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avaann (54.2 days ago)
wow.

bdoe [kaylees mommy!] (54.6 days ago)
I don`t think it`s a big deal. But to each their own.

leelers (54.6 days ago)
I would be upset and feel disrespected, let him know how it makes you feel and that you find this unacceptable. But look on the bright side, at least he was honest with you he could have hidden it but apparently he didn`t want to keep it from you. I`m sorry you`re sad, hopefully he will see that strip clubs have no room in your relationship. :)

love.nora (54.7 days ago)
I dont judge tbh. I may be his wife but ther eis nothing wrong with a guy hubby or not going out and having some guy time. It is not like he is going to the bar to get a piece of a$$. I do not mind if he looks at other woman because I know he will not touch them and at the end of the day he is coming home to me. If it became a routine then there would be hell to pay, but not for the reason you may think. The reaosn would be more for the fact that he is becoming addicted to something he doesnt need...same as going to the bar every weekend. Oh and PS if you can't trust him to go have good clean fun at a strip club and trust he won't do anyhting to jeopardise your relationship then you shouldnt be together in the first place. Try not to over react to the situation.

mrsjmickens1 (54.7 days ago)
im sure ur husband already knew your policy n stripclubs....i know mine does! strippers are prostitutes on poles. id be mad as hell n would say something to my father in law too.

mandaTS (54.7 days ago)
oh by the way for the rest of u ladies who thinks its ok for her hubby to run around, thats why he married u!!! dont be a fool! men are dogs!!! they arnt sensitive as us! and by allowin him that freedom sumhow means he can do what eva he wants!!! and thats when the sitiuation gets outta hand , he gets caught runin the streets like a stray dog!!! my hubby and i hav an understandin, we`r 50 /50!! we giv each other space so the leash is not too tight, other wise we do everythin togetha or not at all! he asked me why he couldnt go to the pub wth sum boys, i said cos its not fair i hav to be prego and babysit while he gets to run off , drink and enjoy himself!! when iv had the baby and im beta, then we can go togetha! finished! men dont understand what ur goin through unless u make then understand how u feel, so no pub for me means no pub for him!we stil go for bbq`s and he has his drinks with the boys! so its not like i said no to alcohol! besides my huby is a busy man, he hasnt taken me out shoppin for baby yet, if hes got time for pubs then he`s got time for baby! just remember ladies it takes 2 to tango , 2 to make a baby! why should he get all the fun while ur fallin apart to make babys? this is my 3rd baby, my husband wil be apart of it or ill find sumone else who does want to be part of our childrens lives! basically ur either in or ur out! i dont care, he must just make up his stupid mind already my huby knows! like i said he cant go to strip clubs cos i was one of them, he married one so whats the big deal now? al woman are the same til they get knocked up! oh now they not hot anymore, wake up call, helloooooo, i work my ass off after every baby to get my body back! i was a pole dance teacher and my huby didnt want me to do demo shows, with clothes on, so i said fine, but obvioulsy if i cant be in one he cant go to one! funny he`s so used to clubs he hates them, music too loud , ahahah like an old man, at least i dont hav to worry! u cant hav it all ladies, u should be that ladie dancin up there! and ur not , get sumthin sexy, take a chance and make him crawl on the floor for forgivness, show him he doesnt need to go to strip clubs when he can get a beta deal at home, hot chick dancin, let him take ur clothes off, and the best part is he gets to hav hot steamy sex with u afterwards, tel him u cant do that in a strip club , so enjoy!!! i find alcohol makes men horny!! iv seen it, so use it but beware!!!

mandaTS (54.7 days ago)
ID BE PISSED!!! DOG HOUSE FOR MY HUBBY!!! what are u guys on about` well at least he didnt sleep with any strippers?` she didnt even know bout their secret trip! anythin couldn hav gone down! yes he told her, cos was went on a guilt trip! but where i cum from u hav to choose a team! ur eitha a family man or ur the dog! u cant hav ur cake and eat it! ok? doesnt no one listen to their vows when they get married? he married the girl of his dreams and afte she gives`birth to his children he all of a sudden has the rite to go ooogggle ova sum hot strippers cos they stil hav their bodies! thats not cool, sorry no excuse in my books, id make him pay big time! marrige doesnt work like that! he should be at home make u feel special, im prego and i feel like crap with all my weight, if my huby ditched me i would be outta here, i dont let myself go for sum dog who doesnt appreciated what a womans body goes through, she cant help it, its a gift and this is how this woman rewarded? girlfriend dont listen to any crap that says its ok , its not, u shouldnt feel guilty, and i know ur not happy bout it other wise u wouldn hav put this poll up! i dont care if he went to oogle, cheat, or buy porno, that stuff in marrige is kept behind ur bedroom doors for only u and him! take my advise girl, cos outta everyone here, i know what im talkin bout , i know what goes on in strip clubs cos i worked in them for a few yrs! no one can be trusted!!!! and ur hubbys father is a complete d*ck head!!! like father like son, ur hubbys old enough to say no , what is he 5? pls good luck , talk to me if u want!

