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Other-poll poll Today I split from the father of my child(ren). Im sorry if this has nothing really to do w/ pregnancy,etc but i think it does. Has anyone ever been in a situation where they are doing everything around the house,cleaning,going to work, taking care of your child, AND your pregnant. My son is only 14 months old, and Im 5 months preggo. I literally wake up w/ my son, go to work, come home watch my son put him to sleep, then go to sleep, and routine again. Am I wrong for feeling as if I shouldnt have to tell a MAN what to do all the time? And him complain... I just need some support being emotional and all w/ the pregnancy.. Any advice on how NOT to go back(like I unfortunitly always do!) I would appreciate it :) thanks mommys
(Other poll by cutelilmama, 1095 days ago)


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Comments: 9

MrsOakes (1091.1 days ago)
well, all i can say is that I`m where you are at now. I wake up watch my son till my mom arrives, I go to work, get home take a bath, pick him up and feed/bath him if my mom didnt and go home play with him and off to bed. And the only dif. is my husband gets off at 4 am and has the balls to ask me to get up with him when he gets home!!! Complains like a you know what if I dont, it`s only for 10 min., but that 10 puts me not going back to sleep since I have to be up at 7! Hang in there, trust me if I was strong like you I`d be out.

cutelilmama (1093.8 days ago)
well one thing i have to say is im NOT married.. so I dont have vows I have to go by... thank god... second I DID talk with him daily on how i needed more help w/ everything..and he thinks im just bitching blah blah blah.. point is he just lazy ive dealt w/ this for 3 years..and I broke down and no longer could deal w/ it anymore.. u can only split because of the same thing soo many times.. and u can only go back to the person so many times until u feel like a complete idiot and realize when u go back that everything he said he was going to change never doess...

courtenay (1094 days ago)
if you really arent happy and dont want to stay then just remember the reasons why your leaving. ive done it alone since day 1 and its really not as hard as everyone wants you to believe it is. good luck with whatever u decide to do and im here if you need a friend.

bethk (1094.2 days ago)
You shouldnt have to tell him to help you out around the house! You dont need to go back to him as you are doing everything yourself anyways soo what you want him back for? More dirty clothes and dishes to clean up after him! You better off hun! Might seem hard now when you are doing everything but when you look back it will make you stronger that you did it without any help! He`s not worth it if he cant see you need help x

nmck (1094.2 days ago)
Have you tried counseling? Sometimes having an impartial person can help both partners see what they are doing wrong. To have someoine telling him what he needs to do and help mediate an agreement between the two of you might really help. Whatever you choose, good luck!

lovefranky (1094.4 days ago)
YOu should go 3 days without speaking to him at all, and then each day will get easier until you realize that you don`t need him at all.

alijo (1094.4 days ago)
You should remember all the reasons you just listed here. Take care of yourself and of your kids - good luck!!!

Amalthea (1094.6 days ago)
you need to do what is best for you and your children, if being with the father isnt making you or your child(ren) happy then you should leave, it will be hard but it sounds like you are doing all the work anyway...good luck!!

cadesmommy (1094.6 days ago)
Aww girl I dont have any advice but I wanted to tell you good luck! You are def in my prayers. If you ever need to talk you know I am here :)



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