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Epopea(blue) (913.5 days ago)
I feel that once a couple is engaged... or I guess you could say promised to share a lifetime together they can call eachother what they wish. I consider my brother`s girlfriend, whom he has been with for 14 years and they have a 2 year old together, to be my sister-in-law. She even was with him through 3 years of chemo/radiation with cancer. They both came from rocky families in which the parents stayed together, but through really rough times. They stated that this way they would need to keep showing how much they love eachother every day and could not slip into a state where its easy to kind of relax and take the other forgranted. I respect this. I personally considered my husband just that the day we signed the marriage certificate.
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debsandgrace (915.9 days ago)
I too am not bothered what ppl call their b/f. I was with mine for 10yrs before we got married, engaged for 7. I called him either my partner or other half. Once we got married i really enjoyed the newness of being able to call him my hubby! I can understand how ppl in real long term relationships want to call them hubby but as with life everything is our own choice.
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sheework (915.9 days ago)
I think that`s exactly why most in a committed long term relationship think bf/ gf doesn`t fit them. I know I am not like the gazillion other teens/ adults out there meeting a breaking up in the same day, week or month. We have both said we will spend our lives together, married or not. I think you just helped the case that bf/ gf term is usually associated with not serious relationships which mine after 8 years is not.
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butterblocksmom (916 days ago)
I just wanted to reiterate to everyone here how much I love my husband. My husband is amazing. My husband is the best daddy ever. Lol! PS, in the eyes of the ruler and the government of my country, my husband and I are technically married because of the length, duration and proximity of our relationship. And we share benefits...and tax deductions too! And I will never marry him, because I don't feel the need to.
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hunnybunnysmama (916 days ago)
even tho I`m a sahm and my man supports me 100% (financially and emotionally) we are not married and I never refer to him as my husband because he is NOT my husband, we are NOT married. i don`t think it diminishes our relationship to admit we aren`t married... we ARE getting married in a couple months after 5 years, one mortgage and a child... because I`d like to call him my husband! But I refuse to call him such until it`s official.
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pooka (916 days ago)
well I would think Butter the fact we also have legal gay marriage would contribute to that some what. Maybe more open minded the definition of `marriage` in general?
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adalynnsmommy(PINK) (916 days ago)
jenakers and Melissa totaly agree! You may have a better relationship than any other married couple out there, but if you`re not married then you`re not married.
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jenakers (916 days ago)
HAHA, MELISSA, We must have been typing at the same time! Great minds think alike! J/K OMG TO FUNNY!
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ilovemy2littleprinces (916 days ago)
i started calling my man my husband a few months before we got married
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MelissaJoanne (916 days ago)
Well, it`s not just a term of endearment. By definition a husband is a man joined in marriage. The `piece of paper` legally makes them a husband, similarly to how you actually need a doctorate to be a `doctor`, or a law degree and bar exam to be a `lawyer`. It doesn`t really ruffle my feathers, exactly, but it seems deceptive to me. When my husband was my boyfriend, I called him that. This may not be true, but it often *seems* like a woman is ashamed that she`s not married if she`s referring to her boyfriend as husband or hubby. It may not be the case for some, but it can come across that way.
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