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carolinababy1 (788.2 days ago)
I co slept off and on. My son slept in his bassinet right beside my bed for the first 3 months. If he didnt go right back to sleep after nursing in the middle of the night, then he slept in the bed with me and hubby. At 3 months he went into his crib in his own room but the night feedings tired me out so he would end up in the bed with us so that I wouldn`t have to run in the room to get him for a feeding. After I stopped nursing at 5 months, he slept in his cribs most nights all night long. Then it got too hot upstairs so we all slept together downstairs in the living room. He`s 15 almost 16 months now and he`s been sleeping by himself for a month and a half now. He is so easy though. My sister had both of her kids in bed with her. The oldest finally started sleeping in his room 6 months ago (he just turned 6). The 2 year old is still in there

nmck (788.8 days ago)
My son slept in a bassinet at the beginning. When my husband got up in the morning, the baby came into bed with me. Or sometimes I would sleep in the recliner for the last part of the night with him. That only lasted a few months, and I made my choices based on whatever I could do for both of us to get a little more sleep. I am a very light sleeper and could not have the baby in bed with me all night b/c I would not get any sleep at all, and that would make me a horribly cranky mother! My son is 20 months old and really loves his crib. He asks in the daytime to get in it to play.

elleanasmama (789.2 days ago)
my daughter slept with me until she was about 3 months old. then she slept in her crib. i am not against co-sleeping at all,but luckily my daughter sleeps well on her own. one time i took a nap with her in bed and she rolled right off and ever since theni have been terrified of leaving her on any elevated surface except her crib.another things is i know awomen who has 3 children 15 12 and 6. the oldest(girl) stopped sleeping in their bed at 10 the midlle (boy) at 12 and the youngest boy is still sleeping in her bed. so ive seen the hell some parents go through over it

california-mom (789.2 days ago)
I coslept/sleep with all 3. First til she was 2, 2nd til he was 18 months. Never had problems transitioning into their own bed. I love my babies and feel more comfortable sleeping with them right by me. Plus its easier to nurse and go back to sleep. That just works for us.

smiling politely (789.3 days ago)
because its normal, natural, facilitates breastfeeding, mother and baby get more sleep if they dont have to get up and walk around the house, as long as safety measures are in place, its the best place for babies, IMO

KateandJacksMama (789.3 days ago)
My 19 month old co-sleeps with my husband and I and has been since she was 6 months old. For her first 6 months she was in a pack in play next to my bed then when it was time to transition her to her own room we had major issues and found that her sleeping in our bed was the way that each one of us got the best night of sleep. She naps all by herself during the day in my bed and she goes to sleep at around 7 at night and sleeps in the bed by herself until my husband and I go up. We have railings on the side of the bed so she doesn`t roll off and we watch her through a video monitor while we are downstairs. My husband and I are very close and our relationship does not suffer one bit due to her sleeping in our bed. Like I said when she falls asleep at night we have the entire downstairs to ourselves, yet we can safely see that she is ok through the video monitor. When we do go up and go to sleep we all sleep great in our king size bed and wake up refreshed and happy in the morning. Definitely no problems so far and I highly doubt she will want to sleep with us as a teenager so its not like I will have a child in my bed forever. I think each family needs to do what works best for them and no one should care what anyone else does as long as it is done safely. I love this site but I truly can`t believe how judgemental some of you ladies are. Geeeeesh just worry about your own family and find something positive to with your time and energy rather than spend it judging and bashing others on their parenting.

domsmom2009 (789.3 days ago)
holly debate on here! if you co-sleep, it`s your choice, if you don`t it`s your choice. I did have my son in our room in his own bassinet for the first 2-3 months and then he went in his own crib in his own room. I had a monitor on and if he cried, I would go get him and tend to his needs. I don`t see how theres a wrong way and a right way to this. it`s what works best for YOU and YOUR child. if my son would of been in our bed, he would most likely of suffocated. my SO rolls over on ME sometimes so this was the safest way for us. I just wish people would remember that no matter how much we disagree on stuff, we still have 1 thing in common... we`re all mothers and we all want whats best for OUR child. who`s to say that what we`re doing is the `wrong` thing to do. she asked for an opinion... not for people to bash eachother back and forth. she asked us what we did and why. she didn`t ask why it was better then another thing...

