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DeliaMae (1384.4 days ago)
I am a daycare provider and I love my job. But the best person to raise your child is you, not a stranger. No matter how wonderful that stranger is, they are not you, and YOU are the best person to raise your kid. Afterall did you have a baby to raise it and love it yourself, or let some other peron with their morals and ethics raise them?

Peachy09 (Ashlyn) (1384.4 days ago)
Maybe you guys should try half days when you don`t work? I find that my DS does better with a consistent morning routine even though I have a (1) weekday off every week. I often take him so he can play & keep his morning routine while I do the cleaning/housework/shopping so when I pick him up we just spend us-time together that day. I don`t know I would take him an extra 3 days a week though just as a really....okay I`ll say it - bad financial decision if nothing else. If you have a good play group, library reading day, etc. like the other girls have mentioned with or without 2-3 days of daycare your LO will be well socialized. I`m actually thinking about keeping #1 in half-days while I`m on maternity leave with #2 for the routine, because I know I`ll be exhausted! PS...my DS absolutely loves his daycare!

mimi2b2aboy (1384.6 days ago)
onesharpfamily ~ i was being facticious

Love.Nora (1384.6 days ago)
Daycare is over rated. We didnt find it necessary to put my son in daycare just to have me work full time to suport sumone looking after my kid while he plays. I can do everything they can do at home. If your child needs more socialization then have kids over for visits more or maybe babysit one during the day at your home. My son is polite and has manners etc but when I put him in daycare for 2 weeks he came back spitting on us and picked up on some very rude behavior from school. At school he was very polite but other kids were extremely rude and pushy. I would suggest if you need to finacially, hold of until they go for maybe pre-k, which should be enough to prepare them for school.

onesharpefamily (1384.7 days ago)
mimi2b-- thats not entirely true. My daughter has started the whole biting thing and neither I nor my husband sits around biting her. Its just a stage she is going through.

3girls2008 (1384.7 days ago)
i have never had my daughters in daycare or preschool and they are both respectible loving very smart girls... they get along and make new friends very easily i dont believe for one moment a child HAS to go to daycare to be well behaved and adapted to other kids

andriette and christians mummy liz (1384.7 days ago)
Awww thanx mimi,ur real nice:-).I tried to accept ur friends request but couldt coz i cant click on accept.Im not bothered bout her,whatever makes her feel better haha!!But what bothers me is that she has went to my page and read my previous polls.Down right freaky!!

happyforest (1384.7 days ago)
gosh, why work for nothing?! and put your child in daycare WITH STRANGERS when you are perfectly capable of staying home with them? your hubby needs to educate himself on child development if he thinks she `needs` a permanent daycare routine in order to be normal. i dont even let friends watch my child, so especially not some stranger in a daycare! i guess if i HAD to work, then i would have no choice, but i dont work so of course i want to raise my child myself, they way it is meant to be

mimi2b2aboy (1384.8 days ago)
also to comment on what cheeky said, you should feel no obligation to respond to her rudness it is a fake profile. don`t worry mama ask all the questions you want that is the reason we are ALL here.

Danetteplustwo (1384.8 days ago)
If you want to work do so, but my daughter has never been in daycare and doesn`t bite or hit and at 14 months shares very nicely with other kids. We go on a playdate several times a week and she`s very socialized.

Khloes Mommy (1384.8 days ago)
I would go with play dates & taking your little one places with other children. Why, not only pay but have someone else get to see all the cute things your LO is going to do when you have the opportunity to be the one to see it all & your child still gets interaction with other children....

andriette and christians mummy liz (1384.8 days ago)
Thanx mimi i agree with u,lovely comment w/out coming off rude:-)

mimi2b2aboy (1384.8 days ago)
this is not to come off rude but i think that whom ever told you that is ridiculous. children pick up other habits from other children in day care. i mean the only way your baby is going to turn around and bite you is if your sitting at home with them biting them. lol my lo is in daycare 2 days a week with her grandparents 2 days and with my husband 1 day me 1 day and me and my husband 1 day. My daughter since in daycare; has picked up hiting, screaming and stickin her finger up her nose and making her nose bleed. so anything anyone says she is going to pick up from not going to daycare she is likely to pick up faster IN daycare.

andriette and christians mummy liz (1384.8 days ago)
Cheekybee wheres ur page?

