My husband just told me that his father took him to a strip club for his b-day a week ago...He said he didnt want to go, and that he told them that... but I still feel very disrespected... And I don`t think it`s right... I am extremely bothered by it...Plus I just had our 2nd child 3 months ago... I don`t think it was right for his dad to take him there... Am I over reacting? Now my husband this im CRAZZZZY because it kind of made me sad... (Other poll by cutelilmama, 870 days ago)
Bvartanian88 (869.3 days ago) I don`t think it`s a big deal. But to each their own.
leelers (869.4 days ago) I would be upset and feel disrespected, let him know how it makes you feel and that you find this unacceptable. But look on the bright side, at least he was honest with you he could have hidden it but apparently he didn`t want to keep it from you. I`m sorry you`re sad, hopefully he will see that strip clubs have no room in your relationship. :)
love.nora (869.4 days ago) I dont judge tbh. I may be his wife but ther eis nothing wrong with a guy hubby or not going out and having some guy time. It is not like he is going to the bar to get a piece of a$$. I do not mind if he looks at other woman because I know he will not touch them and at the end of the day he is coming home to me. If it became a routine then there would be hell to pay, but not for the reason you may think. The reaosn would be more for the fact that he is becoming addicted to something he doesnt need...same as going to the bar every weekend. Oh and PS if you can't trust him to go have good clean fun at a strip club and trust he won't do anyhting to jeopardise your relationship then you shouldnt be together in the first place. Try not to over react to the situation.
mrsjmickens1 (869.4 days ago) im sure ur husband already knew your policy n stripclubs....i know mine does! strippers are prostitutes on poles. id be mad as hell n would say something to my father in law too.
california-mom (869.5 days ago) Your husbands a grown man...his fathers a grown man. Its not like the father took his 14 year old son to a strip club. Your husband is a grown up and couldve said no if he wanted to. Hes more than capable of not going. You shouldnt have to tell his dad not to take him places, like hes a child. Who doesnt want to loook at hot naked chicks?! =P Kidding aside, even though I dont mind strip clubs, I know theres a lot of sensitivity about it. He told you though and was honest and didnt cheat on you.
Epopea(blue) (869.5 days ago) I think I would be really upset by this situation. You know what would bother me the most. Not the fact that he was `forced` into going, but that it took him a week to tell you about it. I am sure he might have punished himself in his mind several times about it over the course of the week. I think I would let him know he disappointed you and leave it at that. The worst punishment is when someone doesn`t punish you, but you know you let them down. I`m sorry about your situation. HUGS!
adkinsrus07 (869.5 days ago) I totally understand and would feel the same way. Unfortuatly it is just one of those catch 22 situation;s ya know? He did not want to disrespect his father and if he doesnt normally act like this dont sweat it beautiful! But- I am more dissapointed in the father for being disrespectful to you! How rude!!!
kohlsmommy (869.5 days ago) i don`t think it`s really something you can do anything about now that it`s already happened. at least you know he didn`t sleep with any of the strippers. i don`t think i would freak out if it was a one time thing... but it sucks if you`re not ok with it.. he shoulda listened
angie2008 (869.6 days ago) I understand why you be upset/angry but the sadness makes me wonder if there is mroe to the situation. How are you feeling about your body after just recently having a baby? Are you feeling insecure with your weight or looks so him seeing other girls is more upsetting than normal. Don`t get me wrong, i am not siding with him at all, i would be pissed if my dh did that to me. If there is more to it, maybe talk to him about it so he understands more where you are coming from.
♥ ☼shine (869.6 days ago) Personally I wouldn’t care. I know some women get real uptight about strip clubs; I just don’t see the big deal. I know he is coming home to me.
I would let it go. There is nothing you can do about it now so there is no reason to continue to be upset about it. He now knows for the future that you don’t appreciate it.
.punky. (869.7 days ago) ugh, I would totally feel the same way. I would be very sad/upset. Sorry this happened to you...I would be mad because although he said he didn`t want to go ultimately he still did. I`m sure he wasn`t forced.
Str8 As (869.7 days ago) Not that I am in agreement with what happened, but maybe your FIL used your hubby as an excuse to go? It was wrong for him to take to a place like that. It is hurtful, but I wouldn`t trip too much. Now if it happens again, then rip off his head and FIL`s too!
nutnut (869.7 days ago) meh, i wouldnt let it get to you too much. i dont know why his father would take him there for his birthday, that just seems really weird to me. (like my mother and i going to a male review or something LOL. too akward imo). its not like he went out and cheated on you. i wouldnt make too big a deal over it really. i would just let him know im not happy with the idea of him going to these places, but he`s grown and can make his own decisions. i dont know if youre open with the FIL but i might say, look I dont want you taking him there, we have a family and its not something we approve of in our home. not everyone is open about sexuality and the FIL is imposing it on his son and on your family. Really hubby needs to make it clear its not going to happen again. but in all honesty, its just a strip club. i dont care if my SO wants to go to them (SO doesnt though) its just we have better things to spend money on right now and that isnt one of them. im sorry youre so upset over this. im sure hubby will see its upset you and hopefully he wont allow himself to be peer pressured into doing what he doesnt want by his family.
rowanskysmom (869.7 days ago) It would make me feel bad too if that happend to me. I`m sorry:(
cutelilmama (869.7 days ago) I totally agree... I said that is COMPLETELY trashy .....