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carla81 (1034.8 days ago)
I`m a SAHM and certainly DO NOT judge anyone who either has to work or chooses to work. What works for someone does not necessarily mean it`ll work for someone else. We`re all individuals and have different circumstances. Do what you have to do : )

kiara (1035.3 days ago)
I`m a working mom, but not by choice. It`s the only way we can make ends meet. I would love to be able to stay home! Many of my SAHM friends do think less of me, and don`t think I work as hard as they do. However, IMO, working moms work much harder than SAHMs do, because we still have to do all of the household duties that a SAHM does, but we have to cram it into just a few short hours at night and on the weekends, after we`re already exhausted from a full day`s work. I respect both working moms and SAHMs, and don`t think we should judge each other because we all do what`s best given our situations.

thebigtomato (1035.6 days ago)
I`m really surprised as well by how many SAHM`s say they judge working moms and vice versa. I am a SAHM but only because I am lucky enough that my hubby and I are able to get by on just his income. If we weren`t, I think it would be a selfish decision of me to choose to stay home when my family needed me to provide income. I think every family needs to do what they can to provide for their children and every mom needs to do what she is most comfortable with. My best friend in the world has openly admitted to me that she couldn`t stand being a SAHM. I don`t think that`s wrong and I don`t assume she loves her baby any less than I do. She just is a person that needs adult interaction and takes great pride in her work. She feels like a better person for the work she does and taking that away from her would hurt her self esteem. I don`t think there`s anything wrong with that. There are days when I would love to be at work. I miss the interaction and the ability to use my mind for complex issues that I really had to think about. I don`t really do that much anymore. I spend most days home all day alone with my son and it does get a little lonesome sometimes, but in the end I wouldn`t trade it for the world. I adore spending time with my son and even if my dream job presented itself I would turn it down because I realize being home with my little man IS my dream job! But not everyone feels that way and there`s absolutely NOTHING wrong with that! And there are moms that do feel that way and just don`t have a choice due to financial constraints and that is understandable and no one can fault them for making the responsible decision to make sure their children have a roof over their heads and food in their mouths.

SarahLJ (1035.7 days ago)
I`m a SAHM and I know I am extremely lucky to be. I`m not saying I find it easy living off one salary because its not but my son has everything he needs and I know I`m doing the best for my baby. I will stay this way until he goes to school when I will go to uni to learn midwifery because it is always something I wanted to do. I know I`ll be on more money when qualified than my OH and then he will be a SAHD. Thats my plan anyway, maybe it will change when I get there. I don`t judge any one that has to work and respect women that can handle both, I know that you are only doing what is best for your children.

MS.mom (1035.7 days ago)
I work because I feel like I have to, to make it. I only wish that I didn`t have to send my child for someone else to take care of. I only dream of being a SAHM! So I didn`t vote for any of the above.

freedomlee (1035.7 days ago)
OMG! I would love nothing more than to be a SAHM! I`m sure some SAHM`s wish they could work too. My bf is probly going to be a SAHD cuz I make 3x more $$$ than him and support us both. I don`t want to pay for Daycare where my son can get sick more often and have ppl I barely know watch him and spend the same if not more time with him than me and daddy. I`d much rather daddy stayed at home. He already agreed to cook and clean. I love America these days. My man is an awesome loving man.

sharafly (1035.7 days ago)
Proudmommy120 - you have delivered my thoughts exactly. I am a single mom, and I have no other choice but to work. My ex is in a drug rehab facility and I receive no child support from him whatsoever. For those of you who are stay at home moms, consider yourself extremely lucky. There are those of us out there who aren`t as fortunate, and for you to say that you think less of us for working is appauling. The single moms in the world don`t have a husband or SO to rely on for our support. We have to provide it for ourselves and our children.

wisfarmgirl (1035.8 days ago)
I`m surprised at the amound of SAHM that think less of working moms. It`s sad to be judged either way. I have to work for the health insurance benefits for my family because my DH is self employed. But I`m lucky that my mom who recently retired really wanted to watch my son and really looked forward to it. I go every day at lunch time to see him too. I think he misses out a little bit by not being around other children like he would if he was in daycare, but he`s been very healthy.

STCT (1035.8 days ago)
I would love to be a SAHM. Also every day I have a hard time leaving my daughter with the sitter (sister-in-law), I would love to stay home with her, but both my hubby and I work to make sure we support our family. I don`t judge anyone for working or staying at home. It`s hard working full time, you have to change your life style a little to make sure you are spending time with baby/hubby. I changed my cleaning house habbits around. One day a week hubby takes her to the sitter so I can go to work early to leave early to go straight home clean the house and by the time he is off and picking her up I`m done. Works great for all of us.

mamacakes (1035.8 days ago)
I believe that staying home is beneficial for both baby and mom but i also know that in some cases its just not possible. My husband and i separated for several years during the first years of 1st sons life and i HAD to work since i was a single mom. We have since gotten back together, had another son who is now almost 7 months old, and i am fortunate enough to be able to stay home with this little guy. ANY mom who is lucky enough to be a SAHM should thank the lord above as I believe it to be a HUGE honor and privilege.

Lookalike (1035.8 days ago)
I will consider myself somewhere in between working mom and stay at home mom because once the baby comes I will only be working two or three days per week and my boss may even let me bring the baby with me. I think women who have to work and have no other choice should not be judged and I have the highest respect for them for supporting their family, but I think women who actively make the choice to go back to work and give their children formula when they had the chioce to stay home are not making choices in the best interest of their child. My mom had the choice to stay home with me and she told me that she just couldn`t stand being at home all the time with a kid, so she put me in daycare and went back to work. I resent her for it.

msmeli81 (1036.2 days ago)
I used to be a working mama so I have lots of respect for working moms...I just recently became a SAHM and I love it!

Khloes Mommy (1036.2 days ago)
I just want to say that I am a working mom. I work my butt off all day at work to bring home a paycheck so that my daughter can have anything and everything she wants and needs. I don`t judge SAHM`s, I hope they do realize that it is a luxury & not one that everyone has. So to all that voted that they think less of working moms, I just want to say it makes me no less of a mother then any of you & if anything I would go to say I may even value my time with my daughter a little more then you because I don`t have as much of it!

~amy~ (1036.2 days ago)
I used to work and do miss the interaction with the office ladies but am lucky enough to be able to stay home! It is difficult and I can see why some have to go back to work. I don`t judge those mommies at all! You have to do what you have to do to get by!

happyforest (1036.2 days ago)
i stay home with my son. we dont have a lot, we live just off my boyfriends income. he is a full time student and works at least 30 hrs a week. however, we both still feel that we would rather get by on less and have me stay home and raise our son where we know for sure he is getting exactly what he needs. also we dont want him raised by strangers. ya we could def use another income, but we just had to pick which was more important for us. we do get help bc we get wic which saves us $160 a month in formula!!

T3POandR2D2 (1036.2 days ago)
I LOVE being a SAHM, but have MUCH respect to working mama`s!

phooey (1036.2 days ago)
I would LOVE to stay at home to raise my children, but I need to bring home a paycheck to make ends meet.

June1st2009 (1036.2 days ago)
Alot of moms would love to stay home with their babies, but it may not be financially possible for all those who would like to. Just be thankful if you have that choice.

5against1 (1036.2 days ago)
Ive been a mom for 15 yrs. A working mom for 6 of those years. I am lucky enough to be able to stay at home with my new baby. If i have a bad night with my daughter, I can go back to sleep the next day while she is napping. It is a luxury. While each situation isnt easy, I have so much respect for women that do handle both.



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