Aiona (1384.8 days ago)
I knew a little girl who pinched and bit other people, and she *went* to daycare from day 1. I think the behavior problems stemmed more from parental lack of guidance.

andriette and christians mummy liz (1384.8 days ago)
Ladobruk-I dont have matric(not my fault) so i can get a max of r2500(um bout $300) we dont need extra money though.Our daycares differ and gas is alot coz i would have to drive pretty far to get to work and back.I was just seeking others opinions(this countries opinions are sooo diffrent than u guys). Bellami-i totaly agree hey,i would never sit at home while dd is in daycare. Cheekybee-I know the people round me(most) are little weird,believe me i dont take their advice at all,BUT i like to get others opinions too,im very open minded.Yeah i agree sometimes my confidence is down and out,i just want to do the best for my child and not look back 10 years from now and think`hey i couldve asked those wonderfull ppl on iap,then thinhgs might have turned out better`,prolly sound stupid,but thats how i feel.I wanna give my dd a better childhood than i had,maybe i focus on that too much,but clearly i love my child:-).P.s not judging on that last sentence.

canadababy (1384.8 days ago)
LOL, that is so funny! And totally NOT TRUE!!! If you want her to socialize why don`t you put her in pre-school when she`s old enough and before then take her to play-groups or McDonalds play-land. Daycare is NOT a requirement for a healthy child, that is laughable.

jpcm (1384.8 days ago)
Honestly, if we knew of a daycare, that was close enough that it woudl be do-able, we would enroll our almost 3 yr old. She is extremely social, alittle too friendly to strangers, but, I also think, and have had a teacher tell me this also, children learn alot from other children, sometimes, the best expamples, are set by other children. With Caiti (my daughter) she is extremely hyper, unless we are around other kids, then she calms down some and actually tries to interact with the other child. She shares emotions with the other child. I have a 1 yr old also, so, basically only social interaction my 3 yr old or my 1 yr old gets, is just that, the 3 of us together. Yeah, I am mommy, and I can enteratin and teach her some of the right and wrongs, but I can`t do everythign on a child`s level. How ever many days or how many hours, or which daycare, or what you do while your child is at daycare, is totally up to you, especially if you choose a daycare you are comfortable with (which would be expected from most you know) Don`t worry abotu what other say, all children are different, and some actually gain so much from the experience. My niece and nephew both went to daycares, and they learned SO MUCH more then you would think, it wasn`t all fun and games. I would probably compromise with hubby on this one, maybe try starting off a few days a week and if you see your child is doing well and liking it, then you can agree to more days etc. Also, stay home at first, just in case your child doesn`t liek it, and they want to be home more, then you are still at home and can go back to regular routine. Oh, and I can also tell you, the whole biting, punching, naughty, is alittle bit luck of the draw, I think, regardless of daycare or not, at some point, children will go through this maybe not as much as other kids, but we all have our, omg, my child is being mean!!! moments LOL

cncmom (1384.8 days ago)
My boys never went to daycare but my oldest did go to preschool from age 2 to present, he will be starting kindergarten this month. My youngest will also attend the same preschool when he is old enough. When he was 2 he went one day a week from 9-11:30, when he was 3 he went two days a week 9-11:30 and when he was 4 he went three days a week 9-11:30. He enjoyed it very much and learned a lot and made lots of friends. I would never send my child to daycare while I sit at home. There are lots of things that other have mentioned you can do.

