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adrienneispregnant (792.8 days ago)
Thank everyone I have decided to talk to hubby and discuss with him that this is the last time he will make a decision like this without me. He and his Mom does not make decisions for my family Holidays and next year it will be just us. I am going to also tell her that she is more than welcome to come over christmas morning for brunch after we are done doing our family thing and bring over her gifts for baby to open. But I will not let MIL make my plans NO MORE for any holidays she has done this in the past so this the last draw for me and husband knows that I am serious this time. Thank you all for the input you guys really helped me out A LOT! Happy Holidays All!

KFinTX (792.9 days ago)
You could also take the, `Come one, come all` approach and invite your family. It would be a huge get-together, but if you know that you`re not going to get a quiet, private time alone, may as well have a large get-together and get all of Christmas finished in one big leap.

michaela (793.6 days ago)
this is my first christmas without FIL staying, can`t wait...speak up, tell him how you feel!

bellajenna (793.6 days ago)
talk to them both. i have a rule that its only us and later if the kids want people come over or we go to them. mornings are for YOUR family. IMO

bellajenna (793.6 days ago)
talk to them both. i have a rule that its only us and later if the kids want people come over or we go to them. mornings are for YOUR family. IMO

yo mama (793.6 days ago)
I would be upset and explain to hubby that IN THE FUTURE, he doesn`t get to make plans for the family without discussing them with you first. You`re a team and should always run everything pass each other before making commitments. With that said, I wouldn`t un-invite the MIL. She is also the grandma. I think that in the long run you`ll feel better by being a good hostess. I have to make these types of decisions all the time and trust me, it`s best to pick your battles. (I would try to have her come by for brunch though and avoid having her stay the night. I do think that is a bit much.) I know that I`m all over the place with this post but... life is just that complicated, isn`t it?

preggo04 (793.6 days ago)
You should talk to your husband. Unfortunatly since he`s already invited her there`s not much that can be done. If he changes plans on her that would be hurtful and cause bad feelings between you and her. But he needs to know how you feel so he doesn`t make such a decision like that without talking to you first again.

dsday19 (793.7 days ago)
I completely understand. I lived with my MIL my sons first x-mas. Broke my heart that it was our first christmas with our son and as husband and wife and we didn`t get to start any traditions of our own. She always had to be included. This year we finally have our own place and she mentioned to my DH how she would like to watch our son open presents xmas morning. My poor DH already knew there was no way. We are going over to her house after breaksfast and our gifts to do mommoms presents. She will see him open gifts then.

mdbabyno1 (793.8 days ago)
I would put my foot down now!!! Christmas morning is just for our immediately family and the rest of the day is for the rest of the family. If your MIL thinks it is ok this year, she will expect to do it every year. Maybe you could suggests making a Christmas Eve dinner and having her over(and then leaving) and then visiting again on Christmas day. Good luck!

adrienneispregnant (793.8 days ago)
Thank you all for the comments they really helped me out a lot. My MIL and are not close at all since she made a comment about my husband ex girlfriend who she is close with said that she wishes she would have had a baby by him. “What kind of MIL says that” Well that comment right there started our relationship off how it is now. She also does not have a life and her life revolves around her son and my baby. She is very intrusive anyways and this was sort of the last draw for me. I am going to talk to my husband and if he is in agreeance we will visit her later that day if not I will make sure and tell husband that this is the last year for this especially since we have another little one on the way and he will be 6 months for Christmas. Thank you all for input and enjoy your holidays!

domsmom2009 (793.8 days ago)
Thats why I talked to him about it back in September lol so I wouldn`t have this issue.... but just talk to him. men tend to not see things the way we do when it comes to there mothers and x-mas with just the `family`. I`m sure he`ll understand... try to compromise. we did. we told his family they were more then welcome to come the night of the 25th but anytime b4 that no. that we just wanted to be the 3 of us.

hotpotaaaaato (793.8 days ago)
I saw you have a almost 1 year old... I PERSONALLY would also be upset, but let it go this year because 1. I wouldn`t want to start any fights with MIL, and 2.really... she won`t remember it much. BUT, make sure hubby knows for next year. Last year I had to put my foot down with my family also saying Christmas morning is for our immediate family ONLY and we can get together with them either Christmas Eve or later on Christmas day. Good luck with whatever you do! I think it`s great to want immediate family only, and start your own traditions. =)

chevychic96 (793.8 days ago)
Oh my! I would be very upset....but I am not very fond of my MIL. Def talk with the hubby about it!

hannahe (793.8 days ago)
that is kinda annoying, i understand you wanting it to be just your family and i understand the grandma wanting to not miss a thing. so it puts your husband in a tough position not wanting to upset his wife or his mom. i would talk to him about what you feel and if he agrees with you he can tell his mom that either she can come over to see the baby open grandma`s presents or you can go over to her house later and baby can open grandma`s gifts there. that way she can still see your baby open some things but it wont be as intrusive...thats just my opinion, its what we do as my family and my inlaws live nearby, we open our gifts at home when we wake up then we go for breakfast and more gifts at my parent then we go to the inlaws in the afternoon for yet more presents. it works for us hopefully you can figure something out



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