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Tara83 (826.9 days ago)
My daughter is 21 months old and I have never been in your shoes so I can`t speak from personal experience but I did want to comment on the poll. I understand that having an upset baby who refuses to sleep can potentially become frustrating and I respect that you reached out by making a poll to get some honest and helpful advice. That being said I know that everyone has their own method for bedtime routines and has their own belief system in what is best for their baby. I think even though we all have different ways of parenting at the end of the day we all do what we think is best for the needs/safety of our children. I personally could not allow my daughter to continue to cry and work herself up until she physically became ill. Maybe it is her way of trying to get your attention but then why not step outside the situation and try to understand maybe what it is she needs to feel more relaxed at bedtime, why it is that she gets so upset at the idea of going to bed. I think if you change your routine you will find a way to make bedtime a much more enjoyable experience. I agree with the Mom`s who have suggested reading to her, cuddling a little before bed so that she will be sleepy and comfortable when you leave the room. If her naps are later in the day again try to make them earlier, maybe include some activities during the day that you know will burn off some energy and make sure she is having full meals. A night light, stuffed toy, music, watching a movie etc are all great ideas. I also believe that you should avoid giving her any form of medication to assist her in sleeping... if you believe that maybe she is upset, uncomfortable to sleep etc because of teething then maybe try some Ora Gel.I really hope you find the help you need so that you and your daughter can get past the upsetting bedtime routine.

ibaheir2dathrone (827 days ago)
Ask your Dr. drugging her is NOT the answer.

nutnut (827.2 days ago)
idk. i think its pretty horrible to just walk away and let you kid vomit and not do anything about it, as some have suggested. id be too afraid they would be seriously hurt, what if they swallowed it and god i dont even want to think about that. do you have a little night light in there for your lo? they do start to get afraid of the dark sometimes. i co-slept with my daughter, so i didnt have half this trouble. but she still went down to bed without me every night. (by co slept i mean her crib was in my room til she was 2 when i moved her to her toddler bed in her room). i used to put the tv on for her in her room and it helped her fall asleep. it wasnt cable but i had a dvd player in there so i would put on some movies for her like finding nemo, or whatever. i also read to her. it was part of the routine. bedtime snack, go potty, wash up, brush teeth, get a story book, read, and then sleep. she didnt have bottles since i took that from her by a year. she never had a pacifier either. she got to pick two stuffed toys to take to bed with her every night. she did fine. i really didnt have trouble until i had to move in with a friend while awaiting my home to be built (we had some delays that werent expected). so for about 4 months we had to share a room and bed bc no room for her bed and mine in the room. she was older and now she doesnt like sleeping in her room, but thats a different thing all together as she is 7 now. try building a routine, and warning your little one `ok, bedtime in 15 minutes` while they dont know 15 minutes just getting prepared could help. establish a routine. i dont see the harm in staying in the room with her at first til she falls asleep, although im sure ppl would disagree with me. these are just my suggestions. a little crying wont hurt her, but if shes making herself sick over it, i cant encourage walking away and just leaving her that way. i just cant. she`s not even 2 yet. everyone has their own ways to handle things, you just have to try and try until something works for you and your little one. hopefully someone has given you the advice you need that will work for you. having a little one get so upset is so nerve wracking. especially when you feel theres nothing you can do. good luck. it will get better. she`s still little. =)

thinkpink (827.2 days ago)
btw...putting her in your bed is a serious mistake in my opinion. My cousin did this with her kids and they were in her bed FOREVER! I`m talking at least 5 years. She needs to learn to sleep on her own and in her own bed and she will.

thinkpink (827.2 days ago)
Put her in her crib with nothing else at the same time and close the door. Let her cry it out (turn up the tv, go downstairs) and she will give up on that and realize that puke or no puke, you mean business. Schedule is really important with babies. The same time everyday for naps and bedtime and she should be a breeze. The first few days will be hard though, a battle, so stay determined and don`t go in!

Holly28 (827.4 days ago)
I am sorry but I do not agree with these other moms. To me it sounds behavioral. It sounds like she has figured out that this works and when she does it she gets to stay up later. I do agree that perhaps cutting back in nap time and moving up her bedtime may help but in the long run I still feel that it is behavioral. A few of my friends kids are around this age and they too have figured out that when they make themselves throw up they can get what they want from Mommy.

california-mom (827.4 days ago)
I would be more saddened that theyre throwing up from crying so hard...and worried about why, rather than pissed off. You shouldnt have to drug your child to get them to sleep instead of figuring out whats not working and what can be changed...this is part of motherhood.

shivon (827.4 days ago)
yes it happens by me sometimes aswell,i do give my son a bottle b4 he goes to bed,i get nervous when he starts to cough.2 weeks ago he threw up every night but i think he had a cold and virus ,could be fro that.the couging is always morning or night.in morning he coughs aswell-i think its mucus in his throat from night,i try giving him bottle not straight away,now if he ever coughs so hard at night and i think he may throw up then i take him out for a bit and make him forget about it.my younger boy is so afraid when he coughs and starts crying,he has seen him throw up and probably thought what the hell is going on.

Ulandi (827.5 days ago)
My little one is 22 months, she often cries when she must go to bed, also vommits. I put her in my bed till she falls asleep, then I take her to her bed. Much easier than to clean linnen every night! Make sure she does not sleep after 2pm, and then take her to bed just after 8pm. This works for me



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