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babyx2 (197.3 days ago)
My 91/2 month old gets up early- around 5:30ish every day, so on weekends when we want to sleep in a little longer we`ll bring him to bed with us. By this time, I am no longer really sleeping and I am a very light sleeper as he rolls around the entire time. I never felt safe before..

Stay@HomeZOOkeepa (199.4 days ago)
I don`t know how long you are thinking about doing this...but it`s a hard thing to break if they get too old! I suggest (only from experience) to lay your child alone in own BIG crib, awake, so they learn to comfort themselves to sleep. In turn you will get the much sleep you deserve throughout the years!

KevinsMilfTTC (199.7 days ago)
Hubby and I co-slept with our daughter from birth until she was almost 4 months old, at which time we transferred her to her crib. We had no problems with the transition (she cried for maybe 4 or 5 minutes), I believe because she was young enough not to really notice. We didn`t let co-sleeping become something more than what we wanted it for, which was easy night feedings and peace of mind that bub was ok. :-D And it worked great!! Most people don`t understand how completely aware you are of the baby next to you, but if you feel that you`d sleep too soundly then it`s not the right choice for you!!

BethSilva (199.7 days ago)
I have co-slept with my daughter since she was 10 weeks. Before that she was in a bassanete beside my bed. I love it. I agree that I don`t get a great night sleep. But that`s okay :) at the moment were in a 1 bedroom, so it was just easier. We`ll be moving to a 2 bedroom Oct. 1st. My son will be born a couple weeks before that. I`m curious how this will work? If she`ll sleep in her own room in her own bed, or with us? And of corse the new baby will be next to my bed :)

azmommytobe (199.7 days ago)
never-- it is a horrible habit to break as well.

pooka (199.8 days ago)
If you actually read the site, clicked the link with the studies used then you would find they come from such places as: The American Journal of Forensic Medicine and Pathology, British Medical Journal, Archives of Disease in Childhood (England), Forensic Science International (U.S.), Pediatrics (U.S., Archives of Disease in Childhood (Ireland) Journal of Pediatrics (Scotland, Archives of Pathology and Laboratory Medicine (U.S.) and on and on.. not just `created by people that are allowed to offer their opinions. They are not bound by any ethical guidelines to produce absolutely factual information.`

ladobruk (199.8 days ago)
I wouldn`t consider it until over a year. They are less likely get wedged between the bed and wall, more likely to wake up if you do accidently roll on them or they make their way to your pillow or under your covers. My girl is such a wiggle worm, I can`t see how she wouldn`t get tangled in the blankets or wedged between our pillows. I co-slept once when were we at the lake when she was about 3 mths old. I admit I loved it, but I couldn`t sleep comfortably, I was stiff as a board. It was nice waking up to her although she woke twice to BF throughout the night, something she didn`t normally do. I must have smelled yummy.

xolblondieox (199.8 days ago)
It`s been edited. It was meant to read .GOV. Sorry.

happyforest (199.8 days ago)
ashlynn i was about to say the same thing! my fiance makes websites, and when you go to make one you pick between org com net and a few other things....the only difference is you might have to pay more to have com than net or have org than com....but you can still write anything on your org website! also i am a co-sleeper, i know how to SAFELY sleep with my child, the most natural thing for me to do. if i were to roll on top of him i think i would notice there was a 20 lb child under me! co-sleeping deaths happen because unfortunatly, people do things without researching and thinking a lot about them first. sleeping, like anything else that has to do with babies, is important and you should be well-informed on whatever your method is. if you just put a baby in bed with you and dont think anything else of it you might have a problem. (take precautions- no blanket or pillows near babies face, no crack between bed and wall, no drugs or sleeping pills obviously, and no deep sleeping parents) it can be done safely, as many co-sleepers and their children can tell you. but if you are uncomfortable, that is the first signal that co-sleeping isn`t for you or that you just aren`t ready to do it yet until baby is bigger and you are comfortable. each family is different...

ADDISYNS~MUM (199.8 days ago)
thank you all for your comments... i just moved to a new town... and i was talking to my mom the other day... (who lives in the town i used to) and she told me about how a sober non drug user mother was `napping` with her 4 month old baby and she smothered her baby and she died! i will admit... i have tried taking a nap with my little one... while my husband is wide awake and in the same room... but i have to agree with everyone else... i cant even sleep... i lay there with my eyes closed... but there is always that ONE time that YOU may just fall into a hard sleep... and something might happen that you will NEVER be able to take back again! i dont think i could live with my self if i killed my baby! just talking to my mom and hearing of that happening in the town i used to live in it hits you... that it can happen to anyone... i will never co-sleep... not even napping now... but it is a touchy subject... so thank you all for you comments... and everyone is entitled to their opinions!

pooka (199.8 days ago)
You can also just invest in a bassinet that attaches and is flush with the bed. The baby is right beside you and it would be impossible to roll onto them. I have one and I consider it co-sleeping without having the baby right in bed with me. I used the simplicity brand 4 in 1 .. but if you do invest make sure it has had the recall modifications to it. If getting a used one.

