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lisamarie8503 (1106.8 days ago)
I had my baby when I was 22 now im 23. I never get dirty looks from people. Most of the time when I am out Im with my husband, so people shouldnt really sterotype me into any category. I am a college educated, full time employee in a senior position. If anyone shakes their head at me I just laugh and think gee im probably better off than them anyway!

dvsrunt (1111.8 days ago)
I was 16 with my first, my parents kicked me out. I raised him, worked and still went to school!! Yes it was hard but it made me a better person. AND yes I got looks ALOT!! I heard, `oh your little brother is so cute`! I hated it. but you know, he`s 14 now and I wouldnt trade it for the world!! Screw `em!

Babyloves (1111.8 days ago)
I get some funny looks - I`m 20, married, my husband owns his own business I think I`m in a better position to have a baby then some older women! My baby was planned and will be very well looked after. People just like to judge but I don`t blame them because there are a lot of young mums out there that just get pregnant for the benefits!

angie2008 (1111.8 days ago)
I`m 22, I live with my bf, I have a ba degree a good paying job. I am going back to school soon as well. People do stare at me like i`m some 13 year old with a baby. Sorry that is not the case. I say f**k them as long as you know you are caring for your baby the best you can. It does annoy me sometimes though. Maybe we should all wear shirts that say `I`m not a 13 year old mom, I can take care of my kid and yes I have a job`

Laceysmommy0208 (1111.8 days ago)
i was 17 when i got pregnant and 18 when i had her!! and i now work at walmart and i talk about my daughter alot and i get some people that say HOW OLD ARE YOU. and i say im 19 now but i had my daughter when i was 18 and they say WOW THATS TOO YOUNG TO BE HAVING KIDS. and then i just say...i guess it is but if i were a bad mother thats one thing but im a great mother i do everything for my daughter. just as a 35yr old would do for theres and then i smile!!!

bellajenna (1112.7 days ago)
I had my first when I was 17 and I went off on so many people for saying things and giving me dirty looks. I was married before I even got pregnant,to my childhood friend(scene I was 2) We owned our own home, owned our BMW completely payed off, He owned and ran his business, I went to school. and people still thought it was okay to judge me b/c I was so young. yes I know most young people dont have the same life as I did but still you never know if its a person like me or someone who needs a little more help, what is it to them? Hell I accomplished more than most 50 year olds and they thought they had the right to judge, no way and their is no way I am going to let them say crap when they dont know. and now I am a single mom of 2 soon to be three I do get the medical card b/c when my husband died I lost everything, I am buying a new house and own a car but still need help with medical. so I am judged their as well but they can shuve it. dont worrie about what they say ok. :) sorry so long

megandgrace (1112.7 days ago)
When i was pregnant i worked at a restaurant as hostess, sometimes when i would talk to people or take them to their tables, i would notice that they would be looking at my hand to see if i have a ring on. Well i didn`t because i am not married. I am a very proud now 22 year old with a 1 year old daughter raising her by myself. It sucks how older people seem to react that way towards single young moms, but its all because they grew up when that was unacceptable, girls were even sent away to have theirs and put them up for adoptions against their will back then. My grandparents on my Dads side had a bad reaction at first towards me but came around after she was born.

sadielady (1112.7 days ago)
its not in your head at all. im 20 with two kids. im separated from my husband and im currently getting help from the government. so yes i am so judged! its awful, people are ignorant. im a great mom regardless of my age or where i get my money from. im getting my education so i dont have to live on welfare forever.

keeleymum2be (1112.8 days ago)
Yes completely agree with all of the comments above, i got married at age 21 last july and now 15 weeks pregnant at the age of 22! When i go to the hospital and stuff i feel like people look at me as if to say oh here comes another one! And even though my midwife is lovely i hated it when she said so was it planned then? I feel like walking round with a big sign over me saying i am a happily married woman with my own mortgae, car and a good job! Which is probably more than most middle aged women out there! No disrespect but i just think why should we have to explain our circumstances to people just so they dont think we are trash??

