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graciesmomma (889.8 days ago)
Yes, even when I`m tired I usually don`t say anything because what I`ve found is that once things get started I end up enjoying it!

nutnut (889.9 days ago)
if im not in the mood im not in the mood. same goes for SO. we both agreed that doing something were not into will be worse in the long run. Besides, there`s many ways to `talk me into it`. LOL> or get me in the mood. It just takes a bit of effort is all. =))))

Lou-Li-Ro (889.9 days ago)
I sometimes don`t feel like it; a lot more often since I had our twins (probably because of body-changes etc) and I do sometimes fake it to please him. I get into it, and then it`s good, but sometimes I do just go along with it because I want the tension eased!!! he needs it aLOT!!! LOl also, what Ella said I agree with completely: `If I didn`t at least have the wax done and feel good about myself, then I wouldn`t feel in the mood, if that makes any sense at all.` -- makes Tons of sense Ella!

t555rm (889.9 days ago)
I do to please my dh. I have a low sex drive and I can really go without it for months. I wasn`t always like this tho`, just started after giving birth...Could be coz am bfing. So anyways it`s not fair to my hubby. He`s so understanding and patient but there`s just so much that a man can hold back, right? So I give in on those days when he wants it and I don`t. But I still enjoy the foreplay, and am so grateful for that LOL

armymom (889.9 days ago)
I never pretend. When I`m not in the mood then don`t even try. My hormone levels are finally starting to level out and I`ve got my sex drive back now so it`s not really an issue much anymore.. My husband was deployed for my entire pregnancy and until my son was 6 months old so it`s probably a good thing he was gone because i had an extremely low sex drive during and after birth.. 9 months after birth to be exact. My son is turning 11 months soon and I finally feel like myself. Only 1 week out of the month is sex off limits.. lol. But to answer your question.. no I don`t `put out` just to be nice and please him. He has a hand!! LOL

SarahLJ (890 days ago)
I sometimes don`t feel like it but normally have sex anyway just to please my DH. Our relationship is great and everything but I just hardly ever seem to feel in the mood when he does.

yorkc39 (890 days ago)
I don`t think you should fake sex to make the relationship last. Sex is only a part of the relationship, and while sex can be great, if the relationship isn`t good, the sex doesn`t matter. But if it`s to make u`r hubby happy then go ahead, I do it with DH all the time, it keeps him happy and it makes me feel good because of that. He`s told me several times he doesn`t want to have sex if it`s going to get in the way of our relationship, we`ve ommitted sex before when we needed to work more on the relationship, but most of the time we`re fine working with each other and meeting each other`s needs. But if you really don`t want to don`t feel pressured

loribb (890 days ago)
Oh gosh, I always pretend to be in the mood lately, just to keep hubby happy. I`m sure once I`m done being so pregnant it will go back to normal!

happyforest (890 days ago)
i dont. sometimes i dont feel in the mood for weeks, but i dont pretend to be, my bf wouldnt like it if he knew i was faking, and if i told him i wasnt in the mood then he wouldnt still want to do anything bc who wants to do something with someone who doesnt want to? he respects me enough to not get mad or be rude to me if i dont want to have sex for a while. my ex used to treat me like crap if i said no, he would call me names, ignore me, just be mean to me in general, and sometimes even start throwing my stuff out into the street and tell me to get out. so after that, i have never and will never be able to have sex when i dont want to

RobinG (890 days ago)
My GF and I had a conversatrion about this year ago ~ I lost my sex drive and this is a struggle for me. She said this is how she approaches those times when she isnt in the mood ~ she feels that making her husband feel good is important and in those times when she feels his interested is justified (meaning he isnt bing a jerk and pushing for it or you know you should want to be in the mood too) that it is good to do it for him. Just as you would want DH to do things to make you feel good too, even if not sex... like a back rub, foot massage etc etc. Thinking of it that way made it sound better and more reasonable. So when I am not in the mood I ask myself if saying no is what I want to do or if I want to make him feel good and do it for him.



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