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california-mom (1549.6 days ago)
I agree completely with Holly...Anything you wouldnt do in front of your SO. Porn, looking at other women, fantasizing about other women, masturbating about other women....Is NOT cheating (and I dont even want to HEAR that your man doesnt masturbate-Dont be naive or ridiculous lol).

angie2008 (1549.6 days ago)
I think things like looking and fantasizing is really natural because we are sexual beings. I think when you act on those instincts, ie: talking to someone with the intention of having some type of relationship or sexual contact. Any physical contact is definitely cheating, kissing or any inappropriate contact. I know I look all the time and so does my bf.

happyforest (1549.7 days ago)
damn some people are so strict i dont see how they even have a relationship!! im suprised they havent broken up yet bc they have been `cheated` on. everyone LOOKS at other people. this doesnt mean they are cheating!!! how crazy. i look at cute guys and girls. i just appreciate and enjoy looking at beautiful people. this doesnt mean i am cheating on my fiance. thinking about others isnt cheating either! if i see a hott guy and think something about him so what? if i went up and talked to him and started flirting and trying to act on my thought and do something with him, that would be different and would be cheating.

armymom (1549.7 days ago)
wow if fantisizing is cheating than I`m in big trouble. lol. Seriously though.. men fantisize.. men watch porn. Whether you think they do or not and who they fantisize about.. it`s just human nature to `wonder` what it would be like with another person other than your spouse. I really could care less about porn and if my husband watches it. If he wants to watch it alone and jack off then let him.. if he wants to bring it to the bedroom I`m all game. I`m secure in knowing that my husband loves me and thinks I`m beautiful. Porn is the least of my worries.

freedomlee (1549.7 days ago)
With everyone it`s different. It`s all on who you are and what your comfortable with (or your beliefs). I personally, think kissing is cheating and any kind of fondling. It`s easier to forgive for me. However sex with someone else is not forgivable at all.

brendalee (1549.7 days ago)
Actually doing something with another person is cheating...starting at kissing. I could care less if my husband watched porn, or hugged a friend that was a girl.

HarimauDahan (1549.7 days ago)
Wow there are some real strict rules people believe in for cheating..if someone can cheat for thinking about another person then I believe that everyone on this website has been cheated on at least once. Porn I dont mind, I dont think its great, but I can tolerate it. If my husband looks at another girl (which I never see him do honestly) I wouldn`t care, I look at guys, especially if they have a cute butt! But if he started getting close to a co-worker, or some other girl he knew, then I would start to get concerned. And for the record, yeah I look at guys, and I think Johnny Depp is hot, but I would NEVER think of doing anything more than looking, and I`m sorry but looking (and occasionally drooling lol) does not make me a cheater.

Heaven (1549.7 days ago)
i agree with gr8scottswife, even wanted to be with someone else is cheating.

Holly28 (1549.7 days ago)
If you can`t do it with your SO standing right next to you then you can`t do it when they are not around. Cheating is ANYTYHING you wouldn`t do in front of the other one.

Holly28 (1549.7 days ago)
If you can`t do it with your SO standing right next to you then you can`t do it when they are not around. Cheating is ANYTYHING you wouldn`t do in front of the other one.

AubreyP (1549.7 days ago)
i agree with scottswife

3blessings (1549.7 days ago)
I think that having an emotional connection to someone is cheating...for example if your SO has feelings for another woman or a crush on them. I think that`s wrong also! I`m not talking like a friendship..I`m talking a desire to be with another either emotionally or physically

MichelleMc(pink!) (1549.7 days ago)
I agree with gr8scottswife; my belief is that fantasizing about/lusting after someone other than your spouse counts as cheating. My husband agrees. I do have fantasies...but they are about my hubby! :D

luvbeingamom (1549.8 days ago)
Oh and to add, i am currently separated from my husband (going to be divorced but in the waiting period that VA state requires). Also i have never cheated on anyone and i have only ever been cheated on once (That i know of) and that was with a boyfriend from long ago that i promptly dumped!

luvbeingamom (1549.8 days ago)
Just so everyone knows, i personally feel that anything you feel you need to hide from your SO is cheating. If you don`t feel comfortable telling your SO about a conversation you had with another, then that is cheating to me b/c you clearly are having conflicted feelings about it.

T3POandR2D2 (1549.8 days ago)
I say cheating is having a relationship with another person that you reserve for your spouse. Be it emotional or physical. Porn isn`t cheating in my mind because the human brain is wired to have fantasies, it is healthy to have fantasies. Now, if my husband up and became `friends` with a pornstar in one of our porns I would probably be upset.

T3POandR2D2 (1549.8 days ago)
I say cheating is having a relationship with another person that you reserve for your spouse. Be it emotional or physical. Porn isn`t cheating in my mind because the human brain is wired to have fantasies, it is healthy to have fantasies. Now, if my husband up and became `friends` with a pornstar in one of our porns I would probably be upset.

T3POandR2D2 (1549.8 days ago)
I say cheating is having a relationship with another person that you reserve for your spouse. Be it emotional or physical. Porn isn`t cheating in my mind because the human brain is wired to have fantasies, it is healthy to have fantasies. Now, if my husband up and became `friends` with a pornstar in one of our porns I would probably be upset.

T3POandR2D2 (1549.8 days ago)
I say cheating is having a relationship with another person that you reserve for your spouse. Be it emotional or physical. Porn isn`t cheating in my mind because the human brain is wired to have fantasies, it is healthy to have fantasies. Now, if my husband up and became `friends` with a pornstar in one of our porns I would probably be upset.

gr8scottswife (1549.8 days ago)
Your poll questions are interesting.Cheating can be looking, and definitely touching is cheating. The Bible says that thinking about another person is cheating. That`s why we need a God who forgives because no one is perfect. Who has not committed a sin even of the mind, be it adultery/cheating or murder or lying? I cannot control dh`s thoughts nor he mine, but what I would consider cheating is lusting, constantly thinking about another person and wanting a relationship with that person, and definitely touching. I do not like rated R movies for the most part because of the sexual content, and I wish he wouldn`t watch those. There are only so many things I can do to make a person change, but there are some things that only an individual can change about himself.



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