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california-mom (887.2 days ago)
I agree with sheework. And this should be a private decision you and your husband make together without having to justify or talk about it with anyone else. Its no ones business and boils down to what YOU guys want and feel would be best for your family at this point.

sheework (887.7 days ago)
I think if you really in your heart of hearts don`t think you can care for the baby abort it. I know many woman are anti choice on here but I am one who is pro choice. I don`t think there should ever be an unwanted baby born. I know many say adoption but I know for me I could never carry a baby for 9 months only to give it away and I am sure many others couldn`t either. This is ultimately your choice, you have to live and care for the child not us. I do suggest not matter what you do you take birth control so that you don`t have to make this decision again. Or the day after pill. Good luck to you on this hard decision.

blondie9504 (887.7 days ago)
In your case I would either keep the baby or have an abortion. Adoption wouldn`t be an option unless maybe your Mom would want the baby but adopting to someone you don`t know would eat at you severely the rest of your life. As far as everyone saying to get a job and use birth control, things happen and I understand that. Jobs are scarce right now so its not that easy to just go get one. I got laid off in Feb but was pregnant so I haven`t even began to look for a job yet because nobody will give a prego a job if the know about it. I didn`t wants kids because I have 3 `stepchildren` so I was on the pill and most of the time we used a condom too. Either way, I ended up pregnant but I miscarried and it about killed both of us emotionally. So we decided to have one child of our own and we could afford it because we both had good jobs. So after I was healed from the m/c the Dr okayed us to TTC and we sure did! That month lol! And then I got laid off shortly after. Things have been rough and getting rougher because my SO pays out over half of his check to child support and my unemployment is running out. I don`t know what we`re going to do because he `makes too much` to get help even though we arent married. Thankfully my Dad and Grandparents can help us out some if we need it. But my SO works a job that is at least 16 hours a day and usually at least 5 days a week and he is salary so he doesn`t make overtime. So that leaves me trying to work around his schedule trying to find a job(as if it werent hard enough already)because daycare isn`t an option and my family lives 20 miles away so I really don`t want to drive that far if I`m only getting paid minimum wage, it just wouldn`t be worth it. I understand where you`re comming from and wouldn`t judge you for your decision either way it went. Times are tough right not and only going to get tougher before it gets better. Just make sure you REALLY think about ANY decision you make and don`t go off half cocked. *Hugs* If you need to talk, just shout at me!

MrCheeks23 (887.7 days ago)
i would put school on a break and find a full time job and a cheap sitter. i would definately keep baby. school can wait. the kiddos need you ;) im sure your husband can get a job pretty easily he just needs to try harder

happyforest (887.7 days ago)
i would keep the baby. without work you guys can get foodstamps, wic, medicaid, and free daycare vouchers. this way you can both search for jobs, and have something to help you along until you get one, and most likely even after that if you arent making really good money. dont feel bad for having to do this or for accidentally getting pregnant when you werent ready. it happens everyday, and so many pull through and look back and wouldnt change a thing bc of how much you love your child. you can do it if you want to!! but if not then only you can make that decision not anyone from on here..

bellajenna (887.7 days ago)
i would keep the baby things just have a way of working out. my husband passed away and i have 3 kids and go to school with no help from anyone(online school) if anything you may not want to hear this but i would hold off on school and get a job. and like nmck said use birth control a bit better and many more than 1 type. good luck

pooka (887.8 days ago)
Personally I would expect the father to step up and get some sort of a job. Peeking at your profile I also see your only 19 (not only in a sense your too young but in a sense you have tons of years ahead of you) Education can wait a few years. I can tell you from experience that if unless you want to have only one child at any time having a new baby is not going to be convenient to your educational pursuits but in some ways getting `it over with` in the sense you will have your children close also has some benefit. If you go back to school now with the plan to have more children after then you have the issue of putting a career on hold. One way or another its bound to be tough. I would explore other options, things you might not have considered like home schooling. In the end only you can decide however. Your the one who has to live with the choices.

Str8 As (887.8 days ago)
It is your decision. However, if I were in the situation, I would keep the baby and look towards the future. Things will have to get better financially I would think. No matter what decision you make, you will have to live with it each and everyday. With that said, how will you feel down the road? I couldn`t imagine not having any of mine....hope nothing but the best in your decision and things will work out. Don`t make a fast decision you may regret later.

christina-ann (887.8 days ago)
Do what you think is the best choice for you. Everyone here is very Pro-life, first of all, so i doubt you`ll get any abortion feedback. But if you can`t keep the baby, can you really see yourself giving it up for adoption? Thats a really BIG BIG decision.. And if you can`t afford to keep her, and you`ll be preoccupied with school, i really dont know if having another baby right now would be the best option either. You have to be realistic.. things dont just -work out- , you have a 5 month old to take care of.. you dont want to have him go without just because on a whim you think maybe -things will work themselves out- ..This is only my opinion.. I`m pro-choice, so i personally would abort before it gets too far along, and you cant make a choice anymore. I hope nobody chops my head off for saying that.

ilovemy2littleprinces (887.8 days ago)
i think i might be pregnant too. thankfully man man has a job and i just got one but if i get pregnant i can only work for so long and we live in a one br apt, idk what i would do i have thought about it, i know our families would help us and i doubt they would want to see their grandchild givin up for adoption, yea abortion isn`t a choice for me. there are alot of programs for help like cash assistance,foodstamps and wic...if you need it use it..

nutnut (887.8 days ago)
personally i would keep the baby or give it up for adoption. but, you need to decide that for yourself. no one here can justify your decisions for you. whatever you decide will be for you to deal with. however, there is help if youre not working. you can get welfare, medical, food stamps, etc. local churches offer clothes, food, etc. just bc i dont believe in abortion, doesnt mean i would judge someone for having one either. its an indivual decision. my first response is emotional, bc i cant just pop out babies. so the first thing i think of is, oh the poor mom, she`s going through so much, then i think ugh just have the baby and let me take care of it. but life just isnt so simple. have family who have had miscarriage after miscarriage, who tried so hard to have children, but they just arent sucessfull. things always happen for a reason. i wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide. whatever you do, make sure you have all the information you need in order to make that informed decision. good luck!

Naaster (887.8 days ago)
You have a huge decision, and you can`t really use other people`s opinions to make that choice. No matter what you do there will be people who will judge you. I`ve got two kids, and had an abortion, and am having a third. None of mine were planned, but those I had I truly wanted. And the one I aborted, I had my reasons. Your reasons for your choice, no matter what it is, must be your own. Either way it`s not easy. And if you let others make the decision for you it will hurt you more. Search your heart, I did each time, and feel I made the right choice EACH time. People judged me for having a child at 19. They judged me for getting pregnant `and knowing better` each time. And if they all knew about the abortion, I`m sure they`d judge me for that, too. I did, and do, what is right for my family and the children I have already had, too. Good luck! It`s a tough spot to be in, for sure!

RobinG (887.8 days ago)
If it were me I`d look at my 5 mnths old and ask myself if I could abort him? I know my answer would always be no. If you feel you really cant keep this child consider adoption. And nmck is right ~ Personally I`d def keep the baby and make it work as best I could.

nmck (887.9 days ago)
please use birth control diligently if you are not so that you do not have to consider this again!



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