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california-mom (832.5 days ago)
I have some friends who I love and adore dearly that pretty much let their kids do whatever they want. I remind my kids (even if were at their house) that they must still follow our rules (no running around the house/screaming/back talking/jumping on furniture etc).
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linzigenavieve (832.8 days ago)
I feel for you mumbo. Growing up I never had cousins and I always wanted my kids to have a close relationship with thiers. I have a hard time with family though. With my husbands side thier kids swear (the oldest is 3) and I`m NOT okay with that, so it`s hard to be around them and when we are it`s a lot of talking to my children about naughty words. For my family, my brother lets his little girl do whatever she wants. When we`re out I don`t say anything and just explain to my children when they try to follow suit that thats not exceptable behavior. When he comes to my house though, I dont let her act that way. I agree with nutnut. It`s our house after all and our things and they need to respect that. I hope that things will change as they get older and they can have closer relationships.
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LKLmama (832.9 days ago)
I have a hard time with my family and a few friends who are child centered/hovering parents. More family than friends since most of my friends have a similar parenting style to my own.
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megandgrace (832.9 days ago)
I have a friend is very cautious about her daughter compared to mine. Her daughter is held constantly even at the age of 2, she is very timid, and wines a lot for what she wants! My daughter is very out going and likes to run around instead of just sit there like a lump on a log and she talks to me and asks me when she wants something. I let my daughter experience and learn things instead of holding her all day long.
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hollysnum2 (833 days ago)
I sorta had this happen with my sister. Her DD is exactly a year and 2 weeks older than my DD and her son is 2 months younger than my DD. When we go back home to visit, she insists that we stay at her house. But she allows her kids to do things that I dont allow Hannah to do. I.E. running in the house, eating candy before dinner, letting them eat whatever they want for dinner(pop tarts, french fries, whatever) and them not having a set bedtime. But I still make Hannah listen to my rules. Although I do feel bad when I have to tell her ` no you cant have that snickers bar before dinner!` but my sister is letting her kids do it.
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nutnut (833 days ago)
also, i try to teach all for one one for all. most of the time, if one child isnt allowed to do something, i will ask the others how they would feel if they were the only one not allowed. typically the other children will then not continue doing somethign the other isnt allowed to do, and play all together something they can all do. granted it doesnt work all the time, but most of the time it does. i havent seen any resentment towards each other i those times at all. its not a very frequent occurance. and there are always other things you as parents can do with children to distract them from one thing onto another that is safe and that all can participate in.
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nutnut (833 days ago)
i never had any issues at an early age. the trouble began more for me, when my daughter got older and other kids were allowed to play in the street for example, when i didnt allow her in the street. those sort of things. or with eating habbits, i allowed my daughter to have things other children were not allowed to have. so i try to keep the common rules the same and when there is a mix of children under my supervision i respect their parents rules (ie no sweets or treats) and they respect mine (no playing in the street)i tell my daughter she needs to remember her personal rules as well as the rules in other peoples homes as they may be different. i also explain that to the neighbors children. but for the most part, we havent had any major issues other than i refuse to allow my daughter to play in the street i feel there is no real need to when we have a yard and a park nearby. safety first is what i try to teach. i think if you just keep lines of communication with other parents and are very clear and precise on your rules, and you inquire about thier rules as well, you should be fine. i have been lucky enough not to come into contact with overly extreme parents. if anything i have come into contact with those who dont actively parent their children and let them run amuck. i still treat those children who have no rules like i do my own child when they are in my care. i have rules at my house, if you cant follow them, you cant play here. its for safety.
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raycheldavey (833.2 days ago)
It`s hard to keep things to yourself sometimes. If its really reckless, I kind of mention it and try to say what I would do. But in reality everyone does things differently.
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EandTsmum (833.2 days ago)
My husbands sister wraps her kids in cottonwool but her kids are a lot older than ours so it won`t really affect the relationship between cousins. Her kids are 10 and 12. My husband is keen to get our boys in to some sort of martial arts as soon as they are old enough (they are 16 months). He mentioned this to his brother in law and he said I wanted my son to do that but your sister wouldn`t let him (the boy is 10). They also don`t allow water guns or anything similar in the house. He was playing footy but that didn`t last long either. I must admit my husband and I can be protective about some things but they just seem extreme to me. One recent example is they wouldn`t let their 10 year old watch stars wars.
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