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ama-llama (809.4 days ago)
I agree Cantwait, and Ill go one step further- Of course its fun to give extra treats everyonce in a while, I strongly believe children should learn they are not the center of the Universe. As a teacher I see so many kids who think they are and its not a pleasant sight. That being said I dont really splurge excessively much on myself or my children, hubby and I are big savers :)
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smiling politely (814.4 days ago)
i would never put myself before my kids.
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3blessings (814.9 days ago)
Neither myself or my children go without anything. If they or I want something, we just buy it!
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brendalee (815 days ago)
No one goes without. I buy myself as well as my daughter whatever I want.
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Aiona (815.2 days ago)
This is an interesting question. Definitely, since becoming pregnant, my husband and I have made some significant sacrifices, in order to afford things that the baby needs. Once the baby is born, though, I don`t see us returning to any kind of life of luxury, either. It`s always going to be getting by with the skin of our teeth, I fear.
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bluejeans (815.3 days ago)
I give everything to my kids and I go with out all the time. But I am working on not doing that.They get spoilt all the timne and every now and then it has to be my turn.
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ibaheir2dathrone (815.3 days ago)
I`m with nugget and Mommyagain3...... Since the birth of our kids (11 and a half years ago) My hubby hasn`t had his hair done and I`ve had it done only 3 x`s. We cut our own hair. We wear cheap shoes and comfy not in style clothes. Neither one of us has more than 5 pairs of pants and maybe 10 shirts each. We don`t go on dates or fancy vacations. Our children don`t wear $150. pair of shoes or have the latest in toys or fashion. They do however have what they need and a lot of what they want. We would never think of passing them up to be selfish for ourselves. We gave that up when we had them. It`s no longer about us it`s all about them.
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nutnut (815.3 days ago)
meh i dont spend money on me. maybe if i could afford it and still provide my daughter with things then it wouldnt really make a bit of difference. neither myself or my daughter have designer name brand clothes. i just dont see the point in spending horrific amounts of money on things that will be outgrown. she gets things on a need basis, as well as on an earned basis along with special occassions. she doesnt get treats or big gifts just bc she wants them, and neither do i. what works for one family doesnt always work for another. my daughter will always come first. but that doesnt mean i wont pay the rent or miss an eletric bill or somethign just so she can have a new video game for no good reason. its moderation just like anything else. theres nothing wrong with treating the adults in the family if you can afford to. theres nothing wrong with sacraficing so your children can have either. just dont make your children spoiled in the process. they need to know they are not the only ones in the family and they need to learn to also think of others, and that nothing in life is just handed over. (if that makes sense) . i would never be selfish at my daughter`s expense and i want her to grow up not being selfish at others expenses either. how else will she learn good values and sacrafices for those we love if i dont lead by good example? family is about give and take. i hope that is what the point of the poll was. at least thats my understanding. its not that we as parents get everything we want at the expense of our children`s happiness. but when times are tough, it means chances are mom and dad will willingly go without for the kids, and hopefully those kids will see this and those values will then be passed on to them.=) i try to avoid over indulgance all around.
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EandTsmum (815.3 days ago)
I can see what you mean and we definitely don`t buy our kids every toy on the planet but for some reason I have a hard time spending money on myself. Also, being a one income family we don`t have a lot of spare cash to spend on us or the kids so it`s never really an issue anyway. I can totally see your point of view though.
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Stay@HomeZOOKeepa (815.3 days ago)
Wow ladies quite the discussion, I just think there needs to be another option up there. I will have to say after having children (as stated above): I never go without, and my children never go without,(now not to say my hubs doesn`t..hehehe j/k). All that matters to me is we are all happy, sometimes that means we go get great things. I think every mama needs alone time, and all parents need together time, and all children need complete and utterly fun time. Whether or not we spend money is reguardless.
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JMendez (815.3 days ago)
My hubby and I treat ourselves to things when we feel we want something special. My kids have all they need as far as material things go. But if I want some t-shirts or my husband wants a new pair of shoes, we`ll buy those things if we happen to have additional money. I agree with Third, I love my kids, but also like to have a little something for myself sometimes too.
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yorkc39 (815.3 days ago)
well what are you referring to then Third? I believe that children shouldn`t be going without no matter what. We were kids once too and our parents put us first when we were little (hopefully), and they need experiences to help them grow and learn new things. I suppose we must be confused without a real explanation of what types of things you treat you and ur hubby to and not your kids...
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mommyagain3 (815.4 days ago)
I agree with Nugget. I ALWAYS put the kids first! Just recentaly got some money to do things with, and made sure kids x-mas was done and bought them some new clothes before i even thought of me and hubby! Me and hubby needed some really bad, but waited until kids got theres, that is what being a parent is about, the kids rely on US!! I would never let them do without ANYTHING!!!
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