ilovemylittleprince (199.8 days ago)
never going to co-sleep. his crib is in our room though. i am paranoid of that happening and will never do it

ilovemylittleprince (199.8 days ago)
never going to co-sleep. his crib is in our room though. i am paranoid of that happening and will never do it

xolblondieox (199.8 days ago)
I would say at least over a year is when it would be `safe`. They are bigger and able to move around as they please in every which way. I have seen co-sleeping death FIRST HAND. I have assisted with the autopsies and the subsequent investigations of four deceased infants. Not ONE of those involved drugs, alcohol, medications or blankets. I saw GOOD parents that got too comfortable and careless. Don`t ever think that it can`t happen to you. That`s ignorance. The eight parents that I interviewed never thought it could happen to them either. We need to learn from other people`s mistakes and take this seriously. Not dismiss and degrade the deaths of innocent babies, because we think there were underlying reasons for why they died. In some cases, probably. In all cases, NO. Co-sleeping fatality is an epidemic. They have already launched a hospital campaign entitled, `Babies Sleep Safest Alone`. Every mother that goes to a hospital to give birth to her baby will be verbally warned of co-sleeping danger and she will also be given literature about how davastating the practice can be. It`staking more precedence than the `Back to Sleep` campaign right now. They already have full-blown presence in NY and several other places. One death is too many and I cannot go through life thinking that I`m invisible, because it`s more convenient for me. Tragedy can strike anyone at any moment. I understand where you`re coming from with wanting to occasionally have a `slumber party` of sorts in bed with your LO, and I intend to do the same in time. But I will be waiting until my babies are well over 1, if not 2, to start that. And ALWAYS get your facts online from .GOV resources. Webisties that are linked by .com are created by people that are allowed to offer their opinions. They are not bound by any ethical guidelines to produce absolutely factual information. Everything can be tweaked to sound a certain way. Go to government and health department websites when researching just how devastating co-sleeping deaths are. You want scholarly, peer reviewed journal articles or government controlled studies.

littlepixie (199.8 days ago)
Also, i must add, it is something i am trying not to do! for his sake and mine. But at the moment i am so paranoid that i dont sleep when he isnt in my bed, he has a crib at the side of my bed and when he is in there i jump out of bed every time i hear a change in his breathing or he makes a noise. Its the lesser of two evils for me. In my bed he sleeps better, and i rest better because i can check him easily. I still understand the issues of safety though.

CarolinaBaby1 (199.8 days ago)
Up until 3 months, my son slept in his bassinet right beside my bed. I started letting him sleep beside me when I figured out how to nurse laying down. I was automatically sleeping light when he was in our bed. I don`t know, I guess I was just conscious about where my baby was and that I need to stay in one position. My fiance was the same.

pooka (199.8 days ago)
http://thebabybond.com/Cosleeping&SIDSFactSheet.html just an fyi

t555rm (199.8 days ago)
I`ve always co slept with my son who`s now 10 months. I really don`t understand how a mom can roll over their baby while sleeping. We are tuned to be conscious of them lying next to us...at least I am. But it`s true that we can sleep better when they are NOT with us coz as little pixie said, I find that I can`t move as much as I`d like, not that I`ll roll over him lol but fear that he`ll wake up when i shift positions...that sucks. But 10 months and am getting used to it.

bethk (199.8 days ago)
ive never co slept with my lo but on many occasions she has ended up between h2b an me since birth and we have never had a problem, must admit i dnt sleep as well when shes in the bed but ivenever had any issues of rollin on her i am a light sleeper tho xx

pooka (199.8 days ago)
Those stories more often then not involve parents who take medications, were drinking, or doing drugs. You have to watch when assuming they are `normal` circumstances. Or parents who do foolish things like majorly cover the baby or let them sleep on a soft pillow etc.

armymom (199.8 days ago)
I would think around 9 months it would become a little safer but then at that age they are much more mobile and could roll or crawl off the bed. To me, co-sleeping would be dangerous at any age because i sleep so hard. It has never been an option for me. Plus, I like me and DH`s alone time too much. lol. Co-sleeping can be done safely from any age if the correct precautions are taken I`d assume but it`s something I would never consider for myself because I know I`m a hard sleeper.

yorkc39 (199.8 days ago)
i don`t think it would safe until they`re much older, such as a couple years, because they`re too small now to do much, while they can cry yes but if they`re still being suffocated bc someone rolls onto them, they won`t be able to cry i would think

littlepixie (199.8 days ago)
I have to admit that before i had my baby boy i thought co-sleeping was a bad idea. But have found myself letting him sleep in my bed... he is 19 days old. I personally find that i do not move an inch when he is in my bed, i think its because i am so aware that he is there that i dont fully fall asleep. I actually still think its a bad idea in case i do roll over on him or he gets too used to sleeping in my bed and not his own. Its a very sensitive subject because there are so many strong views on co-sleeping.

MrCheeks23 (199.8 days ago)
i think when they are around 9 to 10 months its a little safer. i did it from six months but i could never sleep because i kept worrying about what could happen.



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