Love.Nora (789.3 days ago)
Tuesday: I feel your independence sentence is the opposite way around for me. Guess we just all have our own beliefs. I am suprised how many of us have such diffrent opinions and yet we are all out for the same goals :D

andriette and christians mummy liz (789.3 days ago)
id say it depends on the temprement of the baby.Andriette slept alone for the first month and she was fine next to our bed.Then when we went on holiday we accidently started to co sleep i never planned on it.After that it was a living nightmare to get her to even nap on her own(i had to hold her in my arms at all times even at night)let alone sleep at night alone.My experience was lovely to have had her in bed with us,but at ten months it got so hard with her sleeping in my arms(literlary) and me having to switch sides lifting a 20lb baby in my sleep was just too much,she kicked me alot too and i couldt just put her down in the bed alone,my husband wouldve rolled on her.One day out of the blue i just put her in her crib in her own room(shes a light sleeper so crib in our room is out of the question) on her tummy and bam she slept,all of my attempts before that was realy bad,she would scream till she threw up and got blue around her lips(thats only 10 minute screams) so it was heartless to me and she would sleep only for an hour and then scream again.So i just said to myself she will let me know when shes ready and she did,she kicked me and pulled away from me and now at 11 months she sleep in her crib better than she slept with me,for 10-12 hours and i dont wake up with sore arm muscles any more.For me it wasnt the best thing just coz my baby refused to sleep alone even for naps so it didnt work,for others sure if it works no probs.My next baby wont be co slept at all.Id say let stop judging each other and support each other as moms.Its like ppl thinks im a bad mom for only putting my baby to sleep at 11pm,its my baby so its my decision.:-)

lauraluvbug (789.3 days ago)
GAH! Everyone has their own opinion about this! As do they everything....cosleeping yes no.... blahblah.... bottom line is be careful if you do! all too often babies are harmed this way... and eventually have to sleep on their own anyways right?

nutnut (789.3 days ago)
i choose to have baby in a bedside basinet, then the crib in my room. ill be doing the same with this one too. im afraid of rolling over or the baby falling out which is pretty much why i used the beside basinet. its alot easier imo to have baby right next to you the first month or so. it was for me. i love my daughter sleeping with me even though she is 7 bc daddy drives truck over the road, and it makes her feel more secure. we dont go to bed at the same time, she has her bedtime, but ill let her sleep with me if she wants. im sure sooner or later she wont want to. she has her own bed and its there. some nights she chooses to sleep in her own room. i dont force her either way. when daddy is home, she sleeps in her own room just fine. to each their own =))

nutnut (789.3 days ago)
i choose to have baby in a bedside basinet, then the crib in my room. ill be doing the same with this one too. im afraid of rolling over or the baby falling out which is pretty much why i used the beside basinet. its alot easier imo to have baby right next to you the first month or so. it was for me. i love my daughter sleeping with me even though she is 7 bc daddy drives truck over the road, and it makes her feel more secure. we dont go to bed at the same time, she has her bedtime, but ill let her sleep with me if she wants. im sure sooner or later she wont want to. she has her own bed and its there. some nights she chooses to sleep in her own room. i dont force her either way. when daddy is home, she sleeps in her own room just fine. to each their own =))

3rdbabyat38 (789.4 days ago)
Wow, Hot topic... everyone thinks their way is the RIGHT way... Just like other things in life and raising babies that turn in to toddlers, kids, preteens, teens and eventually adults... these things pass very quickly. If everyone involved is ok with the choice they are making to co-s

