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vinessalynn (800.8 days ago)
I nursed them both at the same time which worked when they were hungry or tired. I also had the swings and put them in there so I could go to the bathroom, eat, shower, etc... My husband deployed right after they were born so I was alone with 5 kids under the age of 10, including the twins. It got so bad as far as the sleep depravation went that I was only getting a couple of hours a night and barely making it. Some ladies from my church came by and brought dinner a couple of nights a week so my older children could get a nice meal. After 3 months of basically no sleep due to constantly nursing and pumping milk for them someone spent the night and woke up with them so I could sleep a few hours. I still had to get up and pump but at least I got a few hours in a row. Looking back it would have been easier if I could let them cry, but it really broke my heart to hear them scream. The first 6 or 7 months were definitely the hardest for me, but that`s because mine were extremely small when they were born and didn`t have a lot of strength to nurse. It should get easier for you a lot sooner.

newmommyx2 (800.8 days ago)
thanks ladies! ya alot of times i feel like such a bad mom because i cant get to them both!alot of u say dont be alone but majority of the time its just us 3 so that makes it real hard!

Gigantor (800.9 days ago)
It all depends. If they are both crying because they are hungry, then I feed them...lol I have all sorts of `stations` in my house, like everyone else. Bouncy seats, swings, floor mats, crib with mobile and so on. I try to place them from one place to another. Or just put them on the blanket and sing to them, stretch their little legs back and forth. Sometimes I even pick them up at the same time. But if they both want to be held and everything else fails I put the bigger baby in an infant carrier and hold the other one. I still end up with one extra hand! Good luck!

Lou-Li-Ro (801 days ago)
I cry too.... Haha! No but sometimes I feel like/have felt like it!!! When they were tiny I tried not to be alone with them because my heart broke every time I was tending to one and the other would start crying too. It wrenches you apart, with two newborns crying for you. Horrible feeling of inadequacy!!! Now that they`re 19 months things are easier and they`re more like children than babies now.... well ,getting there!

Kris1209 (801.4 days ago)
First try not to be alone. Sometimes you are going to have to let one cry a little just alternate which one you get first as this will happen a lot I expect. I will let you know if I come up with anything better.

KR (801.4 days ago)
i have two that are 20 months apart. It depends on what they are crying about. If my son is upset because i wont give him something thats a cry i wouldnt give into anyway. If one child is hurt or hungry then i put my focus to that one. If they are both hurt etc then they have to wait untill i get to one at a time. Sometimes theres only so much we can do =)

EandTsmum (801.4 days ago)
I had 2 bouncers. I would put them both in bouncers and use my feet to bounce them or sit on the floor and use my hands. I had 2 swings too which I would use when nothing else worked. Try putting them in a double stroller and going for a walk. I remember trying to change one infant while rocking a bouncer with my foot because the other one was crying. Heck those first few weeks are hard. I promise it will get easier. I remember not be able to see how or when it would ever get better but it does and then it`s truly wonderful. Also, if you find yourself in a situation where you just can`t take anymore, it`s ok to go outside and have a few minutes to yourself. As long as the babies are safe they will be ok. Remember to ask for help if you need it. Join a twins group if you can. Only mothers of multiples can truly understand what you are going through.



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