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AngelicB1437 (869 days ago)
I knew a lot of babies like this when I was preggo so I started my daughter from the beginning with a lot of `next-to-mommy` time where she would lay on the couch next to me or on the floor in the same room as me or in the playpen in another room just for a few minutes at a time throughout the day in increasing intervals. I don`t know if its her or because i did that but she never had any seperation anxiety except for one or two fits here or there. I did however babysit my friend`s daughter for several months and she was held a lot! It was great for her parents because there were two of them and only one of her so one could be holding her while the other got stuff done. Unfortunately there was only one of me during the day and five children so holding her constantly was NOT an option. I know how you feel and I want to say I commend you as a mother recognizing the idea that a baby does need to understand that although mommy loves him/her it is okay to be alone for a few minutes at a time without freaking out. This little girl I babysat did not have any tummy-time (NONE) until 3 months old when I started watching her and even then she only got it at my house. Her parents would claim they `didn`t have time` to put her on her stomach during the weekends or at night. It took a few months of holding her for a bit, then setting her in the excersaucer or playpen with some toys, telling her I`d be right back and going to do a few dishes or prepare lunch while she cried. I`d come back every couple minutes, pick her up and calm her down and comfort her before I put her back down and left the room again. Sometimes it would help if I placed her within eyesight of me while I was working, but sometimes seeing me and knowing I wasn`t holding her made her more distraught and she would be fine until she saw me. I know its tough to listen to yours or any baby cry but you just have to remember that you are an amazing mom and she is not in danger. Her feelings may be hurt that you are not responding as quickly as she`d like but soon enough she will realize that she is capable of doing so much without you and then you will be sad that she doesn`t need you quite so much :) Horrible cycle isn`t it? Take it slow and only do as much as you are comfortable with. Don`t ever let anyone make you feel bad for doing what you think is best for your child so long as you aren`t causing any physical or severe emotional damage (all parents emotionally damage their children a little in the long run ;) haha j/k) Everyone has their own opinions and ideas of right and wrong but lucky for you, yours are the only ones that matter when it comes to your child!
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daydays mom (869.2 days ago)
girl my daughter did this horribly when she was younger. shes not 17 months going on 18 months n @ times i have to pay complete attention to my daughter. no madder what im trying to do. and still to this day things dont get done as much. Since my daughter has started walking shes not so bad, but it will always be something to do with not gettin anything done. good luck i hope it gets better for you cause i dont have a solution. and its ur not spoiling her dont let nobody say you are. the doctors say spoiling dont start until later on so dont let people tell you different.
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california-mom (869.2 days ago)
shine, ladobruk, summerisis, xoblondixo, holly...all those is what Id say too...
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13yearsapart (869.4 days ago)
Both my girls went through the separation anxiety, they just need to be reassured that your coming back. Make sure to prepare her before you get up and walk out of the room, and assure her that you`ll only be a little while. Little by little you be able to leave the room and not have her crying the whole time.
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t555rm (869.4 days ago)
U got some good advice here. My son was the same, he still prefers it if am with him all the time and he`s 11 months old. But I had to get things done of course. I started by sitting with him on the floor, with his favorite toys around him. We play together for 5 min and then I tell him that mommy`s going to run quick and will be back soon. I keep telling him that as am leaving him and continue it so that he can still hear me even whenam out of the room. He would be ok for 2 min and would then start crying. I`d appear for like 2 secs just to let him to know that mommy`s here and then he quiets down. I go back to what I was doing. Slowly he started getting the hang if it, that mom will be back soon and is going nowhere out if reach. There were tears and sobs but it worked out. When he started to crawl and walk it got a lot better. He could come to me. Now he pretty much leaves me alone but as long as he can see me. Am fine with that. But there are days when he doesn`t want to let me go for anything. But I do what I have to do as fast as I can and get back to him. He`ll cry but it`s okay. That`s how they`ll learn to be independant. I don`t agree with the sling after the baby`s past 6 months.
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♥ ☼shine (869.4 days ago)
No your baby is not spoiled. She just loves her Mama and wants her attention. I think using that term for a baby under 2 years is terrible. They should feel love and secure as much as they need. Some need it more than others. That does not make them spoiled. That makes them an individual.
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Holly28 (869.4 days ago)
She isn`t spoiled. She is going through separation anxiety which is completely normal for her age!
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xx-mommy2be-xx (869.5 days ago)
Lynzie has been crawling since she was 5 months old. she is very smart and is almost walking. there is NO way im carrying her in a sling thats crazy. I cant go pee, cook, clean, anything with out her following me and screaming until i pick her up or sit with her. i sit with her all the time so its not like i deprive her of attention. she has too much attention i think. and then when she dont get any she freaks out.
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TwinklinBrwnEyes (869.5 days ago)
Great advice from everyone. My baby just recently went through what yours is going through. I feel your pain. My mom would tell me to buy a sling and carry him so I can get things done...I refused, I feel like that`s just feeding into it...I wanted to break the cycle of him being held all the time. I do agree with AbbyQuiet, Little by little. This seemed to work for us. Sometimes you simply can not pick her up...you HAVE to get things done...eventually she will get the drift. I think these babies are ALOT smarter then we give them credit for. I know its really hard to hear them cry, but you just have to let her...like I said she will get it after awhile. GL.
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abbyquiet (869.5 days ago)
put her down little bits at a time. like tummy time, put her down and go do something, start with like 3 minutes, or 5 minutes (even if she cries). and keep doing it till you can walk away for the whole time period without her crying. and then move up the time, keep doing it till she`s happy with it. put a bunch of toys around her. ...oh wait, she`s older. does she crawl yet? idk the idea is still the same i think, you just do it for little bits at a time till she`s fine with it. that`s how it did it anyways. good luck! :)
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My5Babies:) (869.5 days ago)
Get a sling and carry her. I still carry my 14 month old in a sling...she loves it!! She will probably get less clingy once she starts walking and can do things on her own. Good luck.
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