3rdbabyat38 (789.4 days ago)
Wow, Hot topic... everyone thinks their way is the RIGHT way... Just like other things in life and raising babies that turn in to toddlers, kids, preteens, teens and eventually adults... these things pass very quickly. If everyone involved is ok with the choice they are making to co-sleep or not then it is best for THEIR family. Personally, I have a 12 year old and 9 year old... WE DON`T CO-SLEEP ANYMORE... We haven`t in a long time. We loved that part of parenting and it wasn`t GIVING IN because it is where we chose for our children to sleep. At one point we had a crib in the master bedroom, then we converted it to a beside the bed co-sleeper... at one point we had wall to wall bed with a kingsize bed and a twin on one wall. It worked for us and it was done with safety and comfort for all in mind. Yes sometimes to get alone time the parents have to be creative, we did have other bedrooms though... We didn`t go to bed when they did we just shared a room and bed when we finally settled down for the night. My daughters are happy and healthy in their own rooms for quite a while now and I wouldn`t change what we did for the world...

juels101 (789.4 days ago)
Holy Comments Batman...... I didnt choose to because I find that time very special with my husband, and after all day with them I want my own time, a place where all my stuff is, where grownups talk, and I can play with MY things LOL.

Str8 As (789.4 days ago)
I co-sleep because I want to, I breastfeed (it is easier) and because I wake up many times a night to check on them. It was not that hard for them to trasition. It would have went more smoothly, but I didn`t want to let go!

Lookalike (789.4 days ago)
I would really like to co sleep with my son but my husband is leathal with his elbows and frequently has night terrors where he flails his arms and hits me or shouts at me so I can`t imagine what would happen to our poor little baby.

My5Babies:) (789.4 days ago)
If you are not a cosleeper, how do you know that transitioning to a different bed would be an issue??

Love.Nora (789.4 days ago)
Why are my posts not posting :S try this again grr.. To each their own. I am sure things i say get taken the wrong way but its hard to be blunt in words and have everyone take it the same way as it is actually being intended. None the less I just like hearing others experiences and opinions. To each their own and in the end we can all agree to disagree <3 I said it the way I did because I see so many with sleeping problems that I feel if nipped in the butt early could of been avoided. Thats my opinion but all kids are diffrent as well and some may not take to it as well as others.

rosye13 (789.4 days ago)
Oh, and just for future reference. The reason that hopefully3 found you judgemental was not due to your opinion on the matter, but probably due to your `hahaha`s` and `booo`s`. Some intelligent and mature people could take offense to that.

abbyquiet (789.4 days ago)
co-sleeping doesn`t always cause problems, i co-slept with my son till he was 10 months old, of course for that whole time we were sharing a room and my husband was in school not with us, so it was my son and i the entire time. i transitioned him when he crawled off the bed, and he was happy as pie after he learned how to put himself asleep, and sleep all night. he slept better and longer. it didn`t take long. i see absolutely 0 problems there. btw we didn`t stop because my husband came back, we stoppoed because he was ready. it was never my intention to co-sleep, it just happened i was taking care of our child by myself for most of the first year of his life and needed some sleep. it`s not for everyone, however it worked for us, and i have no doubts.

Love.Nora (789.4 days ago)
Yo Mamma, thats a bit harsh! I dont think they are losers at all they are just misguided. I dont think all of these couples had kids too young or are in love any less than you and I (in most cases) The stress from having problems at home can hurt relationships between parents. Not just kicking out of bed to have sex, parents need space too and I think that my room is a place for the parents to have privacy. Everyone has their own views on how to raise kids even if they have never had any, it takes time to get on the same page in some situations and I dont think its fair to down parents who do not have it that easy off in the get go. In the end if you can learn from your mistakes then it will make life that much easier :D

hopefully3 (789.4 days ago)
I co slept only with my first born. And as with most people occasionally have my childen sleep in my bed for various reasons. As far as my son goes he was a very collicky baby and cried literally for hours and hours at a time. I found that he slept very well with me and I had no problem transitioning him into his crib full time. My daughter actually went straight into her bed that was in our room and was actually the complete opposite and only slept well when she was alone in her own bed.