4thonitsway (1112.8 days ago)
my first child was concieved a couple months after Id gotten married, I was 19, but I looked about 14. I can remember being up at my moms work one day visiting when this old couple came in, was about 7 months along at the time. The lady looked at me, gasped and started to said `shame on you!!.....` my mom then interupted her by explaining I was 19 and married, her look changed rather quickly lol

amber325 (1112.8 days ago)
lol I am 23 to with a 4 month old baby...When I get looks like that I flash my huge wedding set and that shuts them up. lol

3blessings (1112.9 days ago)
I`m suprised you feel like that! I`m 24 and have a 10 month old and another on the way. I never get stared at or get dirty looks, at least none that I have noticed. That really stinks that people treat you that way!

carla81 (1112.9 days ago)
Yep I know exactly how you feel and I`m 27 lol, but I do look really young. When I had my son (he`s now 15 mths, I was 25 yrs, almost 26, and in the last 2 months of pregnancy I couldn`t wear my wedding rings due to swelling in my hands and you should have seen the looks I got from older people then! Even now at 27yrs, my hubby and I get funny looks. My hubby is 29yrs old but he looks like he`s about 20yrs old so we both look young, but we`ve been married for 5 yrs now. But even if we were young and not married, who`s business is it? We`re all entitled to live our lives how we choose.

lovemyfamily (1112.9 days ago)
I agree with you completely. I`m 21 years old and have a one month old, and I feel people are constantly staring me down! My boyfriend and I are very happy together and even plan to start trying again in September for another one, before we go and get married. (Neither of us are religious, and we don`t need a piece of paper to prove our love.) He has a really good job, our baby has the best of everything, she`s spoiled rotten. He`s almost 24...what gives people the right to judge me, or my baby? Gah this subject makes me angry, because even one of my great uncles goes to me, `babies having babies.` That really upset me.

arkansastechmommy (1112.9 days ago)
Absolutely!! It used to tick me off, now.... I sorta enjoy putting the person `in their place`, when something is actually said. Alot of people are like `oh wow, 21...& your 2nd!?!, you`d better slow down` or `I hope this is your last` or `are you getting your tubes tied after this one?`.... It`s not like I`m just going around getting pregnant by different people.... I am HAPPILY married & have been for almost 4 years (before I even CONCEIVED my 1st child). I shouldn`t have to `explain` myself to people, but most of the time I do, just so they know they over-stepped their boundaries, and were completely WRONG about what they assumed!! `How do you afford all of that` is also another question we get quite often! Ummm....DUH, we WORK! (actually I don`t anymore, but I have since I was 16 years old...it`s not like I`m a BUM)!! I have one particular person in my family who likes to question our finances ALOT! And..everytime I get a BIG grin on my face & tell her that everyone has different priorities... HmMmM...she is a chain-smoking, alcoholic & I like to have decent things (ex: house, vehicles, nice clothes). Anyway, now that I have written a book...I think I`m done! But I couldnt agree more than young people are stereotyped more often than not!

fabo-preggolady22 (1112.9 days ago)
Sure! and its not in ur head.i know exactly how u feel girl! when i was pregnant ppl always seemed to give me those `shame on u` looks, especially the older ones, like u said. and it doesnt help that i look like im in my teens, but im grown, 22yrs old. n while there`s nothing wrong w/ ppl who are on assistance n need help, i feel like i`m categorized as well. not to play the race card, but being black, i feel like ppl definitely jump to that conclusion. it used to bother me in the beginning, but after a while it got ridiculous and funny. those ppl have NO IDEA who i am,so y care what strangers think? Just shake dem HATERS off hunnie n enjoy being a mommy!!! i know i do:)

kcdeluxeleager22 (1112.9 days ago)
YES! people are rediculas. age doesn`t make you a good mommy it factors in itt. but i`m gonna be the best mommmy<3

alex76 (1113 days ago)
Beth, I`m not a young Mum but when I was on days off , I had a plumber at my house. There were several packets of left over materials which he tried to put back in his van and charge me for! He made a crack about me getting a job & that the work was probably paid for by my benefits when confronted about the theft. I told him `I have one thank you, infact I work for HMRC (Inland Revenue) and that if he wants I can come down and see him when I`m working if he`d like me to audit his tax records. Never seen anyone get in their van so fast! So many people are judgmental without knowing the score and should mind their own business.

bethk (1113 days ago)
Im on a long maternity leave so get to go out and walk baby a lot so think that might make them think it! x



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