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MichelleMc(pink!) (1010.6 days ago)
While mothers are usually naturally nurturing, husbands/fathers feel a strong drive to provide for their family. This is a natural instinct and while they do want to spend time with/help out their wives and children, they can honestly exhaust themselves with their drive to provide. Of course, being exhausted from work isn`t ALWAYS the case, but might be considered as a strong possibility. :)
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eves (1012.4 days ago)
My husband will only help if I give him attitude, or if I start to do something, he`ll jump in as if he was going to it himself. I guess like yall said it`s a guy thing
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shocked-over-3 (1012.5 days ago)
My man works from 5am-4pm and so he`s not home until around 5pm...I work in the mornings and my afternoons are with the kids and that`s when I try to get everything done..He helps out with dishes and occasionally he`ll help with laundry if I `hint` it. He does try to do more on the weekends,like vacumm or attempt to do more laundry... My gripe is when it comes down to a `who works more` discussion!!!!!!! He works 40 + hours a week,but I only work about 10-15 hours a week...I TRY to point out that HE gets PAID to work those extra hours and that I work FULL time at home on TOP of my part time work!!! And cleaning house,going to loads of doctors appointments,cooking,6-8 loads of laundry each week..Well,I`m sure you get the idea..I have two little ones that are home all day and it`s alot to deal with and then have a man tell me that he works MORE?!?!?!?!?! ERRRRRRR
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nmck (1012.6 days ago)
Emety, LOL!

I understand the difference in the amount of child care with a stay at home parent, but many of those who complain on here are not stay-at-homes. I would be interested to hear opinions from some of them.
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harimaudahan (1012.6 days ago)
I dont ask my husband to do a lot because he does work a full time job while I stay home with our daughter. But two or three times a week its his job to watch Sarah and put her to bed so that I can get out at the stables without having to chase a two year old around, its my alone time and he understands I need it. On those days though I already have Sarah bathed and dinner ready so that he doesnt have too much to do while I`m gone. I think its a pretty fair deal considering I get to be a stay at home mom.
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onesharpefamily (1012.7 days ago)
I must be blessed. My husband usually does more than I do. He is the `neat` freak and can`t stand to have the house messy where as I don`t want to come home from work to clean. :) We`re the perfect balance.
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thamouse (1012.7 days ago)
Like many have said, you need to ASK them and then usually they will do it. They just don`t see the things the way us women do. I asked my hubby to drain the tub one night, but he left all the toys in there...don`t ask me why, he figured I needed the water out but I didn`t mention anyting about the toys. There`s a reason why they say men are from Mars, women from Venus.
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emetyb01 (1012.7 days ago)
O AND MINE DOESNT HELP OUT CUZ HE IS IN PAKISTAN AND HE CANT REACH..LMAO !!!!
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happyforest (1012.7 days ago)
LAZINESS!!!
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jq baby (1012.8 days ago)
I think I am going to have the other problem with my SO-- we are going to be fighting about control and who is doing something correct with my LO. I am praying that won`t be the problem. We don`t live together so I am actually a little happy about that-- I am not sure how 2 control freaks made it as long as we have!
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california-mom (1012.8 days ago)
Ive noticed that there are a lot of stay at home moms on this site and I think it has something to do with the husbands working all day and not wanting to come home and continue working. I think in that situation its totally and completely understandable. I think its my luxury to stay at home with my kids and part of my duties that go along with that luxury is cleaning cooking etc.
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canadababy (1012.8 days ago)
My husband does help out and wants to help out, but honestly I do most of the parenting since I`m at home with her all day and I know the best way to soothe her or put her to sleep, etc. So basically I`m a control freak who would rather do it myself :) Although when I`m at the end of my rope it`s wonderful when my DH asks if he can takeover.
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Bek 30 (1012.8 days ago)
All of the above...lol, I can ask all I like, but it ain`t gonna happen
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happymommee2kj (1012.8 days ago)
I do pretty much all of the care for my son. If I ask him he will do small things for me but he won`t change diapers or give him a bath or anything like that. I guess I don`t really mind though that way I can do it the way I want to.
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emetyb01 (1012.8 days ago)
MEN DO IT , OR SHOULD I SAY , DONT DO IT CUZ WE LET THEM......
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Khloes Mommy (1012.9 days ago)
In my opinion, mothers carry the baby for 9 months & have 9 months to get used to taking care of them. So when the baby is here we are already taking care of them & ready for it. Our DH/SO even though they know we are pregnant & there is a baby in there, I don`t think the amount of work it takes kicks in for a while. My poor DH admits he did not realize how much work a baby truly was until I went back to work and he watches her on his days off. Our DD is 4 months old now and slowly he is starting to get that I need help & SLOWLY learning to jump in without being asked! LOL
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bellajenna (1012.9 days ago)
I THINK ITS CUZ THEY KNOW YOU WILL DO IT IF THEY DONT
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averys-mommie (1012.9 days ago)
Hubby helps out alot but i have to ask. He doesn`t have the maternal instinct and he has tunnel vision. Women are nurtures and can spread the love and attention around, that`s why everyone loves mommy. Men on the other hand have no clue until they are told or asked.
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nmck (1012.9 days ago)
My husband and I both work full time. We pull in equal salaries. I pretty much insist that he does half the house work and half the baby care. And he agrees! Sometimes I have to remind him to do something, and sometimes I have to wait til stuff gets done on his time...and if that means living with a messy kitchen for a day or two once in a while rather than always cleaning it myself, I am OK with that. (We DO argue about responsibilities sometimes. Don`t mean to make it sound like we are perfect...AT ALL!)
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Austin::and::Alexs::Momma (1012.9 days ago)
In my case, I know its because he is exhausted! He`s up at 4 a.m and works till 7:30 p.m. (with very little breaks in between) and thats 7 days a week/365 days a year. (self employed dairy farmer) and also he has no maternal instincts (he use to be petrified to hold the baby, but he's slowly getting better) =)
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amber325 (1012.9 days ago)
It bugs me a little bit but then...he does work hard so I can stay home with DD...so he does do alot as well
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Lou-Li-Ro (1012.9 days ago)
Men just aren`t as tuned in -- we are the mothers for a reason!!! I think they are more able to look out for number one than women are. Women are more likely to need to be told to switch off. Men switch off automatically!
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babyschaffer (1012.9 days ago)
My husband helps out if I ask... But I usually have to ask for the help. I just assume if he can get away with it he will. But he is very helpful when I tell him I need the help. I just think men don`t get that when you make a mess you clean it up.
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