hopefully3 (789.4 days ago)
I co slept only with my first born. And as with most people occasionally have my childen sleep in my bed for various reasons. As far as my son goes he was a very collicky baby and cried literally for hours and hours at a time. I found that he slept very well with me and I had no problem transitioning him into his crib full time. My daughter actually went straight into her bed that was in our room and was actually the complete opposite and only slept well when she was alone in her own bed.

hopefully3 (789.4 days ago)
Fgejzc- you come off highly judgmental. To each his own. If a parent choses to co sleep its their choice they shouldn`t be subject to judgement.

hopefully3 (789.4 days ago)
Fgejzc- you come off highly judgmental. To each his own. If a parent choses to co sleep its their choice they shouldn`t be subject to judgement.

rosye13 (789.4 days ago)
fgejzc - Wow. I should just leave it at that. But I will say that for us it was a choice, I mean, if you consider what we did co sleeping (see below comment if you want more info). Anyway, we chose not to put her in her crib when we first brought her home because we didn`t feel she (or we for that matter) were ready for that. When we did a couple of weeks ago, we felt that everyone was ready (choice) and there was no crying or screaming to listen to, because we were right. She was ready (this is the same thing we did with our first baby). She sleeps through the night in her crib every night (she`s 3 months). But maybe you were only referring to people who are transitioning older children to a crib? I.E. Throwing temper tantrums because they don`t want to go to bed? But most people who choose to co sleep do start with newborns . . . I guess I`m not sure what you mean.

My5Babies:) (789.4 days ago)
`Less yelling, screaming and crying to listen to, so they give in` There isn`t any `giving in`, it is a choice, it is as simple as breast or bottle feeding. I wake up in the morning refreshed and bright, just like the baby does. There is no issues with crying or stumbling aroung in the dark. that is the beautiful thing about it. it makes for a very happy mama and baby.

lovemybabies28 (789.4 days ago)
My 1st baby never co slept with us, but after having my son i had complications with my c section incision, it got infected for 3 months and it woulnt close and i was in sooo much pain.So my son co slept with us because it was easier for us to take care of him.By the time i healed it was too late for him to be on his own crib.

MercyMe (789.4 days ago)
co-slept for nursing..when crib transition came,no problems at all..with 3 kids...also, have a king size bed, a bit easier in that case.

hillaryandmikesbaby (789.4 days ago)
i co-slept for the first month because she simply did not want to sleep by herself. So instead of her crying it out and feeling alone and me crying because i was so tired I let her sleep with me. When she was a month old we started putting her in her cradle during day time naps and within 2 days she slept the whole night through by herself. Usually around 6-7am she starts to get fussy and i will bring her into bed with me and she will sleep another 2 hours.

MelissaJoanne (789.4 days ago)
It`s a somewhat argumentative way to ask a question, but... we co-sleep because we all get the best sleep that way, and it`s easiest for breastfeeding. My daughter is far from `scared of her own independence`, and that`s definitely not the point of sharing a bed. Actually she`s sleeping there right now without me. I have a lovely marriage, a happy secure child, and a sleeping arrangement that works best for our family. Additionally, my parents co-slept with me, and both of my older brothers (individually) for several years, my bro + sis-in-law co-slept with their three boys, as well as several other examples from my extended family, and we`re all happy independent people without sleeping problems. Many cultures co-sleep as the norm, and don`t have issues sleeping on their own when they`re older. `Supernanny` will doubtfully show examples of the many families who are problem-free co-sleepers, as it`s not really the point of the show. My daughter will be getting her own bed soon, not because I have any desire to kick her out of mine, but because she seems ready to start sleeping on her own more often and I think she`ll enjoy having a little more room to sprawl out. I`ll probably still bring her into my bed if she wakes up to nurse though.

