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jadestar (818.4 days ago)
Lol, so hopefully your kid never knocks out another child with a baseball bat and u are being sued with hundreds of dollars in medical fees, cause THAT you won't be able to ignore, because i don't think those parents will think it's cute that you ignore your child's bad behavior cus u reckoned he wants your attention. Anyway, listen to what happened to me yesterday, funny enough, right after i replied to this post (but it dissapeared cuz my internet connection died) anyway, so my neighbor`s 5 yr old son threw my daughter with a yellow rubber duck smack on her head while she was dozing off to sleep on my lap. Ladies (breathing, breathing), i felt a pain in my chest when my daughter`s eyes opened in shocked and she looked at me, confused and frightened, probably thinking it was me who hurted her! Ladies (and i`m not calling him brat or idot because he has never been mean to my daughter before), let me tell you his mother`s reaction: She grabbed him by his arm and marched off to his room with him. I followed her, not too far behind, she didn`t know i was standing at the door. She told him, `What you just did was very, very naughty, i can`t believe you would hurt your friend like that! Jade is just a baby! How would you like it if Robbie (that`s another friend of his of the same age) threw Anne (that`s his little sister of 20m old) with a toy against her head like that? How would u feel if somebody did it to u?` Then she said, `Think about what you just did and come look for me when u are ready to apologise.` He started crying when she closed the door, but hey 10 min later he came outside, gave JAde a big kiss on the head and ran off to the playground with Jade like a mad person in tow! Then later on he came to me and said, `I`m sorry that i hurted Jade. She is my Bestest best `Fliend.` I smiled at him and told him. `All forgiven` I was still pissed off, but the way his mother dealt with him made me believe that he is not that bad a kid, because his mother, i ca see, does her best to endorse good behavior in him. Now, what THAT mother did, was NOT IGNORE the damn behaviour because he was looking for attention, SHE ADDRESSED the situation, she made him attend on his behavior, because believe you me, other people are not gonna `ignore` your child when he`s going around physically and emotionally abusing their kids! How can u ignore a kids bad behavior (what, you think it will just go away?` You ignore a BABY`s unruly behavior when they are still trying to establish authority, because they don`t know yet who is boss. Any kid older than two should be made aware of their crappy behavior because they KNOW who is boss, unless, of course he knows HE holds that title. Lol, i hope i ARTICULATED myself well this time. What i`ve noticed is that it`s always the rudest kids on the playground who`s parents has got the fanciest rules for dicciplining. If your kid says something mean, how will he know it was wrong if you ignore it and don`t tell him it was wrong? Like, i said, that`s what u do with babies when u teach them who`s boss. Ok, i`m done with this discussion. Mwah to all.
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soon2be3 (818.8 days ago)
Before I read anyone`s responses, I want to answer this honestly without being persuaded. This happens with my nearly 4 year old (he`ll be 4 in January). Oh, he is not a meanie or a bully. He is a beautiful, creative, busy, and expressive child. We also have a 17 month old (cheeky was this directed at me?...lol). Anyway, when he gets frustrated or upset, he tries to find the thing to say that will get the most attention, fast. We have a lot of words in our house that we don`t use (I won`t tell you all because I already got teased from my fellow 17 monthers). But, this is definately a hurtful words, so we avoid it. If another 4 year old came up to us and said something similiar, I would know that he doesn`t really, he is just trying to get our attention for some reason. My response with Jake is to switch topics or to bring in some humor. If I try to argue with him about the use of the word in the heat of the moment, he only gets more stubborn. I won`t take offense with any of you if you think I am a horrible parent and can`t parent my children. I know I am not, my kids know I am not...and that is all that matters.
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smiling politely (819.1 days ago)
i would say to the kid, `hey, thats NOT a nice way to talk` if he said something unkind again, id repeat myself, loudly, while staring directly at his mother. if he didnt look like he was going to change his attitude, i would say (loudly again) `come on (insert name here) lets find some nice children to play with`. unfortunately, some people cant/wont discipline their children. and i mean discipline in the literal sense of the word, which means `to teach` rather than the punitive sense of the word. which means that some kids think they are the most important people in the world, and if they are in a bad mood, they have the right to take it out on those around them. if you see this kid being nasty to someone else, and its in a playgroup situation, i would talk to the person whos house it was in, or the playgroup co orientater. at 4, this child is definitely old enough to know what he is doing is wrong, and should face some consequences.
