and feeling every pain and stretch that goes wth it. I`m the one giving birth to this baby, so as far as I`m concerned I want you there. But if I want my mom, my grandma, heck the entire town in my room with me, then they will be and you can either deal with it, or hang out in the waiting room.` Because it really only matters about what you think. Sure you respect his opinion, and it is his baby too, but its whatever makes you more comfortable. Hope I could help.

Jwlz73 (306.6 days ago)
It`s YOU having the baby not him. You should be able to have whoever you want in the room that is going to make it easier for you and he should understand! After the baby is born, I can understand needing the alone time with just the two of you and your new baby.

newcitynewmom (307 days ago)
He isn`t really the one doing all the work, so he really shouldn`t be so selfish. If you know that your mom and grandma make your labor easier, he should respect that. He should really want it to be as easy on you as possible.

phooey (307 days ago)
You`re the one delivering, so you get the final say.

gr8scottswife (307.1 days ago)
Oh, and start prepping him to be more helpful now. Make him read some books, starting with Hypnobirthing and then moving on to the Bradley Method. That gives a lot of information on how your coach can help you. You can tell him that if he wants to be the only one in the room, he`ll have to read the books so that he can help you. Otherwise, you`ll have to have your mom. Then, let him practice what he`s learned (massage, encouragement), and that will make you feel better even before labor.

gr8scottswife (307.1 days ago)
You are going to have to direct him and the nurses. Your mom and grandma probably just did what you needed without you having to speak up. He will be helpful, too, but you`ll just have to tell him what to do. He, by his actions, obviously, WANTS to be the one to help you. Maybe he feels that he was pushed aside and didn`t enjoy the birth as much with your mom and grandma there. Bar the outsiders. Afterall, it`s you and he who have to live together and rear those children together, not you, your mom, and your grandma. His feelings count.

jenakers (307.1 days ago)
I believe there is an underlying reason. Like some suggested maybe HE wants to be the one that helps you. Perhaps a compromise? Maybe they could stay away for the `regular` labor and come in for the INTENSE final lap or vice-versa.

Bek 30 (307.1 days ago)
Its up to u... with my first I had my dh, mum and sister. With my second it was 4am, the ambulance arrived, my mum was watching my son ( she really wanted to be their and tried making hubby stay and watch our son so she could come), but in the end I was glad it was me and hubby..that way we could have some of `us` time with the baby, then I called thru for my parents to bring my son down and I refused to let any other visitors see my daughter before my son.

missyv28 (307.1 days ago)
Well my dh was the same way. He thought this was a very personal moment between us only. I would have likes my mom or sister there for a more personal touch but they lived over 2000 miles away and couldn`t be there at the birth. He would have not liked them in there but would have supported my decision if they were

mamamia76 (307.1 days ago)
Here`s how I explained it to my SO, who happens to train as an MMA fighter, when I told him I was going to have my best friend be my back-up coach in case he wasn`t here when I went into labor (he is also a pilot and gone A LOT). He wasn`t to keen on the idea and suggested I have one of our mothers in there- both would drive me nuts. So I simply told him if he was fighting I wouldn`t tell him who his `corner man` could be! He seemed to understand after that! Good luck! :)

his1-n-only (307.2 days ago)
its your labor...i personally wouldnt want anyone else in the room, but if they will make it more comfy for you then by all means, have them there!

EllaG (307.2 days ago)
Find out why he doesnt want anyone else there & see can you come to a compromise - maybe have just your mom or g`ma there or see if he would mind if they came in for parts of it. I`m willing to bet that he felt a bit left out being the only man around the first time.

bethk (307.3 days ago)
Find out why first! Did they take over and make him feel left out of the whole experience? x

busymommyof3 (307.5 days ago)
I understannd how he feels about just you and him, but I only did that with my 2nd and 3rd b/c my parents lived 2000 miles away. They were there for my 1st born. You need to tell him how you feel. Its your body and if your mom and g`ma helped you he should be happy about that. You need to tell him.Good luck

babypie (307.5 days ago)
I agree that you should let him know how you feel. You are the one giving birth and he should support you in however you decide to do it!

Mumbo (307.5 days ago)
Yeah, if they`re going to make the experience easier for you then say that to him!

[мσтнεя σƒ тωσ] (307.5 days ago)
Tell him how you feel like you said you feel they will help u out during labor like the first time and it made it go easy and you want that again..



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