My5Babies:) (789.4 days ago)
I nurse my daughter (17 months old) to sleep at 8-9 pm, and I put her in our bed. I go to bed at around 11-12 o`clock. My husband works days and nights, so every other week he isn`t even in bed with us. It isn`t that hard to find a spot for `Mommy and daddy` time, like I said he isn`t in bed half the time, anyways. It keeps it spicy not doing it in bed ALL the time. We have been together for 13 years....we have no issues with cosleeping.

armymom (789.4 days ago)
My son went into a crib from day 1 and I would go to him when he woke up during the night. I chose NOT to cosleep because I am a DEEP sleeper and it scared me to even try and because my son is a wild sleeper... he tosses and turns ALL night and it would be impossible to have him sleep peacefully between DH and I. lol.. I`m very happy with my decision not to co sleep and will do the same with my future children. I don`t see where parents find time for sex or each other when they co sleep. If DH and I had to put more effort into looking for a place to `do it` then it would never happen.. Plus, do parents that co sleep go to bed the same time as their child? My son goes to bed at 8-9pm.. there`s no way I`d be ready for bed that early. I stay up till midnight. `ME` time is very important to me. I love my son to death but co-sleeping in my house is just not an option.

yo mama (789.5 days ago)
I think it`s sad that people have babies and then want them to be independent right from the start. Some people have a hard time transitioning their children, some don`t. Some people let their children cry in bed when their infants (so they don't cry later). Now that makes sense. The parents on Supernanny are losers. They`re often not a team, not in love, and had too many children when they were too young. These parents are not the spokespeople for how to properly do anything when it comes to parenting. My baby transitioned JUST FINE because WE were ready -- I wasn`t kicking her out of my bed because I wanted to go out at night or have sex. That's just lame/selfish/immature. Our bed is for our family. AND WE LOVE IT THAT WAY...

Stay@HomeZOOKeepa (789.5 days ago)
I did cosleep with DD..not my other two! After not being able to get my DD to take naps without me I said this is not going to happen again! It wasn`t the transition to big bed I had a problem with...my DD hasn`t taken naps (other than long car rides) since 6months old unless I was in there with her! So my boys started sleeping in thier cribs after a bassinet...laid them down for naps and bedtime before they were sleeping and now I have the two best nappers and sleepers ever!

Austin::and::Alexs::Momma (789.5 days ago)
I co-slept with my oldest and had a very hard time getting him into his own bed, not to mention his own room! He actually slept in his own bed in our room for years before moving to his own room! With our youngest, I co slept the first couple months, but everyone was so uncomfortable, including baby, so we just put him in his own bed and now I don`t have to worry about the transistion later on, which will be a lot easier! (:

ilovemy2littleprinces (789.5 days ago)
not sure why but i know i tried for a couple nights, i couldn`t sleep i was to obsessed with making sure he was okay and making sure my hubs didn`t roll on him. thankfully he never had a problem sleeping in his crib. but sometimes when hes sick and my hubs goes to work early i put him in our bed..to each their own but i couldn`t and won`t ever do it

MrCheeks23 (789.5 days ago)
i co slept with my son till he was 10 months old...moved him to his own bed out of the blue one night...and he slept even better and longer then when he would sleep with me. he has been in his own bed since. i had NO problems what so ever :)

5against1 (789.5 days ago)
Im now co-sleeping with #5. And ive NEVER had a problem to transitioning them to their own bed, usually at aound age 2-2.5.

