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dollhouse (1004.6 days ago)
I agree with what ladobruk said. You should do most of the work during the day, but you should have time to relax, too. When he gets home, why shouldn`t he help out a bit? Is he supposed to work 8 hours and you 24? That`s not right. I`m a teacher, so I`m off in the summers. That doesn`t mean that my husband gets out of chores....he just has to do a bit less.
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3blessings (1004.7 days ago)
Nice!!! I think my hubby sometimes complains about me too at work, but he works with all men, so I could really care less! But to have another female try to tell you how to run your house is a BIG no no! What a jerk. How is it any of her business. Like some other women said, I would be questioning their relationship as to why he feels so comfortable talking about your personal life. You said he works at a bank...I wonder if he talks like this in front of customers?!?! I`m also a SAHM and my house isn`t always clean either. I pick up, but have a 13 month old right behind me tearing everything out again! Plus I`m due to give birth in 6 weeks and have to vaccum holding her since she`s afraid of the vaccum...so that only gets done like 2-3 times a week.

If I were you, I would teach him a lesson! Don`t do anything around the house, unless you absolutely have to. Leave the place a pigpen. Then when he says something about it say something smart like `why don`t you go cry to your boss about it` or `if you don`t like it, tell your boss to come over and clean!`. That would be something I would do! Then like a day or 2 later tell him how much he really hurt you, and make it clear that your problems are your business. Ask him how he would like it if you worked and were telling your male boss about what your hubby does wrong, then have the male boss says something about it to his face. Bet he wouldn`t like that would he.....
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Amalthea (1005.1 days ago)
I would ask my Hubby when he had time to talk about the situation..and let him know without attacking him that you are very hurt that he would talk about your family dynamic with his boss and that you would appriciate it if he would talk to you if he wants things done differently in the house... if you piss him off he may run his mouth more at work.... if she/the boss ever brings it up to you again, just smile and tell her that isnt her business what goes on in your house...of course this is just MY OPINION... i know that is one thing my Hubby and I are good at is sitting down and talking about anything thats bugging us... good luck!!! BTW- I am a SAHM and it is a hard job... its a job that never ends... its not a 9 to 5 job... you dont get to clock out at the end of the work day... my house isnt always spotless... but i make sure the dishes are done, house picked up, and laundry done... It is my job to do these things and I have taken on that responsibility... my hubby will help when and if i ask...
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california-mom (1005.2 days ago)
I respectfully disagree that a sahm cant keep a house spotless every day. Like I said in my last comment, its part of the job description, just not written on paper lol Thats besides the point though...The boss really had no place in saying anything to you about your home. And your so had no business telling her. Shame on them. I dont think counseling is necessary (unless theres more to it), guys dont typically like that kind of thing. But I think some serious boundries need to be made clear about whats not appropriate to discuss.
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Kevinsmilfx2 (1005.2 days ago)
Oh, and I 100% agree with Summerisis!!!! Like I said - to the counselor you should go!!
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Kevinsmilfx2 (1005.2 days ago)
Tell her politely that you would never want to risk upsetting her again and you wouldn`t even dream, in fact, you insist she never steps foot in your home again... then drag that SO`s butt into a counselor`s office - PRONTO. You definitely need a third party to help sort out all the ways that SO is in the wrong here. And it`s WAY more effective (at least in my home) if it comes from a third party.
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GavinsMum (1005.4 days ago)
I wish i could leave the baby with him . i know he wouldnt be able to ahndle it. I on the other hand used to work doing the same thing he does... (Bank teller) for the same bank. So i know for a fact i can do it. I even did it right up til i gave birth where my feet were so swollen from standing for 8 hrs a day that they were purple. And he desnt help me out AT ALL.. with the baby or the house. So honestly... I am pissed! but ill let it go because thats what i do and it will just happen again becasue thats all i can do.
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GavinsMum (1005.5 days ago)
oh and i should add that yes he does go to work but he doesnt pay all the bills!!! I pay half of every bill and have since we have been together. even though i dont work I have saved every penny i have ever made so that if i did need to be out o work for whatever reason i would be able to.So i am using my savings to help pay. Its not my fault he has never saved a penny and has to work. Im just so stressed out...
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GavinsMum (1005.5 days ago)
Ok.. I do clean the house just about every day. I admit there are only two of us so i do the dishes every other day . Yeah I do them. He doesnt touch them. As a matter of fact he had his mother, sister and brother over for mothers day cooked her a great big breakfast and guess who got to wash those mothers day dishes on mothers day. I did!!!! Happy mothers day to me. I`ll admit there are a ew baby toys here and there and his swing in the living room but my place is no wheres near nasty. It looks like people live here... and like we have a baby! Go figure.
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adriana03 (1005.5 days ago)
devonp> significant other
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gr8scottswife (1005.5 days ago)
Has SO confronted you, asking for the house to be cleaner? If not, I`d be angry that he went to someone else instead of asking you to more. I`m a SAHM. My house isn`t spotless, but it is picked up and pretty much clean. I`m certain I could do more, but if Scott asks me to do certain things, I`ll do it. His boss has no business in your business. SO played the coward by letting his boss talk to you about your house. That`s silly.
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adriana03 (1005.6 days ago)
Im not sure who is more out of line here if your guy or the freaken boss. The boss has absolutly nooo right to but into your life. But he shouldnt be complaining about your business your life is yours and shouldnt be public. WOw I wouldnt know what to do but I would be pist ass hell.
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