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california-mom (18.3 days ago)
Definitely Id give a kidney up

nmck (18.3 days ago)
That is a tough situation. I would never be able to live with myself for not helping that child. I would give the kidney. But like Cheeky, I would insist on contact with my biological child. He would not have to know me as a parent, just as a friend of the family, or something like that. Even knowing me as his organ donor would be OK, but I would want a relationship.

ladykilla421 (18.4 days ago)
I have no clue if I would give a kidney to a child I didint know or would ever even be able to have contact with. It may sound terrible but probably not, my father has kidney problems and I have told him numerous times he can have one of mine if he needs it. If I gave it to the child, where would that leave my dad?!? Mayb Im a bad person for preferring to save my father as opposed to a child Ive never know or will never be able to know, regardless if its my child! :S

ibaheir2dathrone (18.5 days ago)
He should be able to contact his child if he wishes to. If he didn`t know about him than his parental rights were taken away unfairly.

mikeysmommyof2 (18.5 days ago)
cheekybee---i totally agree with you that the parents are being sh** heads! but its not the little boys fault that the dad never knew about him, nor is it his fault he is sick or that his `parents` are acting this way when obviously if they loved him enough to ask for the fathers help, they should love him enough to allow the father to be apart of his life. I totally understand saving the kidney for the children actually in your life, but what if they never need it and this little boy dies. would that be regret you would carry on the rest of your life? See its just so hard to say what to do. i so agree with cheekby, but i also cant help but imagine this poor dying little boy and how none of this is his fault.

jessberr31 (18.5 days ago)
I think the adopted parents should consider how resilient kids are, I mean, do they plan to never tell him he is adopted? If its a life or death situation why wouldn`t they just do it now? And thats not fair to the bio father if he wants to see his son, I mean, he never signed his rights over if he never knew about the child. Maybe he would have wanted to take the child on his own since the mom didn`t want the baby, but he never even had the opportunity to make that decision! I think the adopted parents better hope he doesn`t decide to fight for rights to his child. I don`t know the laws about situations like this, but if I were him I would be pissed. I couldn`t say what I would do about the kidney though. Maybe I would do it and fight for him at the same time? Regardless of the kidney if I knew I had a son that was adopted without my knowing I would fight like hell for my son. I feel sorry for the boy though! Poor baby!

ladobruk (18.5 days ago)
It has nothing to do with the parents, it has to do with a dying child. This child will be an adult one day and may choose to look him up on his own. Whether he can see the child or not should not be a factor in his decision in my opinion. What a crappy situation. Poor lil guy.

RobinG (18.5 days ago)
I would say yes but I would insist on meeting my son. I would agree to not tell the boy who I am and be more of `a new family friend` who has come around to help (later when the child is old enough to understand adoption he would be told who I am) I agree 5 is to young to confuse him but I would insist on seeing him. If they want to save the life of their adopted son they sure as heck best negotiate with me since I am not the one who choose to put him up for adoption anyhow. If they said no then they didnt want to save his life bad enough IMO ~

mikeysmommyof2 (18.5 days ago)
oh man this is heart wrenching. I think its one thing to have an opinion and say `yes i would do this` or `no way` when your not actually in this situation, but its another to actually HAVE to make this type of decision. Honestly, my first instict is yes! i would definately save this childs life. knowing it was a product of me, even though i cant share or be apart of his life, i would never want it to end just because i cant have contact with him. I think i would ask the adoptive parents to at least send pictures every so often and small updates about hoe he is doing, just so that i could feel somewhat connected even though he knows nothing of me. But again....thats my saying that and not being in that situation....to actually HAVE to make that decsion...my answer could be very different. I cant imagine have to go through something like this.

brooklyn143 (18.5 days ago)
A man found out he had a 5 year old son...he had relations w/a women and she became pregnant and never told him and then gave the child up for adoption...the adopted parents then found the father (and he never knew) because the 5 year old needs a kidney and have had a hard time finding a match, the father was told by the parents that they want his kidney or the little boy will die but he could never had contact w/his son! because it would be to confusing for the child and he only knows his adopted parents to be his mom and dad...the father now has a family and kids of his own he wants to have contact but has no prental rights....some ppl are saying what happens if the kids he already has in his home in his family needs a kidney late on in life, but now he couldnt help them...would you give your kidney to a child you never knew about and could never had contact w/?... also surgery is always risky he could potentially not make it thru and then leave his family and children behind...



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