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katrina n (817.6 days ago)
I don`t know your situation but maybe she is just worried for you or concerned. If you are in a good relationship and have been planning this then I would say that either she is jealous or worried that your friendship will change.

nmck (818 days ago)
I would overlook it if it was a one time thing. Nobody is perfect, and she may be jealous of you or sad that she will lose the friend she knows b/c babies do change people. If she continues to be negative about your pregnancy as it proceeds, I would reevaluate that friendship.

JMendez (818.3 days ago)
I guess it really depends for me on how I`m going to react. The only instance where I have been a bit of a cold hearted person is when my so called friend told me she`s pregnant with her 4th and she`s like on welfare and her husband only holds a job for a couple months at a time and I`m just like oh okay well you should use contraceptives and stuff. I dunno, that`s really the only instance I can think of where I have been like that.

SPUDinTHEoven (Tina) (818.3 days ago)
My best friend had a baby a lil over a year ago, and I just delivered 3 weeks ago. When I told her that I was pregnant, she was really excited, but then when I tried to talk to her about symptoms I was having, she was very rude and would say things like `that`s weird` or `that`s not normal` to things such as certain smells making me nauseous and feeling completely exhausted- normal things. We ended up getting in a big fight and didn`t talk for 3 days (we work together so that was a long time!) because she was very rude when I excitedly remarked that I bought some stretch mark cream. I was just so mad that she kept being so negative and make me doubt myself when I otherwise felt excited and happy. We ended up making up, and are still close friends but sadly our friendship doesn`t feel the same as it used to be. But, that could be because we both have young children and stay at home more as opposed to the past where we went to the bars a lot!

brandyv (818.3 days ago)
I would shrug it off if you can. A couple people I told didn`t give me the reaction I was hoping for and it did hurt my feelings, but oh well. My older sister actually took a couple weeks before she even said congratulations or anything to that extent. Her initial reaction was, wow, so you`re pregnant? and that`s it. When I tolder her, I was happy go lucky, energetic, told her I loved her and that she was going to be an aunt again. My older sister doesn`t really even talk to me now, so her loss I guess.

Amalthea (818.3 days ago)
when i put down the option of shes jealous..i should have elaborated.. that maybe shes jealous of my good fortune and she may be upset that i didnt share it with her sooner.. she was the first one to know when i was pg with my son...IDK..she was just so cold.... SIGH... oh well.. it may just be my hormones too... thanks for the support ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Amalthea (818.3 days ago)
she doenst like kids and doenst want any... that i know of..shes been super distant since i had my son

bluejeans (818.3 days ago)
I had this just happen to me. All I did was talk happily about my pregnancy and ignore them. I know the people I told had been trying a while but that doesnt mean that my pregnancy means anyless. So I would go about your buisness and not worry about her cos she sure as hell isnt concered about you....Congratulations

jadestar (818.4 days ago)
If there is one thing you should ALWAYS do when you`re friend tells you she is expecting is PRETEND. She doesn`t care WHAT issues u might be experiencing, SHE has got the good news and you have no right to piss on her parade just because your ovaries are not doing what they`re told. EVEN if you have to pretend, YOu DO it, you act all happy and you do the damn Dino dance for her if u have to, but there is NO EXCUSE for ruining her experiencing of sharing her Good News with people that she loves and cares about! I mean, how selfish must you be to ruin that beautiful moment for your friend? A true friend is someone who sings with you long after the party has ended. AND your party has ended (or u trying to get it started), but sing you will sing, because your friend NEEDS you to be happy for her! Thank you. People might say it`s just human to react like that if you are having difficulty to conceive but your friend is as fertile as a rabbit, but i say there is no excuse for not at least PRETENDING to be happy for your friend. A person who piss on other people`s parade because of their own misfortune must really get over themselves, jees, i would feel too embarressed to even be like that. Of course, i sometimes get that irriatingly scratchy feeling of jealousy in my tummy when my friend gets the cute guy , but Jeez, where are talking about someone becoming a MOTHER! What, must she freeze her eggs till you finally conceive? I'm sure she is a great friend, but if i were you i would start to wonder about how much she really cares about you and if she's friends with you for the right reasons, because i'd say a true friend will be over the moon for u regardless of her situation in the same department.Just my opinion.

SharaLynn (818.4 days ago)
Maybe she`s been trying for awhile with no results. If that`s the case, just try to give her some time to come to grips with it. I`ve been there.. It`s no fun. When you`ve been trying for so long and your friends get pregnant a week after starting to try, it kinda sucks. I remember when I found out that my bro and sis-in-law were expecting, I cried for a day straight and avoided them for the next 3. Silly, Childish... Yes. But emotions are a powerful thing. She might have her own issues to work through before she can be happy and excited for you, but she`ll get there. :-) Don`t give up on her just yet!



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