athenab1984 (1384.8 days ago)
I have a friend who is a SAHM. She is a military spouse and dosen`t know anyone here except my hubby and me and our daughter basically. Her little boy never plays with other kids...EVER! She is putting him in day care for a few days a week just to get that interaction and learning from his peers. I don`t think your child will be any less smart or developed than a child who dosen`t go to day care, but the interaction will be great. The same way we all need `mommy` time..babies need thiers too. To be around kids thier own age for a little bit..IMO

jessicalynn21 (1384.8 days ago)
My son is now 5 getting ready to start school. He has been in daycare since he was 11 months. I worked but not where he needed to go everyday. After about a year he wanted to go everyday. He enjoyed playing with kids his ages. I didn`t know people who had kids his age plus I was a young mom (20) so the mommy and me groups I didn`t really fit into. Once his father and I split up he would go to daycare when he was at his dads and didn`t go on days that I had him but once again he would ask to go to school! So I would take him let him play for a few hours and pick him up. On the other hand I have a niece who was put in daycare because her mom thought she needed to play with other kids because we was and is needy. She would just cry and scream the whole time. I think it really depends on your child. Now that my son is starting school in September I have taken him out of daycare for the last month so I can spend more time with him. I believe it helps kids who are 3-4 get prepared for kindergarten.

.punky. (1384.8 days ago)
She also doesn`t bite, hit or pinch...and is EXTREMELY social!

andriette and christians mummy liz (1384.8 days ago)
Armymom-nope we do not have the option of a gym that has a nursery,were a little behind in stuff.I would love it though.I prefer staying home with her but dont wanna make her socialy withdraw etc.I went to a friend in our complex today and she has a 16 month old and a 7 year old,dd went crazy,screaming in excitement,laughing at lala(7 year old`s teletubbie dol,im telling u she laughed outa her tummy)That got me thinking that she need that extra stimulation.

.punky. (1384.8 days ago)
I never went to daycare either. My LO is 15 months and has never spent a day in daycare and she is a very sweet girl. She maybe does the typical toddler `mine` every now and again but she is very sweet natured and shares everything.

mommyofxyxyxx (1384.8 days ago)
It sounds like you`ve been getting advice from people who`s kids are IN daycare. Don`t listen to them. AT ALL. Stay at home with your child, if you can afford to. DO take them to a mommy and me class or find a social network of moms in your area.(our local paper always has ads in them for mommy and baby `playdates`)....Take them to your gym, if you go.... I HAVE to take my three week old daughter to daycare soon and I am wish I didn`t have to. I have two older boys that never went to daycare and they are well adjusted, very smart, talented young boys.

armymom (1384.8 days ago)
Do you have the option of a gym that has a nursery? I started working out and putting my son in the nursery 5-6 hours a week but will eventually put him in daycare when I start working again, probably in 4-5 months. I would suggest finding a gym with a nursery, church with a nursery, playgroups in your area, child gyms (like gymboree), story times at the library, and other activities of that sort where your LO will be around other babies. I don`t think daycare is needed if you`re not working. There`s plenty of other options for SAHM`s.

amber325 (1384.8 days ago)
That is silly...to put the baby in daycare to avoid social problems....IF YOU CAN stay home and go to playdates, group outings or other stuff. To put the baby in others care saying it is better then mom care is totally against anything I believe...ESPECIALLY if you did it and still stayed home. Maybe 1-2 days for daycare but not all week if you can avoid it.

RobinG (1384.8 days ago)
What a child NEEDS is interaction with other children, time alone too to be independant and know how to play alone, time exploring new things, educational games and toys, interaction with other people other then family, fun experiences, outside time etc etc ALL of which can be done as a stay at home mom who goes to the park, has a play group, has a child in a PART TIME day care or not at all etc etc. The list goes on ~ Your DH is wrong. She doesnt need full time daycare to get those things. Putting her in full time is taking away one major thing and thats more time with you. A child seen socialy withdrawn,jealous and naughthy, biting, pinching and not sharing does that because of many reasons (daycare doesnt always fix that) and is more apt to occur if you seclude your child, allow them to get away with things, etc etc the list goes on. ((hugs))



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