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nutnut (18.8 days ago)
i wish i had that problem but everyone lives all over the us. typically we drive the 2 hours to my mother`s house where it will be only 8 of us. i miss the good old day with kids running around big family dinners lots of laughing and story telling. its been a rough few years for our family so many passing away unexpectedly. be greatful for the time you have. even if its a bit of an imposition now, once its gone, you may regret. i would say do whatever you can. the family needs to understand that you cant be in three places at one time, and its not that you dont want to be there to see everyone, but its just not feasable. maybe you could just stop by for cake and coffee to one place later on in the evening or agree to get together another day after christmas for them to see the baby or what have you. im sure theres always some sort of mid point or compromise. my family would never hold it against me if i couldnt get up for christmas dinner one year bc of having a newborn. they would come to me if that were the case, and i would fix supper at my house for everyone to come. over the years family dinner has been at different houses due to illness, etc. but its always been the same family regardless of where it was held and everyone chips in to help with the meal. like i said i really miss the large family gatherings, but due to deaths in the family and others moving away its been very hard to keep us all together. good luck in whatever you decide to do.

bellajenna (18.9 days ago)
I would/do make sure everyone knows that i have my own family and will be spending the day at home. they want to see us they can come here.

summerisis (18.9 days ago)
I think it depends on what the activities are and how many there are. We do a lot of things with the family and I handle it by telling my husband what I am willing and not willing to do. But overall, I do my best to make everyone happy because I feel awful if i don`t. If it were me, I`d tell my husband what I think I could handle. Like, I`m not going out to breakfast, lunch, and dinner on any particular night. I can handle one dining experience a day. And I`m not staying out after X p.m. Or, I can handle one social even a day. I`m not going to this house and then that house and then some other house on any given day. AND, I`ve been known to `slip-out` and hide in a bedroom to take a nap during an event -- everyone seems to be understanding. IMHO, they want to see the baby and not me anyway...

juels101 (18.9 days ago)
Might sound selfish, but we make our Christmas around us. I`d like our kids to have specific Christmas memories, know how it`s going to happen. Even if we were to go to the inlaws, or my parents place there are traditions we carry along so it`s the same. We read the Christmas story before we open gifts, only open the gifts on Christmas etc. We always invite people to come to our place, but since having kids, it has to stay around them.

heathert (18.9 days ago)
I only wish I had that problem. It is usually just us with my parents. I would love to be with my sister and her kids or his family. I love when we used to have big Holidays and kids running around especially a sweet little baby. We all live in different states. It can be frustrating I know but try to plan it out to work for you and enjoy it.

roomfor1more (18.9 days ago)
The first two years of marriage, my husband and I would be with his family for the first half of the day and mine the second half (or vice versa) for both Thanksgiving and Christmas. I was tired of doing that so, year three we stayed home and had Thanksgiving at our house...well that was a big mess! So from there on we stay home for both. I didn`t care who got mad! I still don`t. I really don`t care now we will have 4 children this year!! If you don`t feel like all of the hussle and bussle, then don`t go and don`t feel guilty.

amber325 (18.9 days ago)
We always go to my Grandmas house first @ 1pm on XMAS eve and then His family`s house around 5-9ish and then XMAS day we do at our house. I never found it hard with the baby..olivia was 3 months old last Xmas :) I wanted to share her with everyone :)



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