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nutnut (875.7 days ago)
why was he testing you? that seems childish or a cop out on his part no offense. just like he is trying to cover something up, when really he doesnt even need to. its not a huge deal. my SO has x`s on their fb,myspace, whatever i could care less. so let them look at our pictures and our family and see how happy we are, i dont really care. i limit what i put up on my pages anyway. there`s dozens of people on my friends list i dont even speak to. Im really not trying to be mean, and im sorry you had to get into a huge fight with him. i dont blame you for being upset with him seeing as this girl has caused drama in the past. i just dont buy he accepted her just to see how you would react. that makes no sense. anyhow.. hopefully its over now and things will go back to normal for you. you dont want to be stressing over something that in the long run doesnt matter. (meaning this x doesnt matter) thats just how i figure it. hopefully everything ends up being good for you two and she will just go away.
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GavinsMum (875.7 days ago)
So heres what happened. I asked him about it.. we got in a huge fight the biggest we have ever had. He said the only reason he did it was to see how i would react.And that i reacted just how he wanted me too. So it was a game to him and he did it on purpose. I dont get it... he isnt usually like this. I would almost say he was a perfect fiance. But needless to say this isnt the first time somethign like this has happened with his ex... I dont think he would ever go back to her but i still dont understand why he would except her to begin with. I told him i was sick of going threw this and threaten to leave and he relized how dumb he was and what he just done. I dont think i over reacted because of how serious this situation really is... I plan on leaving her a little message in her inbox letting her know there is no need to ever contact us again and leaving it at that. Why do people have to be so childish???
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GavinsMum (875.7 days ago)
So heres what happened. I asked him about it.. we got in a huge fight the biggest we have ever had. He said the only reason he did it was to see how i would react.And that i reacted just how he wanted me too. So it was a game to him and he did it on purpose. I dont get it... he isnt usually like this. I would almost say he was a perfect fiance. But needless to say this isnt the first time somethign like this has happened with his ex... I dont think he would ever go back to her but i still dont understand why he would except her to begin with. I told him i was sick of going threw this and threaten to leave and he relized how dumb he was and what he just done. I dont think i over reacted because of how serious this situation really is... I plan on leaving her a little message in her inbox letting her know there is no need to ever contact us again and leaving it at that. Why do people have to be so childish???
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GavinsMum (875.7 days ago)
So heres what happened. I asked him about it.. we got in a huge fight the biggest we have ever had. He said the only reason he did it was to see how i would react.And that i reacted just how he wanted me too. So it was a game to him and he did it on purpose. I dont get it... he isnt usually like this. I would almost say he was a perfect fiance. But needless to say this isnt the first time somethign like this has happened with his ex... I dont think he would ever go back to her but i still dont understand why he would except her to begin with. I told him i was sick of going threw this and threaten to leave and he relized how dumb he was and what he just done. I dont think i over reacted because of how serious this situation really is... I plan on leaving her a little message in her inbox letting her know there is no need to ever contact us again and leaving it at that. Why do people have to be so childish???
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sheework (875.7 days ago)
I would let him know that you saw that he is friends with her on there and that it doesn`t make you comfortable so you would like him to delete her. There is no need to have an all out fight with him over it, I am sure he doesn`t see it as an issue. I know one of my friends SO has his exs only because he wants them to see how happy he is now... immature, yes, but he doesn`t have them on there because he is secretly wanting contact with them. Just let him know how you feel and ask that he deletes her.
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dedileb (875.8 days ago)
i posted yesterday to let it go to see how he handled it, now id ask about it to see why he felt it was ok, its true what sammy28 said men dont think the way we do and he might not have even considered it to be a bad decision... dont be flipped out about it like robin said no need to have a crappy day over nothing but bring it to his attention and im sure he could care less about you deleting her and if she request him again im sure hell then make the right decision!
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GavinsMum (875.8 days ago)
Like i said... I did go in and delete her. I didnt want too but i didnt want her to be able to see whats going in my life and she wouldhave all day to read his profile. For the safety of our son and my life.... I went against me better judgement and did it. We have way too much going on in our lives right now for her to f** up.
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canadababy (875.9 days ago)
I really don`t understand all this....your fiance is a grown man and can make decisions, even if you don`t like them! Yeah it sucks, but you can`t make him do anything, he`s not a child! Have a reasonable talk with him when he gets home, until then go out for the day and try not to think about it :)
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jenakers (875.9 days ago)
Good on ya for NOT deleting it yesterday. I would do what others have already said. Calm down, he`s not driving to her house. Don`t jump on him at work, it will make you look insecure. Wait until he gets home. Don`t freak out. Calmly tell him you saw her on his friends. Like `already` said youdon`t want her to access your family even if it is from a distance. Men are dumb. He should have known it would annoy you. Don`t let his stupidity ruin your day. You`re in control.
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GavinsMum (875.9 days ago)
Robin.... You know i hadnt thought of that... I am darn mad. I really thought he would make the right choice and it would be a no brainer since all she has put us threw. I have made up my mind. He gets home for lunch in a couple hours. ** I deleted her** I am going to ask him if there is something he needs to tell me when he gets home. If he comes back with yes... (we`ll call her the devil) `the devil added me on fb` I`ll be like.... ` oh yes, i saw that. And i realized you made a mistake and excepted her friend request so i deleted her for you. Your welcome. (and smile)` well see how that goes... I`m ure we will argue then he`ll say they are over and why can i have my ex`s as friends ( My ex`s are different then his, I never slept with them and they aren`t crazy) and then I`ll prove my point that no good can come from this... and then I might even decide to message her myself to make sure this doesnt happen again. Thanks for all your help guys. I will let you know how it goes.
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RobinG (875.9 days ago)
I would confront him and tell him point blanket that you didnt do anything because you thought he would do the right thing and he has proven you wrong. Tell him you are going in and deleting it today and I`d call him right now ~ no way would I wait til he gets home. Why should you have a crappy day waiting for him to return home from work while she has a day to search his stuff!!
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sammy28 (875.9 days ago)
I would confront him with it. And since it shows right on his wall that he is friends with her now you dont have to tell him you were snooping. I wouldnt flip out on him though..Try to have a mature conversation with him. Tell him you want her deleted and it bothers you. Remember men dont see things as being a big deal as we do. We are def more sensative in that area.
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