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mumzie1212 (144.4 days ago)
it really depends on your situation. my dad died when i was a baby, my mom got remarried when i was 8. my step-father is the only dad i`ve ever known and the best dad i ever could have asked for. he has never treated me any differently than his own. my mom was the same to my step-brother and step-sister(their mom is not in the picture). it depends on your situation. my son has a step-mother and step-father. he has a very different relationship with them than i do with my step-father because both his father and i are both very involved in his life. just remember that loving them and treating them as your own is the best you can do. i am soooo thankful that my ex found someone that loves my son ALMOST as much as i do and if anything ever happened to me that she would do everything in her power to raise him the way that i would want him to grow up. i know some other moms would be jealous but i`m not at all. he knows he only has one mom and one dad but both my husband and his step-mom are both parent figures to him. he even has different set of rules for each house and i am firm on respecting the rules they have set for in their household and vice-versa. he also has a little sister with them and one on the way with us. good luck to you, i hope i could be of help:)

lyricbrodie (144.5 days ago)
i have 2 children from previous and a new baby with my hubby, and he treats them all the same, one is 9 , one is 7 , and the new baby is 5 months

soon2be3 (144.5 days ago)
Not trying to start an argument here at all, so please don`t take it this way...you may not be their true mother, but you are a mother figure. My mom was not active in my life, so I desperately wanted my step-mom to want to be my mom too. I think its important to respect the other mom and never...no matter how bad she is...talk bad about her in front of the children. I guess every situation is a little different.

summerisis (144.5 days ago)
I would recommend that you remember that you`re not their mother and that the best you`ll ever be is their friend. So be a good friend and support their relationship with their mother in whatever form that may need to take for your specific situation.

soon2be3 (144.5 days ago)
Make sure that what ever you do for your own children, you do for your step-children. I harbor serious hard feelings about the way I was treated differently from my step-sisters. I was a really good kid and it hurt to see my sisters show up with new things and I didn`t get them. Or for my step-mom to take an active interest in their lives, boyfriends, doing their hair for proms. If you can`t be there for them 100% emotionally, finacially, and physically...you will break their hearts.



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