Amalthea (789.5 days ago)
I co slept with my son til he was 15 months old... and it only took a week to transition him to his bed... and it wasnt that bad.. he only cried a few nights for about 2 to 10 mins..then went to sleep... he now loves his bed and runs to it when hes tired... and sleeps like a DREAM... all nite and doenst make a peep at all... i dont think co sleeping is a bad thing... it lets your lil one know you are there for them and makes you more attached and that helps to create a great bond which in turn lets them be more independant .... i firmly believe in attachment parenting.. and will do it again with any future children...

jessberr31 (789.5 days ago)
HotP, I think if your friend put her kids in their own rooms and put up with the crying and objections everyone would be better off. When something like co-sleeping is interfering with a persons life, ex: can`t go out at night, then there are authority issues or some kind of issues. I wish I would let my KIDS tell ME where they are going to sleep! Ha! I`m the boss, lol!

hotpotaaaaato (789.5 days ago)
Oh and my friend who sleeps with her family.... she told me last night she can`t go out with her husband at night now... her kids freak out that they aren`t in bed with them. Proves your point!

jessberr31 (789.5 days ago)
I co-slept in the same bed with my first 3 until about age 2. Did`t really have any problems putting them in their own beds when I was ready to. I only co-slept with my lo now for the first 3/4 mo then he went into his crib in my room. Now he won`t sleep w/ me at all. When he`s in my bed its playtime! But all my kids are very independent. I think that the kind of problems you see on Supenanny go deeper than just co-sleeping. What I see when I watch Supernanny is people who have problems telling their kids what to do and enforcing it. A lot of the parents I see on there give in to their kids so they don`t have to put up with the crying. Some people just need to realize they are the parent and not the kids! That my opinion anyways.

hotpotaaaaato (789.5 days ago)
I`m a breastfeeder, still BFing my 14 month old, and yet I`m totally against co-sleeping. I sleep HORRIBLY when one of our girls is in our bed... and for my own sanity it just made so much more sense to have them in their own crib from early on. I did have a bassinet next to the bed for the first 6 weeks, but then crib. I have a friend who her whole family of 4 sleeps in their bed together.... I think it`s strange. To each their own, but I`m against it too!

rosye13 (789.5 days ago)
I am actually not a `co sleeper` per say. My husband and I do take turns with the newborn in the recliner for the first couple of months though. We fear bringing a newborn into our bed because he is a heavy sleeper and we wouldn`t want him to roll over and squish them! I find that when a newborn first comes home, they have been used to being near warmth, a heartbeat, a certain smell. Putting them in a dark, silent room can be difficult for them. We feel we are just facilitating the transition from womb to life on their own outside of the womb. So we take a couple of months for sleeping close where they still feel the warmth and hear the heartbeat and the rhythm of breathing. When we feel they are ready, usually around 3 months, we move them into their own bed. But I can definitely understand why people feel that co sleeping is important. Both to help in the transition and to strengthen the bond of parent and child. Although, I think learning to put themselves to sleep eventually becomes important, I also cherish the close bond that the first couple of months of sleeping together gives us.

My5Babies:) (789.5 days ago)
`Scared of their own independance`....has nothing to do with co sleeping. I co slept with 2 of mine that are now 9 and 3...they are by far the MOST independant kids I have. My 7 year old, who I didn`t sleep with had health issues and on iv supplemental fluids for months at home is my most dependant and insecure child. There was no hassle for me to transition them to their toddler beds, it was explaining and reexplaining why it was time for them to sleep on thier own. There is no strain on my marriage, either due to cosleeping. Also I am a long term breastfeeder. I am just curious, if you breasfed?

My5Babies:) (789.5 days ago)
I cosleep. There was not any trouble getting them to sleep on thier own. i move mine to thier own beds around the age of 2. I currently am nursing and cosleeping with my 17 month old. It is what works for us. As far as `mommy and daddy time`, which I am sure will get brought up...there are other rooms in the house, it doesn`t have to be in bed.;)

Love.Nora (789.5 days ago)
I never co-slept with my son ever and in the end I didnt have to go through the hastle of trying to transition him from my bed to his own. I watch alot of Supernannny etc and never do I see anyone say it is a positive way for putting your child to bed. I feel that your bed is for you and your hubby to share and with a child in there it could put a strain on the relationship. I love my son alot but I do not want to baby him so much that he is scared of his own independance so early on.



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