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MILITARY~MOMMY (819.2 days ago)
Oh man... When my daughter was about 3 months old, we were sitting in a food court and this 9 yr old kept looking over at us and finally said `Why is that ugly baby looking at me?` I told him because he was funny looking, and he ran off and told his dad, who looked at me, laughed and told his kid to sit down and eat his food. I did not handle it very well, I know that (speaking without thinking...). But I am grateful that the boys father did not march over and yell at me!
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nmck (819.3 days ago)
I have no problem correcting other peoples` kids when their behavior is bad. Perhaps it is the teacher in me that is used to correcting behavior all of the time in a diplomatic way. I would tell the kid that is not a nice thing to say and maybe he would have more friends if he was nicer to the kids around him. Then I would stand there with my baby and kind of hope his mom said something to me. I would be happy to answer to her. I would be honest, but diplomatic.
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5against1 (819.4 days ago)
lol. i think jadestar was just saying what we prolly all would be imagining in our heads as how we would want to react...from my experience, one of my kids is learning disabled. and when he was real little, i would hear kids make fun of the way he spoke. my reaction was to go over to the mom and tell her what a crap job she is doing as a parent that her 3 or 4 yr old already makes fun of disabilities. ive made a few moms cry. but, im short tempered when it comes to how ppl treat my kids. and i would ALWAYS go home n cry because i hated knowing how those words from these bullies hurt my kid...so, i wouldve found sum way to make sure the mom knows i was not happy about how my kid was being spoken to.
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jadestar (819.4 days ago)
ANd a last thought, u can aim at me all you want, but nobody`s rude 7 year old will talk to my child in ANY kind of way and i dont care if there is a new baby at home. MY child has just as much right to be aoround. So either people should teach their kids how to be nice or other people will do it FOR you. I dont want to fight, but i think what i wrote and what i meant and what YOU are taking ALL THE WAY to you heart is three different things. Jees, this day just doesnt seem to end. Cheekybee, to be honest, of course nobody would want to make big scandals around kids but i would definitely tell that mother that if her 4yr old (or 7 yr old,ug) is gonna make my child`s LIFE difficult, she better talk to the brat, because im not going to stand for it. End of story. PEACE, AGAIN.
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jadestar (819.4 days ago)
Oh my God, i forgot how `down to the word` people can be here. HAVE ANYBODY NOTICED the last line of my comment???? That should tell you something. SHOULD IT NOT??? NOW here is british or Amrican to you: OF COURSE i would not swear at the little fellow (read: little idiot), i would just tell him be nice (You little idiot) and then i would go home with my kid and tell her that if she goes missing in a few years, under his porch would be the first place where i`ll look. Just kidding, ladies, ya`ll don`t have to be so uptight. Just had a bad mood today, and u know this site is most of us venting place. Peace.
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adalynnsmommy(PINK) (819.4 days ago)
I would try to let it slide as best as you can. The child is only 4 and not worth getting yourself upset about. There may be some underlying problems that explain why he behaves the way he does. Perhaps a conversation with his mom could help if you approach it alongs the lines of `I`m concerned with how our children interact....your boy seems angry towards my son, is there anything I/we can do to help them play together more appropriately?...` I wouldn`t allow him to verbally attack your son, if the situation doesn`t resolve I would do everything to avoid this kid until my son was old enough to defend himself. ~As an aside sometimes boys respond better to a male stepping in, maybe a good idea to have your SO kindly tell this boy that his behaviour is unacceptable.
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3girls2008 (819.4 days ago)
I think its more sad then anything, first a 4 year old doesn`t really know the effects of his words. If we think back how many times did we scream `i hate you` at our parents because they made us mad? maybe in his family he hasn`t been taught how to express his feelings in an appropriate way? I know it has to be heartbreaking to hear something like that said to your baby but come on it was a 4 yr old not a teenager or adult.
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jadestar (819.4 days ago)
What a little idiot. Now you know who the school bully will be, and u most probably review the case of your missing cat. Might be buried under his sandbox. I would most definitely get irritated, most probably tell him to piss off (if his mother is not around) if she happens to be around i would say it loud enough so she can take me on. If she does then i`ll give her the two buttkicks i would so much wanna give her brat. Phew, sorry, havent had a good day.
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