california-mom (54.7 days ago)
Your husbands a grown man...his fathers a grown man. Its not like the father took his 14 year old son to a strip club. Your husband is a grown up and couldve said no if he wanted to. Hes more than capable of not going. You shouldnt have to tell his dad not to take him places, like hes a child. Who doesnt want to loook at hot naked chicks?! =P Kidding aside, even though I dont mind strip clubs, I know theres a lot of sensitivity about it. He told you though and was honest and didnt cheat on you.

Epopea (54.8 days ago)
I think I would be really upset by this situation. You know what would bother me the most. Not the fact that he was `forced` into going, but that it took him a week to tell you about it. I am sure he might have punished himself in his mind several times about it over the course of the week. I think I would let him know he disappointed you and leave it at that. The worst punishment is when someone doesn`t punish you, but you know you let them down. I`m sorry about your situation. HUGS!

adkinsrus07 (54.8 days ago)
I totally understand and would feel the same way. Unfortuatly it is just one of those catch 22 situation;s ya know? He did not want to disrespect his father and if he doesnt normally act like this dont sweat it beautiful! But- I am more dissapointed in the father for being disrespectful to you! How rude!!!

kohlsmommy (54.8 days ago)
i don`t think it`s really something you can do anything about now that it`s already happened. at least you know he didn`t sleep with any of the strippers. i don`t think i would freak out if it was a one time thing... but it sucks if you`re not ok with it.. he shoulda listened

ladobruk (54.8 days ago)
I think you made your feelings about it clear so you should let it go and not dwell on it. Are you normally bothered by strip clubs or is it more of a not feeling great about yourself and prefer DH not be looking at other women at the moment? You are gorgeous. You will soon feel beautiful again. Sometimes it takes a little time after having a baby.

angie2008 (54.9 days ago)
I understand why you be upset/angry but the sadness makes me wonder if there is mroe to the situation. How are you feeling about your body after just recently having a baby? Are you feeling insecure with your weight or looks so him seeing other girls is more upsetting than normal. Don`t get me wrong, i am not siding with him at all, i would be pissed if my dh did that to me. If there is more to it, maybe talk to him about it so he understands more where you are coming from.

♥ ☼shine (54.9 days ago)
Personally I wouldn’t care. I know some women get real uptight about strip clubs; I just don’t see the big deal. I know he is coming home to me. I would let it go. There is nothing you can do about it now so there is no reason to continue to be upset about it. He now knows for the future that you don’t appreciate it.

-avasmama- (54.9 days ago)
ugh, I would totally feel the same way. I would be very sad/upset. Sorry this happened to you...I would be mad because although he said he didn`t want to go ultimately he still did. I`m sure he wasn`t forced.

roomfor1more (54.9 days ago)
Not that I am in agreement with what happened, but maybe your FIL used your hubby as an excuse to go? It was wrong for him to take to a place like that. It is hurtful, but I wouldn`t trip too much. Now if it happens again, then rip off his head and FIL`s too!

summerisis (55 days ago)
Regardless of whether or not it`s trashy -- they both showed a lack of respect towards you. I would be upset too. :( Personally, I`d be more upset with FIL because it is difficult for children to stand up against their parents (whether it should be or not.)

nutnut (55 days ago)
meh, i wouldnt let it get to you too much. i dont know why his father would take him there for his birthday, that just seems really weird to me. (like my mother and i going to a male review or something LOL. too akward imo). its not like he went out and cheated on you. i wouldnt make too big a deal over it really. i would just let him know im not happy with the idea of him going to these places, but he`s grown and can make his own decisions. i dont know if youre open with the FIL but i might say, look I dont want you taking him there, we have a family and its not something we approve of in our home. not everyone is open about sexuality and the FIL is imposing it on his son and on your family. Really hubby needs to make it clear its not going to happen again. but in all honesty, its just a strip club. i dont care if my SO wants to go to them (SO doesnt though) its just we have better things to spend money on right now and that isnt one of them. im sorry youre so upset over this. im sure hubby will see its upset you and hopefully he wont allow himself to be peer pressured into doing what he doesnt want by his family.

rowanskysmom (55 days ago)
It would make me feel bad too if that happend to me. I`m sorry:(

cutelilmama (55 days ago)
I totally agree... I said that is COMPLETELY trashy .....

take2 (55 days ago)
That`s just wrong. What kind of father takes his son to a strip joint? Totally tasteless. And, yes, disrespectful of you.



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