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california-mom (827.8 days ago)
...And if he DOES join the military...he should pick the Marines, of course ;) *todays the USMCs 234th birthday*

california-mom (827.8 days ago)
My husband has been out of the Marines about 4 years. Though he loved it, now that we have 3 kids and plan on having more, hed never reenlist. Its definitely a lifestyle thats different and will take some getting used to.

MaddoxAndAverysMama (827.8 days ago)
My husband swore in when I was 38weeks pregnant, went to BCT and AIT when the baby was 5weeks and came home when he was 5mo old... that baby is almost 11 mo old and I am 30 weeks pregnant... We moved 250mi when I was 12w and our son was 7mo old.. I love it but its hard, everyone else got this 4 day off and I`m at home 30weeks pregnant with a sick baby and he`s working 12 hour days, BUT we also have insurance, a wonderful home, all our bills are paid with money left over, independence from our families.. all career and life choices have ups and downs, pros and cons.. yes we spend significant amounts of time apart but we gain friendships and bonds with people that you will NEVER find in any other life style, you are taught your strengths and weaknesses very quickly and you learn how to maximize the best and minimize the worst if you`re willing to learn... nothing in life is easy or free.. the military isn`t for every family, some people are not meant to be soldiers and some people are not meant to be soldier`s spouses... I have been a brat, a soldier and now I`m a spouse... you just need to look inside yourself and see if it is something you could handle... honestly we were more miserable in our lifestyle before, with my husband working construction from 7am-3pm 5 days a week... the military lifestyle fits my husband almost perfectly, the structure is wonderful although flawed but what isn`t..

MiniOface (827.9 days ago)
My hubby and I both joined right out of high school to get away. We waited to have kids until we were both out because military life is a great experience but the crazy scheduling can be hard. Just be aware that no matter what they say the ARMY comes 1st and family is 2nd, so if you are not ready for that change talk to your hubby. Good luck!

brendalee (827.9 days ago)
To get away from his psycho parents. If you have a family I would def. recommend it. The benifits are awesome, most wives are SAHMs because they can afford to be. I kind of agree work yorkc39...they do change because they are thousands of miles away from home, and their friends, and they work HARD all day long...but they`re only like that temporarally. My husband can be a monster sometimes here if he`s had a rough day at work, but as soon as we`re back home in WI he`s the same person as he was before. I guess you have to understand the sh*t they have to go through to get why they act the way they act sometimes.

mtnwoman(shelly) (827.9 days ago)
My husband was in the Navy and has thought more than once about re-enlisting. Its the thought of being deployed and missing out on his family that stops him every time. He joined after graduating H.S. and LOVED it. He had so much fun on the ship and made some GREAT friends. But he also knows what the military can do to families. More so than not, marriages do not last and spouses end up cheating on eachother. Now, that doesn`t happen ALL the time. I know a few happily married, faithful, active and prior military, families that are still together and going strong. As other ladies have said, its very trying and takes alot of sacrifice and your heart has to be fully in it. I have the UTMOST respect for every one of our military men and women that make those sacrafices.

luvbeingamom (827.9 days ago)
My ex husband joined the army reserves at 18, the navy at 26. He remained in the navy until he was 40. He got out b/c we had an 8 month old at home and he didn`t want to deploy and leave our son. He was unable to retire b/c of this, but he didn`t care. He would rather have been with our family (or so he said, we are now divorcing partly b/c he would always do other things like football games vs being with us). It is a hard lifestyle for EVERYONE. not just him leaving. It is a family choice. It has great financial/medical benefits, but you do pay a price for it all. It was a good/great situation for us when we were first married, it was hard being apart for his deployments but we got to see great places, live new places and have new adventures. After having children though, it seemed to much for all of us.

yorkc39 (827.9 days ago)
be glad he hasn`t joined. my husband changed 180 after joining and getting out, he`s a completely different person now, and bc of his change he made dumb choices leading to the end of our marriage. Sorry to be a downer, but the military isn`t all that it`s cracked up to be.

hollysnum2 (827.9 days ago)
My husband and I both are in the Air Force. I know it is not the Army, but we both work as aircraft mechanics so we both deploy alot. He actually will be deploying to Irag a few weeks after we have this baby. We both joined before having kids, and it does get difficult having to leave your babies no matter how long you are gone for. But it is also a very rewarding job. My DD is 2 and has seen more of this world than I had by the time I was 18! But it isnt for everyone...

armymom (827.9 days ago)
My husband has been in for 9 years. We`ve been together for 4 so he was already in when we met obviously but he was on recruiting duty so life was stable the first couple years we were together. I ended up joining after we got married and stayed in for 2 years.. got out on my pregnancy. He`s been on 3 combat deployments and preparing for his 4th this next year in August. He`s infantry so that`s his job.. he deploys alot. He`s actually getting out on his ETS date August 2011 which is when he`ll be returning home from this next deployment and he plans to move us back home (houston, tx) and join the reserves and request to go AGR for special forces(active reserve basically) and finish out his time that way because he`s really determined to do his 20 years and retire but it`s alot of stress moving every couple years and deploying every other year so hopefully this AGR thing will be better for us. I`m even considering going back in after we`re done having kids.. reserves or something. I miss it. Military life definitely has it`s ups and downs but overall we`re really comfortable with it and I`m going to be a little sad when he gets out.



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