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hunnybunnysmama (951.6 days ago)
Read `Happiest Toddler on the Block` it has some good techniques. The techniuqes seem to be some `common sense` but I know I can get stuck in a bad habit over certain behavior. I`ll read the book to refresh my reactions and remind me how to cope with her behavior. I like it because it`s not discipline or punshing them it`s UNDERSTANDING them and helping them undertand you too. Of course staying calm and not getting sucked into their meltdowns is crucial but if you are TOO calm they feel like you are dismissing their emotions and that you just don`t understand how frustrated they are. Mirroring them (without mocking of course) works great. I`ll say `Sophie MAD! Sophie MAD!` and she really does look at me like `yeah! I am!` Instead of saying `oh honey, I know you are upset but it`s time to go home and eat lunch now` because all she hears is `blah blah blah` I`ll say `Sophie wants more swing! Sophie wants more swing!` that sorta thing, it really works for us! She calms right down when I mirror what she wants. She just wants me to know she`s mad and if I act like I don`t get it or like I don`t care that she is upset it makes her more angry and scream louder!

nutnut (951.7 days ago)
i think at this age its probably better to quietly redirrect the child without making a big fuss over it. they usually get over things quickly anyway, so sometimes just removing them from the situation (out of sight out of mind) and replacing with somehthing else like a toy works. when she did have fits, i would just remove her from the situation and put her in her play pen or whatever so she could calm down. she got over things really fast. i know its hard to hear them cry, but as long as youre not being cruel about it (leaving them scream for hours)theres nothing wrong with removing them from the situation and letting them get thier frustrations out on thier own.

monica9 (951.8 days ago)
my daughter doesnt throw tantrums but has been crying constantly if i dont pick her up right when she wants it. its hard when i am trying to cook over a stove or take something out of the oven. she almost starts a `yelling` cry which i won`t tolerate. dont get me wrong, i hold her a lot, but when its dangerous to hold her or if i am trying to teach her i can`t ALWAYS pick her up, she doesnt like it. so i get down to her eye level, point to my ear and softly tell her to listen to mommy. i then explain to her that first mommy needs to cook and then mommy will hold you. mommy can`t hold you right now. i then bring her to her toys and redirect. it works about 80% of the time.

mommyofxyxyxx (951.8 days ago)
I would go right down to her eye level and very calmly explain that she is not going to get the item she wants and that mommy isn`t going to stand for the screaming and yelling and that if she doesn`t stop, you`ll put her in her crib. Then...when she starts screaming and yelling, calmly...CALMLY pick her up and put her in her crib until she calms down. Trust me...it will work to stop the tantrums. Be consistent and firm but not angry.

STCT (951.8 days ago)
Thanks ladies, I`ll have to try that. So I`m taking it that it`s normal for babies to do that? I really thought I was doing something to make her think she can have everything she wants.

RobinG (951.9 days ago)
When it is an object she wants and cant have redicrecting and "out of site out of mind" is the best approach. Either remove her or the object or pull out a new toy for her to play with. They are still struggling to "understand" at this age so expecting them to get it isnt the best approach since sometimes it isnt possible so redirect is best I've found.

Lou-Li-Ro (951.9 days ago)
I`m only learning too as my twins are my first kids, and they are 14 months now so I am really trying to learn more about discipline etc, but I think if you try not to reward the behaviour with your attention; perhaps try ignoring it? Or calmly saying, calm down and then letting her have her little tantrum but don`t give her any attention...? i don`t know! that`s just my advice!



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