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rosye13 (14.9 days ago)
I agree that this is such a personal choice. But . . . I guess my opinion is that if you`re only going to have one more you should have them right away so they`re close in age with your other two. But if you`re going to have two more than you could wait because they won`t always feel left out like they would if they were the only one. But again, that`s just me and this is something that I really think has to be all your decision. Well, your`s and hubby`s.

linzigenavieve (17.4 days ago)
This really is a personal choice. I would choose closer because of family outings and such. My parents had thier last one seven years after the `last` one and we loved it, but family outings were a bit tough. We had 4 of us wanting to do older funner things and a little one that would scream and cry cause it wasn`t fun for her. Too, she went from having loads of people everywhere to being an only child. She hasn`t enjoyed that at all.

mommykate (17.5 days ago)
my sister and I are 16 months apart, followed nine years later by my brother, and then when I was 18 my parents adopted baby twins (boy/girl). Mom always said she enjoyed my brother Dan`s babyhood the most because we girls could help and entertain him, and there was only one baby to focus on. However, she said she has always felt bad that he seemed lonlier than any of her other children being in the middle of such a gap. no advice for you, just food for thought! :) GL!

nuggetlovin (17.5 days ago)
I would say if you want more children do it before they start school. You don`t want to `start all over`. If you are worried about finances then it may never happen. You can always find reasons to wait.... in the end everything works out the way it is supposed to. Children are blessings from God and he always makes a way!

nutnut (17.5 days ago)
you should do what is best for your family. i waited a long time to have another child. my daughter is 7 so they will be exactly 7 1/2 years apart. it was what was best for me, as my daughter demanded alot of my time, we werent in a good place financially at one point, and well life just happened. i never felt the need to rush into having another child right away. i wanted to take my time and just enjoy her. now shes older, and i really dont mind `starting all over again`. to me its just seems easier, and more logical for our family. but everyone is different. you just have to follow your own beat and do whats good for you and yours regardless of what anyone else says.

6willbefun (17.6 days ago)
I think u should do what works best for u and ur family. I personaly enjoy having my kids closer but it is tireing and not for everyone. ur still young so no rush. do what feels right to u.

RobinG (17.6 days ago)
I am 42 and my kids are 14, 9 and 2 and there is no way I`d have it any other way!! Just cause your aunt feels that way doesnt mean it is the BEST way. Your thoughts are much better IMO ~

hunnybunnysmama (17.6 days ago)
I think if I had twins I would try to wait until they were older. Once they can get themselves dressed, go to the potty, keep themselves busy at times, etc. I can`t imagine dressing, feeding, changing, etc. 3 kids under 3...eeks!

Lou-Li (17.6 days ago)
Yep and I notice straight away because I`m Irish and my Dad is from Somerset! It was really the `pushchair` that gave it away though, 3rd! We say `buggy` or `pram`, UK people say `pushchair`, US people say `stroller`!...

ladobruk (17.6 days ago)
I think I said this before but for me personally, with twins I would want to wait until they were 4/5. My brothers and I are 5 years apart. It isn`t too long.

Lou-Li (17.6 days ago)
PS 3rd, I can tell you`re from UK aren`t you?! By the way you write and the way your phrase things I am guessing UK ? Am I right?

Lou-Li (17.6 days ago)
Thanks all for your comments! you`re all very helpful and it is all food for thought. I think I am just getting so broody now -- isn`t it funny what nature does to you?!? Also, I did not get to breastfeed my twins for as long as I had intended and the pain and regret of that stays with me as strong as ever. I want to have another and breastfeed as long as I want and he/she wants... maybe that`s a selfish notion, but I do want another child, for the twins to have a little brother or sister! And Mumbo yep it`s hard with twins but I wouldn`t have it any other way; a lot of the time they are a lot of entertainment for each other, and company too! But they do fight a LOT! I spend most of my time tearing my son off my daughter, he is so rough-and-tumble, typical boy!

mumbo (17.6 days ago)
Only you can make that decision but as a mum to one boy, I really take my hat off to you having twins! I don`t know how you or anyone with multiples does it! I think given you already have twins, and they are already at a point where they`re getting their independence, of all people, you would be prepared to handle looking after another little one. Even if you got pregnant now, your twins would be over 2 so I don`t think that`s too close together... And as for finances, well is there ever a perfect time for a baby??

NeverPreggers (17.6 days ago)
I was thinking about the same things and posted a similar poll. One lady`s comment seemed right for me: she said that it is hard to have them all close together but she would rather get the diapering stage over with sooner rather than draw it out by having the kids farther apart. I am going to start talking to my husband about trying for the next one because I want to get the diapers over with as soon as possible.

Mommy2Chloe (17.6 days ago)
I personally would say to wait until you are financially better. I would LOVE to have another baby right now but financially, we`re not ready. We both work and we don`t have any form of assistance. If you don`t think you`re financailly ready, then wait. That is the ONLY thing keeping us from deciding to have another and it makes me sad but I know it`s the best... Oh, and my inlaws are already `begging` us for another baby...



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